Scale of 1-10

Right now, we are about a 3. We are not doing it nearly enough, and a lot of it is b/c Jack is still sleeping in our room. The rest of it is b/c my vagina is like a desert. And since it is infrequent, it is also like losing my virginity every time. The last time we dtd, I felt like I was being speared by a catctus. I still O'ed, but still!

By the way, this post will have some TMI in it.

[Celry]

I am cracking up My vagina is a desert also. You've gotta use lube! As long as I have some lube I'm fine. I guess I shouldn't say fine. It's still a bit painful at times, but it's getting better. I have bad sex for the past year, so it's nice to finally be getting my sex drive back and to actually enjoy it and not just let DH go at me since I feel bad for him. Once he asked me if I liked something. It hurt so bad that I just busted out laughing. I would rate it at a 5 just because we aren't having it enough and it's not great yet, but it's getting there. We moved the girls out of our room a few weeks ago and that made our sex life a lot better.

When I use lube, it just stings even more. Maybe I am not using enough?

I was telling my mom about how Jack will be moving into his room this week, and DH did a happy dance.

[ca_dawson]

I think I'll have to go with a 5. Its great when it happens, but its few and far between. Honestly I think having pg sex freaks DH out, especially now that I'm getting bigger and baby is moving all over. I think we're getting to the ackward pg sex stage.... A little OT, but I actually had a dream the other night that DH didn't want to have sex with me because he was gay! Yep...after telling him about my dream he sure "showed me" that he wasn't! Hmm, maybe that's the trick?!

[xanada101]

HAHAHAHA Michelle! Man we need you around more often!

I rate ours a 5.... it is soooo good when we have it, but we don't have it often.... oh and I become the niagra falls of BM too.

Michelle, maybe try a different brand of lube

[LindsLuvsSi]

i'll have to go with a 4. we don't do it enough and it's not always the best. i don't always o so that makes it hard and ruins the moment, but when i do it usually happens way too soon. so it's been difficult!

[Banned-Jaylas_Mommy]

id say 7 over here. it could be better. but i got af on thanksgiving day and spotted until 2 saturdays ago when i got af back and now she finally going away. but we still have managed to do it quite a bit. or we find other ways. but i will say my girly bits are completely good to go! if only i could quite bleeding//spotting!

[lttle_one]

Um, 0. But for real, we were probably at a 5 before the recent situation. We definitely weren't doing it enough. I was always so tired. And where I am in my cycle has always greatly affected how much I enjoy DTD, but it seems it's even moreso now to where I can't really get into it if I'm not near ovulation. I miss pg sex, it was the best!!

[Lyz]

I'd say a 5 too. It took me 8 weeks to heal right! We tried around 6.5 weeks and I was in tears, so after my dr appt (she used silver nitrate) I had to wait another week and then I was good to go! It was still a bit uncomfortable but apparently that's to be expected. Then, of course, I got AF 2 days after that. I'm just now coming off it so hopefully we'll get back into the swing of things

[Jennifer-Jacob's Mommy]

Right now we are about a 7...

I have NO SEX DRIVE ... I feel so bad about it cause I rather not do it at all the last few weeks ( im almost 25 weeks). i think a lot of it is the weight I have gained, made me self consious, even tho DH is trying to be sweet and saying im just as beautiful,etc lol... right now we do it every 3rd night..and I only go along with it for the sake of him, but lately he seems to say its gettin more difficult with my stomach!!...

do anyone else, have no sex drive?

[Celry]

I had no sex drive while prego. I was glad when my doctor put me on pelvic rest and i had a good reason to not have it.

[Lo_and_Behold]

I had zero drive when I was pg & I think it's even less so now because now I'm tired from the baby & working & running a house. I'd rate our's at a 0/1. It's pretty sad. Not only is Allie still in our room, but she's in our bed! We love cosleeping but it does NOT make for a good sex life! We have agreed to wait until after she gets the tubes in her ears (Jan 19th) & is hopefully sleeping better at night to move her into her room. The other night I mustered up what little interest I could & initiated with DH (in another room) & we were barely getting into it when Allie woke up. I had a brief time over the summer where I wanted it all day everyday but after 3 weeks that was gone & we've dtd about 3 times since. I feel awful because DH works hard & that should be the least I could do (plus he tends to get nasty when we don't do it at least a couple of times a month) but I just don't enjoy it at all . I was actually relieved when Allie woke up the other night because I was just going through the motions.

[amazing_love]

I'd say 5 or 6. It doesn't happen as often as it used to but we're both okay with this. We're also getting to that stage where it's going to become uncomfortable (at least in our favorite position) because my belly is getting bigger. I think our sex life might start lacking a little more once we have to be more creative.

[Jodi0804]

Being we haven't DTD since the day before I delivered right now its a 0. I'm a little over 3 weeks pp and had an OB appt today. He said we are good to go if I feel ready but he recommends waiting the 6 weeks. With the lack of sleep neither one of us are quite ready yet anyways. I'm also nervous about the small tear I had so we'll see how it all goes when we decide to give it a go!

[stlgirl]

Ugh. A 1? We've had sex less than 10 times during my ENTIRE pregnancy (both have low drive) and I don't see it getting any better after baby is born.

[NortheastWifey]

Lol!! Michelle I have to say ditto to everything you said. Maybe I need a different lube, too. I've been hesitant to DTD more because it's been no fun.

[~* Liss *~]

Um - it's a 0 for me! I think DH is afraid to touch me... not that he'll get me PG again but because of the spotting I had. I had spotting for the 1st 2 weeks, and then a random spot at 12 weeks and another random at 17 weeks. I think DH is scared... I haven't initiated that much - but when I have he isn't in the mood.

[courtneytcu98]

Originally Posted by Lo_and_Behold

I feel awful because DH works hard & that should be the least I could do (plus he tends to get nasty when we don't do it at least a couple of times a month)

Sigh. I'm the same boat as Melissa, only I REALLY enjoy it but find I have no drive to initiate and have to be coerced into it. So if I rate when we actually have sex, I would say it's an 8 (finally--early on PP, it was like a 3) but we've had dry spells of 3 weeks at a time, so clearly the rating there would be a 1. DH gets really grouchy when we don't have sex, but he waits until the worst possible times to initiate (at like 11:30 at night when I am EXHAUSTED) OR he is all about getting down to business and going so far as to ask me, "Can we have sex tonight?" I find that incredibly irritating and completely NOT sexy. . . anti-sexy, if you will. Instead of even considering it, I want to yell no because you aren't trying! Ha. I try to control myself.

I will say that we finally DTD last night and it was AH-MAY-ZING. Total TMI, but Michelle will get a kick out of it--we used a toy that totally rocked my world and led me to several moments. I must say that it was a refreshing change.

[LaLaRose3]

When DH and I actually get intimate, it is stellar. Amazing. I am a multiple Oer! But since we don't very often, I am kinda in the middle.

[Cheryl_W]

Well, DTD is amazing right now, and my sex drive is over the top constant and has been for weeks... But DH has only touched me ONCE in the last two months without me having to convince him/coerce him... And that takes a lot of convincing. IDK what it is, he's never had any sex drive, its like he hates sex or something except for once every 3-6 months or so he wants me - then he goes back to avoiding it at all costs, bargaining to avoid sex (ala "We'll do it tomorrow" or "If I fold the laundry in the morning, can we do it tomorrow night?")

Not making me feel sexy in the least when your husband bargains with you to get out of having sex with you... So I'd say right now its about a 0.