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December 3rd, 2009, 05:34 PM
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... how long you were TTC? A family member asked me over Thanksgiving since we ddint tell anyone we were but i wasnt sure what to answer... First off i prefer to keep those kinds of things private, which is obviously why we didnt tell anyone in the first place second i wasnt exactly sure what to tell them because we also had a loss that no one knows about... so my choices were

6 months (the total time), 4 months (the time it took the first time) or two months, (the time it took after our loss).

I think my actual response was just a general dodging of the question but i've been wondering if i should have just answered honestly (and if i did which should i have told them) or if you would have answered generally like i did?
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December 3rd, 2009, 06:16 PM
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People don't exactly ask me how long....they mainly ask "were ya'll trying?" and I always tell them yes. I think I did tell one person it had took us....awhile, but I didn't exactly say how long.
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December 3rd, 2009, 07:08 PM
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Everyone pretty much knows how long and how we became pregnant - I was pretty open about everything.
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December 3rd, 2009, 08:38 PM
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I don't think I have actually been asked that question, but if I was I would answer honestly.

In your situation I would just say six months, that is a normal time to conceive and you don't have to tell about your loss, since that is something that is personal
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December 4th, 2009, 04:47 AM
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No one asked us because I m/c a month after our wedding and we got pregnancy a few months later (after I got 1 AF).

A general answer is all people really need.
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December 4th, 2009, 08:01 AM
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Nobody has asked me how long we were trying. Most people don't even ask us whether we were trying. I ended up telling my family how long it had been and also about my m/c, but i wouldn't feel comfortable with telling most people. If i was asked the question you were asked, i guess my answer would just depend on who it was and how close i was to them.
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December 4th, 2009, 10:28 AM
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I would just say 6 months, unless you are close to the person and want to share about your loss. Most people are fine with a general answer.
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December 5th, 2009, 04:09 AM
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We were ttc 8 months, and got married 6 weeks before my bfp, so generally they think we were quick and lucky. When I say 8 months you can see them thinking I meant weeks!!

I would just say about 6 months and then if they ask more say more.
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December 5th, 2009, 04:39 AM
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If you aren't comfortable answering the questions, then don't! Just say, "well, we were trying" or "we have always wanted children" or some general line like that.

So for me, I got (and still get) asked that question a ton since no one new we were TTC. I flat out told them it took over a year, and then if they continue to ask questions, I give them some details about infertility. I like being able to educate other people so maybe they won't keep bugging thier newly married friends "when you are going to have a baby?" Haha
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