Maternity Photo Question

KDD · #1 August 27th, 2010, 03:29 PM

I need your opinions about pre-natal/maternity photos. I'm meeting next week with a photographer to discuss getting my photos done. I can't decide if I should do them with just me and surprise DH with the photos later, or plan to have him involved as well. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity for us and I don't want him to feel left out, but he's also not big on the whole family portrait thing (other than wedding photos, the only time we've had new photos taken of us is when we did it with my entire family 5 years ago).

What do you think? Surprise him? Or include him?

Lex&angels · #2 August 27th, 2010, 03:37 PM

I would surprise him!
It sounds like he would be less than enthusiastic if you try to include him BUT would be happy you got them done if you just go ahead.
Men are SO often like that, I have a friend who overheard her DH telling someone he didn't "get" maternity artwork, just as she was about to show him her surprise. And he ended up loving it because it was her, because it was to his taste as opposed to another couple's taste. In the end they were BOTH glad she went ahead and got it done on her own!

jensma · #3 August 27th, 2010, 04:06 PM

I was just thinking about this today bc i'm pretty sure a friend of mine is going to do ours and B HATES getting pictures taken. But since it is OUR baby i do want him involved for part of it...I get why you'd want to surprise him though. Tough call. So i think what i'm gonna do is do part with him and part with just me. That way he's not too miserable, and i still get what i want!!

amonstersmomma · #4 August 27th, 2010, 04:36 PM

I. Think it really depends on how you think he'll react to doing them with you. My DH absolutely hates having his picture taken too but really enjoyed doing the maternity photos! Definetly a tough call but I'm sure he'll be great about it either way

mlyster · #5 August 27th, 2010, 05:21 PM

I think I would surprise him... what you could do is surprise them with pictures and then tell him that if he does want to be involved you can do a second smaller session. That way he does not feel like he HAS to be included but if he wants to he still can be.

jensma · #6 August 27th, 2010, 06:33 PM

i like michelle's idea!!

amazing_love · #7 August 27th, 2010, 07:42 PM

I voted for including him in the pics, mostly because my DH enjoyed being involved with mine but every guy is different. Michelle has a good idea

DeepSouthMommy · #8 August 27th, 2010, 07:57 PM

Hey Kimberley, I hope you don't mind me jumping in here, but I have a suggestion if you are interested...

What if you surprised him by bringing him along with you for YOU to do a maternity shoot and then if he wants to join in for a few pictures, he can. Otherwise he can just be there with you while you have them done. Doing it this way he's not pressured to take pictures if he doesn't want to, but he also doesn't have to miss out on it in case this is one of those rare times that he DOES want be included. And that will save you the additional cost and scheduling of a second session if one or both of those is a factor.

KDD · #9 August 27th, 2010, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by mlyster

I think I would surprise him... what you could do is surprise them with pictures and then tell him that if he does want to be involved you can do a second smaller session. That way he does not feel like he HAS to be included but if he wants to he still can be.

I thought about that too.

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Originally Posted by DeepSouthGirl

Hey Kimberley, I hope you don't mind me jumping in here, but I have a suggestion if you are interested...

What if you surprised him by bringing him along with you for YOU to do a maternity shoot and then if he wants to join in for a few pictures, he can. Otherwise he can just be there with you while you have them done. Doing it this way he's not pressured to take pictures if he doesn't want to, but he also doesn't have to miss out on it in case this is one of those rare times that he DOES want be included. And that will save you the additional cost and scheduling of a second session if one or both of those is a factor.

The problem with this is that the photographer doesn't work on the weekends (unless you pay way more) so DH would have to take time off.

I'm really on the fence. Thankfully I'm not getting the photos done next week, we're just doing the planning session. I do know that DH really mocks the family pregnancy photos that he sees on www.awkwardfamiyphotos.com

But then, those ones are mock-worthy!

No matter what, we will be doing family photos in the New Year!

DeepSouthMommy · #10 August 27th, 2010, 08:37 PM

I love awkwardfamilyphotos.com! That's a great place to go when you need to feel better about your own family. LOL

Well I know you'll be able to work something out that everyone will be happy with. At least like you said, you've got time to think about it and decide.

*Mommy2Camden* · #11 August 27th, 2010, 09:30 PM

I would involve him

With our pics we did ALL sorts of combinations. You can do some pics with him and some without.

~Caroline~ · #12 August 28th, 2010, 06:50 AM

That's a tough question. I think I'd want him to be included, because pictures last forever and I'd want him to be in them. But you know your DH more than anyone so only you know if he would enjoy taking them.

hearts.0nfire · #13 August 28th, 2010, 02:14 PM

I voted on including him. I really like Michelle's idea of taking them and seeing if he we would want to do a smaller session so at least he can be apart of it if he wants to.