[Jennifer-Jacob's Mommy]

During this week, I found out a lot of stuff. And decided being a mommy is more important to me then anything else in my life. Im sick of the drama or bull**** certain people brought to my life. so I decided to get rid of them. Now they are harassing me, but, I'm dealing with it and im hoping they screw off soon.

However, I wrote this up and posted on my facebook. I thought it said everything that Im thinking!!

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The older you get, the most wiser you become.
The wiser you become, you become more aware of what people's characteristics are.


Talking is how you spread your thoughts, ideas, and experiences to people around you. It's not always wrong to talk about other people. There's nothing wrong with telling your friends, "I like hanging out with *ANGEL*. She tells the funniest stories!" Those words don't hurt anyone. But when you say mean things, tell stories that you're not sure are true, or reveal information you know is supposed to remain private, you're spreading gossip.

Now... I would be lying if i said i didn't like the occasional gossip here and there. Who DOESN'T.
but I think there is"Good" gossip, and "Bad Gossip" is.

Good Gossip is oh "She got a new job , doing this and that." stuff that are moreless announced and people just generally talking how well the person is doing.

Bad Gossip is when people talk about how much weight that person is after put on, or how they changed thier facebook privacy and how "stupid" that was.

I can honestly say, from my experience, People who gossip to you, will only gossip about you. I've been going thru alot this week, thinking what do i really want, and what do i deserve??

Do i deserve to have a gut feeling that I'm being talked about behind my back, all the time??

NO. I don't think i deserve it. and the funny thing is.

You can't pick your family..well there is some exceptions to this rule.
but you sure can pick your friends. and sometimes, friendships might last a long time and end abruptly, cause people simply change. they either change for the good, or for the bad. Some people just loose the meaning of friendship thru the whole works of life. they just get caught up in the whole gossip world that they forget , talking about friends in bad ways, doesn't always end up good, in the end, When the person finds out about it. REGARDLESS "what" way, a person finds out, they will always find out in the end , because There isn't anything good, in gossip.

I can honestly say, if you consider me a friend, i'm thankful. and i will also be making a honest promise, that You will never hear of me saying or passing on any gossip because it just doesn't end well. I felt so horrible of what i've read the past weeks, that if i have ever hurt anyones feelings, (VERY unintentional) that i'm sorry that it will never happen again.



never take back what you say... turn your back and walk away!


So if I have to leave you,
I want you to know that in the end,
it wasn’t because I stopped caring.
It was because you stopped being a friend.

[MommaLee]

Good for you! Just ignore them.

[MommyBeth]

I say good for you. I've been on the recieving end of the hurt from gossip. Except it wasn't friends in our case it was "family" and they were living in our house.

[Jennifer-Jacob's Mommy]

its friends and one person ( sil) in my family that is doing it. she has the nerve still to call here looking for me when she knows i dont want anything to do with her. she only caused nothing but headaches for me.

[DeepSouthMommy]

Girl I understand how you feel and I say good for you for standing up for yourself and others in your shoes! I have deleted a few family members and several "friends" like that. Heck, I had one so called friend (DH and I honestly thought she was a friend) who quit talking to us, but didn't delete us as a friend on Facebook. We left her on in hopes that one day she'd come around, but then one day I realized that she had blocked DH and I from seeing her wall, BUT STILL KEPT US AS FRIENDS! Yeah, she wanted to be nosy and see what was happening in our lives, but didn't want us knowing anything about hers. Needless to say, DH and I deleted her right away and never looked back. Worthless people like that don't deserve to be a part of our lives.

Oh yeah, from what her DH told my DH, she has no one left in her life...So I guess it's true...you get what you give.

So definitely keep on living the good life, stay strong in your beliefs and I promise, you will be the happier, better person for it. .

[hearts.0nfire]

Good for you! I completely agree with what you're saying and i'm sorry that you were having to deal with that.

[Jennifer-Jacob's Mommy]

thank you ladies for the support.

its gotten worse, harassment calls, ( that im tracing) and constant emails and messages sent my way, but im getin through it.. im the better person in this. Im not letting there degrading comments put me down. I will be the one to come out on top !!

[ca_dawson]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. But I've learned from experience, as hurtful as it is to have to cut these negative influences out of your life, in the end your life becomes a much happier place. I always have such a hard time letting people go, even after they've changed for the worse and stabbed me in the back. I guess I remember the person they once were and hope they become that person again, but its useless. They never do. But now that I'm a mom its become much easier because at the end of the day my world consists of my hubby and my daughter and we are healthy and happy and that's what matters! I think once you hit your late 20's, kicking someone off your friends list on facebook to let them know you are mad at them instead of having an adult conversation is just childish and pathetic and if that's your mentality then high school is a place better suited for you! As moms we don't have time to deal with people's petty drama and issues. Its THEIR problem. All you have to do is live your life and be happy. Good for you for getting rid of those people! I think you're on the right track. Even though it sucks and may hurt now, it will pass and you will come out happier in the end.