[jensma]

You have all kinds of my respect. While I don't know exactly what its like to have two babies/kids 24/7, I have gotten a few good lessons lately in what it might be like. As most of you know my nephew is 4 weeks younger than Tyler so the few times that i have had both of them together alone, i'm like holy crap, how do people do this?! They're both crying, never have the same issue, its crazy! But yesterday was the kicker. My friend and I decided it would be fun to take out 2 four year olds and Tyler. Her daughter is 4, and deaf...and then we had our friend's daughter as well, who just turned four in December. We had all three kids in babies r us and target...lol. It was quite an adventure. Lunch was easy...shopping, not so much. SO to all of you twin (and multiples) parents...YOU ROCK!!

[JessMitch]

I hope you didn't scare all the pregnant with twin mama-to-be's! You'll do great girls!

[jensma]

nah!! i'm sure they'll be fine! I think when it's your kids you just do it! Maybe even easier than having 2 close in age...

[Celry]

Thanks!
I think as a MoM (mom of multiples) most of us just get used to this. My normal is having 2 kids the same age. It presents its challenges and the first 9 months are a bit insane, but I wouldn't trade it for anything :wuv:. Watching my 2 together is amazing! I will say that most MoMs who also have single babies say that it takes longer to bond with multiples because so much of the beginning is just about survival. It can be awesome and it can be bad. I had a horrible day on Friday with the kids and wondered if I was cut out to be a MoM, but those days pass and we live to see the next day. I'm sure that moms of single babies feel the same way at times. I've survived well enough to watch my 2 year old nephew and 4 year old niece twice a week. It takes a lot to get all 4 of us out of the house and I have to be creative to keep all 4 kids together, but we go and do lots of things, including the zoo when it's nice and the kids museum when it isn't. Anyway, you adapt to what you're given.

Originally Posted by jensma

nah!! i'm sure they'll be fine! I think when it's your kids you just do it! Maybe even easier than having 2 close in age...

I have to 100% disagree with this. Not from firsthand knowledge, but from what other MoMs have told me. I know one MoM who has twins and another singleton about a year later. She emphatically says that even having 1 that close to the twins is much easier than the twins. So no one makes this mistake, MoMs really dislike when they are told that someone knows what it's like because someone had 2 close in age. We just laugh it off because they have no idea what they are talking about.

[jensma]

Val, thanks for the perspective of someone who actually knows!! I don't think it would even be possible to get the full picture until you're doing it!! Which is why you have so much of my respect! And i absolutely get the survival part. And now that i think about it, if i pictured myself having twins v. two close in age, i can absolutely see what you mean.

I had students who were twins and their parents had another baby when the twins were 18 months. They planned it. I guess the thing that would take some getting used to about babies close in age, would be getting through one of the tough stages and finding yourself in it again. I have a family friend who has daughters very close in age and she said (like you) you don't know any different so it's just what you do

At any rate, I admire you! (Oh and i totally didn't mean to scare any of you future twin mamas).

[Celry]

The future twin moms shouldn't be scared. Having twins is amazing. It makes all the crazy times totally worth it.

I thought the comments on this blog entry are funny. It shows just how many MoMs get told that having kids close together is like having twins and how much we know it isn't.