[::MummyToTwo::]

I forgot to post this here so this is copy and pasted from my DDC:

Last night I started bleeding again. I called the nurse who rang L&D luckily my OB was oncall so I spoke with her and she wanted to see me this morning.

I just got home and the tears have not stopped.

My cervix is shortening, and fast. I have to have another ultrasound this week and pending the results they will discuss doing the cervix stich. My OB isn't confident I am going to make it until June.

I am now high risk for pre term labor and I am devistated, I really need to get another 4 weeks along with no issues.

I am ok about the stitch but my OB said it only stops dilation not pre term labor. She is concerned because everytime I bleed it irritates the cervix further and it can cause the sac to rupture.. definately not a good thing.

I have been put on limited activity... not as bad as bed rest but it might as well be, im not allowed to lift anything, no shopping, no cleaning, no nothing...

the tears just keep coming and I am so so scared.

My mum wants me to fly back to Australia but right now I can't anyway, she wants me there so she can look after Summer & myself. The only problem with that is we dont know how long I am going to make it, and Cam could very well miss the birth as its a 14 hr flight plus the time it takes to get a flight.

I am not a religious person but I really need all the positive thoughts I can get.

I have cried so much I don't think there are any tears left

ETA - my cervix today was 2.4/5 and 2 weeks ago it was well over 3.

My mum is going to fly over and should be here on either the 17th or 19th depending on when she can get a flight. In the meantime I am overwhelmed with the amount of support people are offering

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Update Feb 11 10am

so I had the u/s at 8 this morning and the lady wouldn't tell me anything, she said I had to wait for my OB to get the results and contact me

I have already sent my OB an email! will KUP

thanks for all the kind words and thoughts

[Celry]

I was having cervical shortening around 23 weeks. It's so scary. I'll definitely be praying for you. Take it super easy, which I know is hard when you have a chld at home. My cervix lengthened when I stopped being on my feet so much. Are you having contractions? If you haven't already, you should have your doctor hook you up to a monitor to find out. If you are, I highly suggest you look into terbutaline or some other anti-contraction drugs. I know I would not have made it so far with the girls if it hadn't been for that. The pump was a bother, but it gave me the medicine I needed as I needed it.

[Em2528]

Tam I replied to you on FB but I just want to say that im going to be Praying for you and baby Ashton that everything will be just fine and he will stay put for a long while longer. If it were me, id put myself on bed rest as much as possible, it would be worth it if it helps keep things calm and relaxed...and stress free! Im glad your Mum is going to come and stay a bit to help you out. Take help from those who offer and dont feel bad about it. If I were closer id be more than happy to come help you everyday but unfortunatly I dont. Hang in there girl!! HUGS

[Jodi0804]

I'll definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers... try to rest as much as you can.

[Sam914]

Oh i hope the little one is able to stay in for as long as possible! As someone who just had a 25 1/2 weeker unexpectedly i know how scary the reality of a preemie can be...

I am not trying to upset you but if preterm birth is inevitable it might help you to stop over and check out the preemie board in advance? Sometimes people like to be prepared for the "just in case" if that makes sense.

Get in bed and don't get out!

[MommaLee]

I commented in the DDC, but I'll be praying for you. HUGS.

[Oreobaby]

I am so sorry hun...keeping you and your baby bean in my thoughts and prayers!!!

[Soape]

I'm praying that your cervix behaves and that you don't go into preterm labor. i'm soooo sorry t

[Banned-Jaylas_Mommy]

i will def keep you guys in my t&ps!

be sure to get tons of rest!

[fromustobaby]

Keeping you in my thoughts...and please take it easy...and *try* to relax as much as possible (though I'm sure thats not the easiest thing to do right now)...

FWIW...
One of the girls in my DDC had a cervical length of 2 at 23 weeks, and went on bedrest... they were able to keep her baby baking until 34 weeks, and the baby came out really healthy (I think the baby was in the NICU for only about 3-4 days)...

[~* Liss *~]

Keeping you & your baby in my T & P!

Try to rest sweetie!

[courtneytcu98]

Tam, I am just seeing this. You have been such a positive support for so long here, that in this difficult time for you I am glad we can support you. I am so thankful your mom is on her way, as any help you can get will surely give baby Ashton better chances of baking longer. I hope, hope, hope with all of my heart that the stitch with keep baby Ashton baking for as long as possible. I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

[::MummyToTwo::]

Courtney you made me cry!!

thanks girls! I have an ultrasound in the morning at 8am so will update as soon as I know more. For the moment I have an appt every 2 weeks to check cervix length.

This is totally something I never thought would happen to me, I went to the OB with my regular bleeding issues only to be told news I wasn't expecting. I know my OB didn't want to scare me she was very stern with what she said, this is serious and I can't continue doing what I have been doing.

I know that I am still only 20 weeks but from what I understood today cervix issues get worse the further into the pregnancy you are as the weight of the baby pushes down.

My mum will be here on Wednesday and will stay for a month then we will reassess the situation. She can't stay in the US for more than 90 days at a time so she will probably leave and come back again.

DH is going to work from home tomorrow, my friend is coming over to help out on Friday and DH has Monday off and 2 friends are coming over on Tuesday and my mum arrives Wed.

Anyway enough rambling will update in the morning.

[samspain]

I´ve only just seen this too Tam, I really hope that with the rest and having your Mum there to help your cervix holds up. I am really thinking of you and like Courtney said you have been here with others in our hard times.

[~April04~]

((hugs)) I'll be keeping ya'll in my thoughts - take it easy!

[~*Jackie*~]

I hope today's appointment goes well, and I'm keeping you and your baby in my thoughts!!!

[LuvMyToriBug]

Tam, I read this in your PR yesterday and thought of you all night long!! I am so sorry that this is happening and I have definitely sent prayers and thoughts out for you!! For some reason, I just feel positive that little Ashton is going to be just fine!! I keep up with you all of the time and just really feel like I have gotten to know you through JM!! I am so glad that your mum is coming in and going to be here to help with Summer, what a great mummy you have there. I heart you girl and hope that everything will start getting better!!

[Elijah'sMommy]

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I will keep you and baby in my T & Ps. Hopefully with extra rest and all the help you will have with your mom with you, your cervix will lengthen. I hope you get some good news with your U/S. Good luck!

[stlgirl]

Oh sweetie...I hope Ashton stays put and you can go near if not completely full term with him...

[::MummyToTwo::]

thanks girls!!

Becky you made me cry too!!!

putting and update in the first post