Ultrasound : not good news. (x-posted)

Lex&angels · #1 August 11th, 2010, 03:14 AM

I am 8 weeks since LMP, but at 6w4d if you readjust for my crazy cycles. I KNOW 1000% my ovulation day (ultrasound before showing a follie about ready to release an egg, positive OPK the day before, temp rise the day after and sustained, and HCG at 15 DPO in the right range for that amount of DPO)
I GUESS I could allow for maybe 1-2 days' difference.

So I went in for my ultrasound.
The idiot doctor (he REALLY was, the report is full of terrible spelling and grammatical errors, and he told me he "doesn't believe" in temping) saw 2 gestational sacs, both measuring at 5 weeks.
Both empty.

I don't even know if I was having twins or if the sac split and is breaking up.

I'm seeing my real (competant) doctor on Monday, we'll confirm and I'm pretty sure she'll give me a D&C.

I am so angry right now. And so sad.
I skip right over denial.

Everyone keeps telling me to keep hope. I'm sorry, I can't and I won't, not when I KNOW my ovulation date. Hope sucks. So does life.

Mrs.Paradise · #2 August 11th, 2010, 04:39 AM

OMGOSH!!!!

Im sooooooooooooo sorry sweetie!!! this is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO NOT FAIR!!!! HUGE SUPER DUPER FREAKING BIG FAT GIANT MONSTER HOOKER FANGBANGER

Im still hopfull for you!!! please baby bean STICK STICK STICK!!!!!! love you girlie!!!

~Caroline~ · #3 August 11th, 2010, 05:10 AM

I'm so sorry

jensma · #4 August 11th, 2010, 05:30 AM

OH Lex, I am so sorry...

denalibear · #5 August 11th, 2010, 05:34 AM

Oh Lex...Im so so so sorry hun

Is there any way you can see your real doctor any sooner to confirm/or prove wrong what that other doctor is saying?

CandaceDianne · #6 August 11th, 2010, 05:44 AM

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

mlyster · #7 August 11th, 2010, 05:51 AM

So sorry the news was not better Lex. I am going to hold onto a shred of hope for you that this doctor was wrong. The reason for the small bit of hope is not that you don't know your dates but rather these just could be slow starting babies. My first ultrasound showed Baby L was a week behind. I have also head that twins sometimes are slow starters. I will hope for you to get better news on Monday. But will also be here for you if the news is the same Monday as it is today. HUGS!

Lex&angels · #8 August 11th, 2010, 06:21 AM

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Originally Posted by mlyster

So sorry the news was not better Lex. I am going to hold onto a shred of hope for you that this doctor was wrong. The reason for the small bit of hope is not that you don't know your dates but rather these just could be slow starting babies. My first ultrasound showed Baby L was a week behind. I have also head that twins sometimes are slow starters. I will hope for you to get better news on Monday. But will also be here for you if the news is the same Monday as it is today. HUGS!

I just want to say thank you for both of your really nice messages - and this one is the only one that actually does give me a little bit of hope. I hadn't thought of that, and although I don't think it's likely, it does make sense and I guess it's possible.

I can't actually go in sooner than Monday if I want to see that nice doctor, since I'm on the other side of the country (vacation with family) and we are driving back tomorrow, and her office is closed on Fridays & weekends. But she's a fantastic doctor and I don't want to see anyone else at this point. I really can wait until Monday. Also, I've heard that it's best to wait several days if you have any hope at all of seeing something different.

I have a *small* glimmer of hope, but not a whole lot.
I just hope I won't start bleeding in the car. I can't deal with that, I hate long drives anyway.

JessMitch · #9 August 11th, 2010, 06:54 AM

oh lex i am so sorry... like michelle said sometimes some beans just start out a little slower. I really hope you get to see the good doctor and he has some better news for you.

ndsai05 · #10 August 11th, 2010, 07:22 AM

Lex I am so so sorry. I will be praying that Michelle is right and they are just a little behind. I'm so sorry you are going through this again.

MommaLee · #11 August 11th, 2010, 07:44 AM

Hugs! I wanted to let you know that my doctor that did my IUI was not like temping...she is a gynecologist with a specialty in infertility (she is not an RE though). But she told me that she has seen many instances where charts did not add up and accurately display what was going on. I hated temping so her telling me to stop was no biggie.

Like a pp said, you might have a slow grower.

fromustobaby · #12 August 11th, 2010, 08:44 AM

i really hope that it is just s slow grower...i have heard of that with twins many many times...

hearts.0nfire · #13 August 11th, 2010, 09:06 AM

I am praying they are just slow starters.

chrissy323 · #14 August 11th, 2010, 09:11 AM

Lex!!!! I am praying that your beans are going to grow big and strong!! FWIW none of the specialists I have seen think that charts are worth anything. They believe them to be inaccurate and stress-causing.

Lex&angels · #15 August 11th, 2010, 09:23 AM

Even this chart? I can't imagine having ovulated much more than a day or two later than what my chart says... Especially given the timing of my BFP (12 DPO)
Which doesn't explain why I'd be dated at 5w rather than 6w4d (considering it's been 8w since my ACTUAL LMP)

21a28c Ovulation Charts

I just don't know what to think. I guess I really just do believe in charts. Sometimes they do strange things but when ALL the signs correllate.... I just can't imagine that *my* chart, for THIS cycle at least, would be wrong or off by more than 2 days.

My only hope is slow twins.

MommaLee · #16 August 11th, 2010, 11:17 AM

I can't comment on the charts cause I'm not a charter but wanted to reiterate that your doc is not the only one who feels that way about charts. Another reason is you could have implanted late. I was behind on my first ultrasound...and based on ultrasounds for my IUI we are pretty confident in knowing my ovulation date. It takes days for the blast to travel down the tube and it's not unheard of for it to dilly dally in the uterus before implanting.

It's okay to worry but I think you are still early enough to where there is hope. Plus, some doctors demeanors don't give people much hope. If you need some stories about doctors being pessimistic about pregnancies making it...go over to the TTCWMA board and they can give you a whole slew of them.

amonstersmomma · #17 August 11th, 2010, 12:34 PM

I'm so sorry Lex. This is so ridiculously unfair

I'm praying you have two slow growers! KUP on your appointment!

Sota · #18 August 11th, 2010, 12:37 PM

I'm really sorry you are having to go through this. Hoping those twins are just starting off slowly.

JacklynA · #19 August 11th, 2010, 01:13 PM

Oh Lex I am so so so sorry, but let's keep up hope!!!

You are in my thoughts and prayers. KUP on your next appt and no matter what we are all here for you!!!!

MarinaAndCharlie'sMommy · #20 August 11th, 2010, 01:16 PM

I hope you hear good news at your next appointment. Sending tons of T&Ps your way!

ETA: When I was 5 weeks pregnant I thought I was having a miscarriage and the u/s only showed a sac. The next week, once I was 6 weeks we were able to see a hb. If you implanted late or etc. you might be further behind than you thought which could explain the empty sac. Anyway, hope that makes you feel better. (hugs!)