Shower annoyance... already!

LuvsPecanPie · #1 September 8th, 2010, 03:49 PM

The vast majority of our family members live in NY. We live in Virginia. That's a 6 hour drive. I know my mom wants to plan a shower, and I'm super greatful. However, she was talking to DH last night and she wants to try to surprise me?!?!

We go to NY for X-Mas and then the only other possible weekend I could go up before I hit the point where I'm not supposed to travel much anymore is MLK Jr. weekend.

They tried to surprise me for my bridal shower, and I almost didn't make it. I hate surprises! Why don't they learn!?!?

I don't need to know the theme, where it is, any details. Just let me know the date!

KDD · #2 September 8th, 2010, 03:52 PM

I'm like you, tell me when & where to be there, the rest of the details can be a surprise. Just be grateful that DH is keeping you in the loop.

jensma · #3 September 8th, 2010, 03:55 PM

yeah i feel your pain. the girls didn't want me to know anything (other than the date and time since it was at MY house). HECK no to surprise showers!

MommaLee · #4 September 8th, 2010, 04:27 PM

I hate surprises too. I traveled until I was 37 weeks...my doc just told me if I traveled after that to be prepared to give birth out of town.

Ash · #5 September 8th, 2010, 05:12 PM

This is totally none of my business, but I think you ought to be grateful. It is a sweet, sweet gesture.

LuvsPecanPie · #6 September 8th, 2010, 05:25 PM

I am grateful, I just don't think it's reasonable to expect me to drive 300 miles at 7 months pregnant on multiple occasions in order to try to surprise me.

Ash · #7 September 8th, 2010, 05:42 PM

Reasonable or not, it's sweet. The baby your carrying is an incredible blessing, cherish every moment of it. I am sure they just want to share the joy.

JustLiz · #8 September 8th, 2010, 05:48 PM

That sucks that it's so far away. Argh. That being said, I wish my bridal shower had been a surprise! My parents got divorced the same year we got married and I ended up having to mediate between the two sides of the family on every detail. I was thinking I am NOT supposed to be in charge of planning my own shower!!! All of these traditions are sweet, but also stressful. I feel your pain.

LuvsPecanPie · #9 September 8th, 2010, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by JustLiz

That sucks that it's so far away. Argh. That being said, I wish my bridal shower had been a surprise! My parents got divorced the same year we got married and I ended up having to mediate between the two sides of the family on every detail. I was thinking I am NOT supposed to be in charge of planning my own shower!!! All of these traditions are sweet, but also stressful. I feel your pain.

Awww - what a mess! I had to mediate for my SIL's shower, between her mom and her dad's side of the family. I was going to pull my hair out!

I totally understand the idea of a surprise. But when they tried to surprise me for my bridal shower I thought it was Sunday and ended up taking a sub job on Friday thinking I could just drive up Saturday instead... I had to drive up at 4am on Saturday morning (when they finally told me - I was trying to get a full time job at this school and didn't want to cancel and ruin my chances of being hired full time). I was half asleep on the drive up - and half asleep through my entire shower!

I just don't want to be stressed about losing my sick time (aka my maternity leave) to try to appease their need to surprise me. Plus, I hate surprises! I'd rather be able to spend more time at home w/ the baby, than spend hours trapped on I-95 driving to NY and taking time off of work!