[Elijah'sMommy]

So, my MIL has been getting on my nerves since Eli was born. First, it was the repetitive mean mommy comment when I was doing his diaper change and he was screaming his head off (at 1 month old). She didn’t mean it, but still, no new (or old) mommy wants to hear it. Then, she has been monopolizing him, even when my mom is around. She literally takes him out of my arms after I feed him/change him (mind you, she refuses to change a diaper). This is my mom’s 1st grandchild, her 3rd.
Well, this weekend we were celebrating my DH’s birthday at her house. I went to my mom’s house to spend a few hours with her and run some errands before we went to my MILs house. When we got there, unless I was feeding/changing Eli, MIL was holding him. She wouldn’t even give him back to me for a feeding because he was napping (which got me POed because I don’t need to wait for him to start screaming for food, but I’ve already taken this up with DH). Anyway, I just found out from my mom that after my MIL had him the whole time we were at her house, my mom asked to hold him for a minute. My MIL turned her back to my mom and said “no! You had him all day so I have him now.” Can you believe this! I’m so agitated by this. I’ve always been very close with my MIL but she is really walking a fine line with me. She’s been very generous and always buying him new clothes and such, but I don’t feel this gives her a right to monopolize him. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

[MommaLee]

Oh, no! I would be upset if either of my MIL's told my mom that. It's just rude and selfish. I am speechless ::jaw drop::!!!

[ca_dawson]

That would totally irk me too! I don't think you're wrong to feel the way you do!

[Jodi0804]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. You have every right to be upset. Haveyou tried talking to dh about it, what does he think about it? Maybe the 3 of you could sit down and talk about it?

[Oreobaby]

It would totally irk me too...my brothers MIL is the same way. The last time my mom and dad were down to visit my niece (they live 4 provinces away, and my MIL lives one hour away) any time my mom and dad tried to get my niece my MIL would jump up faster, or move faster just to hold her before my mom or dad did, which is ridiculous since she sees my niece like every week, and it was only my mom and dad's third time seeing her since she was born. My mom was irked, so was my Bro and SIL...

You have every right to be upset...it is not fair to monopolize his time, even if it was her first grand baby, you have to share...it's just nice.

[Banned-Jaylas_Mommy]

you have every right to be mad//iritated! im actually irritated..mad for you!

my mom is kinda lik ethat, i have issues with my mom anyways, and when we see her (which is at least once a week) she hogs jayla the whole time too. i hate giving jayla to her and i always have an attitude about it because she wont let anyone else hold her, and if she does its for like 2 minutes then she ust has to have her back! ugh i know how you feel!

ok enough about me lol...

is your DH gonna say anything to her?

[karenwalter]

I can't believe she is acting this way! And to be so rude to your mom for wanting to hold Eli! I think your DH needs to have a talk with her. All it's going to do is strain your relationship with her if you put it off any longer. You should be able to enjoy your time spent with her instead of dreading it.

[Jarheadwed]

You have every right to be mad. Some grandparents- I think women more so- tend to be very territorial with the baby. They want to be the favorite grandparent and will monopolize the child's time, buy extravagant gifts, and try to upstage the other grandparents, and sometimes, the parents themselves!

DH should be the one to initially tell her to back off, or she'll be pissed at you. If that doesn't work, you two will need to tell her together.