[Julie.K]

I know I'm new to the grads but I need to talk. I got my first BFP on Aug 2nd and my Dr confirmed it about a week ago.
To give you some background info my husband and I had been TTC#1 since Nov 2009 and stoped birth controle for over a year. I have PCOS and was told that we may not be able to have kids without medical help. We have had some bad luck in the last few months. I got hurt at work and have a back injury so I have been off work for 3 months. My husband is a student and is also not workin but he is done school in Dec this year. In June our place flooded and we had to move out in 3 hours as it filled with water. We lived in a basement so everything we owned got wet. We lost our bed and couch and tons of other stuff. We had to move a room at my parents for 6 weeks. Well we just moved into our new place Aug 3 rd. We are getting fiancial help right now that I hate doing but we don't feel like we have a choice right now.

This is the part I'm sad about.
I was so excited to get pregnant it was the best gift I could ask for. James my husband and I kind of thought we would wait till 12 weeks to tell people. Well since my BFP on Aug 2nd I have had 6 people tell me that they think we should hold off having a family. None of them had any clue about us TTC they just took it upon themselves to let me know this. It has been my mom both my sisters and 3 friends all at different times not talking to eachother.

Well it has broke my heart I feel crushed. It has took all the fun and excitement out of this first few weeks. Only DH and I know other than the Dr. I don't want to tell anyone now till Dec. I just feel so alone and sad. I just don't see how anyone should tell someone when they should have a family. I know things look bad right now but DH is done school in Dec and I'm not due till April.
I just don't understand why they would say that. I guess just a bad time but so rude. The crazy thing is all 6 of them at one point pushed for us to have kids. Like I said I'm so sad.

Thanks for reading I know it's long.

[jensma]

Oh Julie I'm really sorry!! This is supposed to be a happy and exciting time for a woman and while its not the greatest circumstances right now, you should still get to be excited! That being said, i know there are a few of us, myself included, who have had people say, things that were less than supportive. About 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant with my angel, i was telling my mom a friend of mine was pregnant and said, guess who's pregnant, and she said "not you!!". Thanks mom...well about 2 weeks later i found out I was and was not real excited to tell her after that reaction thinking she'd be disappointed but in fact she was SOOOOO elated. So you can never truly judge for reaction...the fact is, its nice that their thinking of you and your family but you ARE pregnant and they're just gonna have to deal with it. I'm sure everyone will be excited for you. Miracles happen when its time...they don't wait for the perfect circumstance. I hope this makes sense, sometimes i start rambling and it gets kinda crazy...

Anyway I think you should tell when you feel comfortable. I was all gung ho to tell this time at our second tri, ended up telling at 10-12 weeks for most people and could honestly have waited until about a month ago b/c no one would have noticed hahaa...so good luck when you do decide the time is right. I'm sure they'll all be happy for you!

[LuvsPecanPie]

I'm so sorry that your family and friends are saying that. I totally know how you feel, and spent the first few weeks of my pregnancy obsessing over how I was going to disappoint people. I think they'll surprise you in the end.

[Julie.K]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope your right and they are happy for me when I tell them. I think it was just so many people and I'm so emotional it just hurt. Thanks for your support.

Thanks for sharing the story about your mom saying "not you" it gives me hope that people will still be happy for me.