[Jennifer-Jacob's Mommy]

So my step-daughter has a friend coming over this afternoon for a sleepover. We asked her yesterday to clean up her room.

I don't ask her to do anything around the house, I do it all, all I ask for her ( shes 10 and a half), is to keep her room tidy and put away her clothes once they are clean and folded.

Her friend came over last wk, I cleaned her room.. i GUTTED it.

I guess she assumes I'll do it again...but im not. I just went into her room, (its a small room at that), and the clean clothes that was given to her to put away ( On her dresser i have marked on the dresser where the shirts, pants, etc goes so no excuse she knows where each piece of clothing belongs) is on the floor in the middle of dirty clothes and paper and just random JUNK and garbage.

it irrates me so much that she has a friend coming over and her room is a pig sty. She only now listening about her diapers on the floor. ( she pees the bed in night time we have to buy goodnights) and I refuse to pick up her pissy diapers to put in garbage.

So im in that kind of mood now that I feel telling her to cancel the sleepover or let her friend come over and see what kind of dirty room she has. I dont really even want this friend coming over really cause she seems to control chelsey....and stuff I asked not to be done, she will get chelsey to do it anyways as in I asked the girls not to go downstairs, the woodstove was going, there was tools down there..there was no point of them being in the basement, point blank. They were going down there, I said no, no need going down there. Fine. About an hour after, I went down to fill up the stove and two of them were down there.. URGH I was so angry cause we have responsibility over this girl, and I dont want either of them being by the hot stove, incase one got burned. It was a school night, she was over, and the girl KEPT coming saying she was staying to 9pm I said no, its a school night, I think 7pm is late enough. Chelsey has homework to do and gotta get a bath etc. She told chelsey there was no homework,,, no spelling words this week.. I thought there was but chelsey said there wasnt.... guess what, there was spelling words. Chelsey has a learning disability, so we have to keep on top of her to keep her on par with her classmates and I know this child can do great, she has proved it, but If I don't keep on top of her, she fails everything. I learned last night this new friend she has, her parents doesn't watch her, she is kinda left to raise herself, no rules or structure in the household, etc. Chelsey has rules and structure in this house (at her mothers house, she didn't, her reading level was way below grade level, she didnt have to do homework... til this year, she has to do homework and study and read nightly with us and with this, she is improved a lot and is back to grade level and improving a lot, we met with the teachers and they are impressed with the improvement.)

and my hubby just noticed me cleaning, "oh your in the cleaning mood are ya" seeing I had music on and doing the bathroom, I said no not really, its just i GOT to clean up cause this place is a pigsty. and I mentioned to him about chelsey having the clean clothes in on the floor and i told him i wasnt cleaning her room. and he got on my case cause i leaves the clean clothes down in the baskets down by the washer and dryer. and i said, yeah for you to bring them upstairs, I said to him thats only fair. The deal was always before, I do dishes, he do laundry. Seeing im off work, I have been doing laundry as well, and I fin dit hard lifting th ebaskets upstairs so I just leave it for him to bring it upstairs for me to fold the clothes. FAIR RIGHT? well he said well seeing how you are home all day, you should be doing laundry. UGH. That urked me.. Yes I am home and I am doing it but I should at least be given slack on lifting those baskets up the stairs. So i said , ( cause he has a habit of wearing his boots and sneakers from outside, inside the house) that I am mopping the floors soon, if he comes in the house wiht his boots on, i'll loose it. and I will.. it HURTS me so much to sweep the floors and mop the floors , it kills my back. ANd for him to walk over it in boots with mud etc on bottom, it will just set me off.. I can feel my hormonal side of me now, lol.


UGH!!! I feel like I gotta clean the whole house and people just go behind me and destroy my effort!!!

I guess this is what I get for 32 weeks pregnant, hormones getting to me now lol...