[KDD]

About 2 weeks ago I posted on my personal blog a polite request for people to please stop giving me unsolicited advice and to stop making comments like "get your sleep now, you'll need it later". I made the point that I'm not a teenager, and I'm fully aware of what we're getting into. I also promised to ask if I did have questions.

So now I find out (via my mother) that I have apparently angered some people by asking them to stop. So, let me get this straight: people are upset that I dared ask them to stop making comments that bother me? Umm, maybe it's the hormones talking, but I'm pretty sure that I'm the one who gets to be upset here. In fact, that's why I wrote the post (which I have now taken down).

I'm fairly certain that no one likes to hear comments like "your house has a lot of stairs, you'd better move or invest in a baby gate company" or "make sure to keep your cats away from the baby", etc. So why do people make them?

Would it have been better to simply have singled out the people who have made the comments? I thought that a general message was more tactful.

ARGH! Anyway, I needed to vent! And if you're wondering - everyone on JM has been nothing but supportive to me.

[mlyster]

I read that post and thought it was very tastefully written. I can't believe people would get mad about it. It's not like you said "stop or else you will never see this baby". All you did was point out that you are well aware what changes will need to be made and what changes are going to happen because you are having a child. I am not sure why people can't mind their own business.

On a similar note, I have friends who needed 5 (or more) baby gates for their house. They did not move and they did not go broke from buying gates. They simply did what they had to in order to keep their child(ren) safe. It's funny the things people find it appropriate to point out. The one we have gotten a few times is that our child will not want to crawl on our kitchen floor because we have tile.

[Jodi0804]

Oh Kim I'm sorry you are having to deal with this! I don't think it was wrong of you to make a simple request. People always have advice to give on children, pregnancy, labor/delivery, and it can get annoying. One of the things that helped me get through all the "advice" was to just keep telling myself that people like to give their 2 cents and took it with a grain of salt (and a lot of the time ignored it ). I'm hoping through all this the comments stop. And heck if it took that comment to make it stop, so be it!!!

I agree though - funny people were offended by a simple request when they were ones giving all this advice to begin with!!

[Mrs.Paradise]

HUGE SUPER DUPER FREAKING BIG FAT GIANT MONSTER HOOKER FANGBANGER you cant please EVERYONE just let whoever didnt like it to go cry about it!!! they will either get over it or they wont... sorry you have to deal with this...

[~*Jackie*~]

I don't think you said anything wrong either.... some people don't know when to mind their own business or how to take a subtle hint to stop giving unsolicited advice.

[Pebblesbuddy]

OMG that is so annoying. I am not looking forward to that at all. I hope they get a freaking clue and leave you alone!!

[KDD]

Thanks Ladies! I really needed a boost this morning. I was so p*ssed at the remarks that I got that I debated deleting my FB account. Good luck getting any updates on the baby if you can't even bother to call or e-mail me. Ha! That'll show them!

[hearts.0nfire]

How rude! I read it too and I thought it was nicely written.

[MommaLee]

aaah, i hated the advice...still do. i have one word: ignorance!

[Micksbabe]

I read that blog entry too and I thought it was awesome I never really got that kind of stuff, and if I did I would just straight up tell them that while I appreciate they have their opinions I would rather they keep those opinions to themselves

[Cheryl_W]

Ahh every pregnant woman gets all that unsoliticted advice... My MIL keeps telling me that babies need water in the summertime - I tell her that baby isn't getting anything but breastmilk until at least 6 months, and she certainly won't be getting a bottle of water at a week old. Then she starts in about the rice cereal mixed with breastmilk... Its like she wants me to BF, but only from a bottle because SHE formula fed. I just thank people for their advice, don't take it, and move on.

Some of the advice is actually helpful, not just rude, so always listen though - my grandma has actually taught me a lot about cloth diapering, since she CD'd her kids (my mom & uncle.)

I'd just ignore them for now, don't apologize for "offending" them (since they're stupid for getting offended by that anyway), and prepare - because apparently, the unsolicited advice only gets worse after baby is born! LOL

[jensma]

Kim I'm sorry, that is such a PITA and i don't think its your hormones. If anything you SHOULD be upset...and they should suck it up and keep their opinions to themselves. Why do people think when you're pregnant you're an open book to be questioned, advised, touched and talked about?!! Hang in there girl and try your best to just ignore it.

[amazing_love]

It sounds like you definitely didn't do anything wrong. I think it's perfectly acceptable to ask people to not give you advice unless you ask (although i'm sure most people will do it anyway ). It's all very annoying and doesn't get any better once you have your baby unfortunately! I remember hating the old "sleep now while you get the chance" comments too, but then i remember once i had him i was like "wow they were all so right!" lol. But yes it's definitely super annoying. I think it's even worse being as young as i am because people think just because i'm young it means i don't know how to take care of my baby. Um, i am very well informed on things, thank you! Grrrrr....

[KDD]

Thanks again everyone. I had a crappy day and you always perk me up! I am definitely trying to gather as much patience as I can now 'cause I know that I will need it later!

I will definitely be seeking out help from some people in regards to cloth diapering, but most of my friends didn't CD. Ha! Maybe that's what I'll ask them all about.

[Oreobaby]

Kim...I am glad you had the courage to say something. and people are right, you can't please everyone, and unfortunately, the problem is, the advise doesn't stop once the baby comes either, so definitely saying something now is good. You are going to be an amazing mom, and I can't wait to meet your little bundle. Your little boy!! hee hee hee.

[KDD]

I was thinking that I should put the post back up then beg you all to comment! I can't believe all of the energy that I've put into this today. What a waste!

[~Caroline~]

I agree with what everyone else said. I didn't read the post but I'm sure it was worded in a respectful manner and you have every right to ask people not to make these kind of comments.

[Christine-MA]

Unfortunately it's only the beginning!

[amazing_love]

If you do put it back up i promise to comment

[*Mommy2Camden*]

I'm sorry that people are so ignorant! I was SOOOO sick of hearing the "you better get your sleep now, because you'll need it later speach" I was ready to LOOSE IT! Apparently people think that you can somehow get some extra sleep, and then save it for when you REALLY need it! Grrrrrr