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I'm seriously afraid of dropping him
I would always have dreams of dropping babies, and sometimes they are so squirmy!
I dropped a puppy once and felt awful. Luckily I was about to put it on the ground so it wasn't too much of a drop, but still!
And then there's that whole thing about how now I'm responsible for another LIFE and don't want to screw it up!
FTM here - I'm not really scared about all of the things that come along with a baby and toddler and child. I know that DH and I will figure it all out together. I'm just nervous about finding the right balance and not over-parenting or under-parenting. I just want us to raise a productive member of society who is generous and compassionate and humble and hard-working.
I've seen great people raise terrible kids... and vice versa. I just don't want to screw my kid up for life.
I wasn't scared to be a mom and knew that DH and I would both be hands on and split the responsibilities..... what scared me was labor I remember being 32 weeks and saying to my sister "holy ****....I'm actually going to have to get this baby OUT!!!" This time around, I'm not scared of labor, I'm nervous about the first few weeks and being sooooo sleep deprived with an almost 3 year old. I'm feeling the normal feelings going from 1-2 kids. I'm also nervous of going into labor early because I have been having some pretty wicked BHs and pressure. I don't want him to come any earlier than 37 weeks!!!
As a FTM, I'm scared of everything. I know I will be a great mom and that DH will be a great dad. I know that responsibilities will be split, and he will help out. I fear the things that is common with many FTMs...dropping baby, doing something that inadvertantly brings harm, not feeding enough/the right way, etc. But I'm confident it will all work out just fine. I am terrified of labor, though. I am not good with pain. NOT GOOD. Medicate, medicate, medicate. As much as I *love* the idea of natural, and as much as it fits with my point of view on things, I know there is no way I could do it. At least not first time around...
Im with Adrienne... Im not so worried about the whole taking care of baby... Im more worried about how hes going to turn out... I just want him to know how much he is loved ALL THE TIME! and be confident and a GREAT addition to society! I want him to be smart and kind and understanding! I want him to have a GREAT outlook on life! and be happy! I want him to be a hard worker! if he turns out like his daddy I will be a VERY HAPPY and PROUD MAMA!!!
Im nervous about the labor/birth... but I know I can do it! my body was made for this!
FTM here - I think my biggest worrie is ditto with Adrienne! I don't want to screw him up and ruin his life! I would also have to say I'm worried about not being able to calm him and recognize his crys. I don't want to be that mom that walks up to like DH or my mom or someone crying and hand them my LO and say fix it haha!
Thanks! I should get one made saying we are having a boy but I'm too lazy
Funny story about that pic. My friend took it and I was just shy of 12 weeks (this is how we announced on facebook to everyone). Anyway, it was FREEZING outside and Bella would NOT cooperate! So, the little girl standing next to me is my niece, Sophia...she was a total stand in haha! Everytime I look at it, it cracks me up!
Because Maiya was breech and we had tried everything to turn her and nothing worked...I was scared out of my mind about the c-section (and it hurt just as bad if not worse than I thought it would) - tip for anyone who is getting one, do NOT google it on youtube before you have one, it will scare the crap out of you!
With Kaiden, I was scared that I would get stretchmarks/saggy skin and losing the pregnancy weight...because I didnt have big babies and because I dont have time to eat much now that they are here I didnt have to worry much about that when I was pregnant with Maiya...LOL!