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  #1  
October 14th, 2009, 09:19 PM
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What age do you consider to old to go out trick or treating?

If you hand out candy and kids older than the age you think is appropriate come around what do you do?



We get over 100 kids each year. I love handing out candy but I admit to getting annoyed by the older teenagers (15, 16,17) who come around. They usually don't even have costumes on. They just walk around with pillow cases collecting candy and rarely say so much as thank you.

The other thing that annoys me are parents who bring around very young infants and collect candy. It's one thing to go show off your cute baby but does your 2 month old really need a Snickers?
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October 14th, 2009, 10:11 PM
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I don't mind older kids, heck, I went trick or treating at 17 years old with a friend, we had fun. People said we were too old, but who really has the right to say we are too old to have fun in a tradition we grew up with? Just seems silly to me. Most teens that come to the house every year are respectable, make me laugh, and I remember that I am not too much older than them and remember how fun Halloween was to me.

I remember that year that one man gave us extra candy because we were older, dressed up, and having fun. He said more teens needed to get out and have fun and remember that it's okay to be our age when the world wants us to grow up and be adults when we really are not adults. It was nice, and I really respected him for allowing us to have our fun. Some people said we were too old and griped at us, but oh well.
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October 15th, 2009, 05:15 AM
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I get tons of trick or treaters where I live...in good weather maybe several hundred or more - I just know it usually costs us a hundred dollars or more for candy....and we often do a candy run part way (because the first 30 mins is a good indicator of how busy this year will be & I don't want to get stuck with lots of leftovers... anyway - I don't mind their ages. I prefer when they dress up, but oh well. I agree that babies don't need candy & that confuses me, but I don't mind. We didn't collect much Ds's first year - I asked if they had stuff that was age suitable (some places did - like pretzels or little bubbles or glow sticks) but if not, we just were out for fun with other children, but honestly I paid $50 to MAKE the costume & it was really well done. What is the big whoop if I did get a few candy bars (which I didn't because I personally didn't want any)?

I mean for real, Halloween is the ONLY holiday for me that is just for fun - so if it's all in fun, why sweat it?
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October 15th, 2009, 06:19 AM
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I don't really care. I would rather the teenagers be out trick or treating than egging houses and cars and engaging in other typical teenager halloween behavior. I don't mind giving candy to the infant's parents either. I think they just want to show off their cute new baby, and besides, babies dressed up are my favorite to see.
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October 15th, 2009, 06:29 AM
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I don't mind older kids, heck, I went trick or treating at 17 years old with a friend, we had fun. People said we were too old, but who really has the right to say we are too old to have fun in a tradition we grew up with? Just seems silly to me. Most teens that come to the house every year are respectable, make me laugh, and I remember that I am not too much older than them and remember how fun Halloween was to me.

I remember that year that one man gave us extra candy because we were older, dressed up, and having fun. He said more teens needed to get out and have fun and remember that it's okay to be our age when the world wants us to grow up and be adults when we really are not adults. It was nice, and I really respected him for allowing us to have our fun. Some people said we were too old and griped at us, but oh well.
I second this
i went out at abour 13-14years and had quite some doors slammed in our face!
we had done the make up and was doing it for FUN, to have day were we could enjoy being childish and not "as grown up".

I really don't mind either of those
halloween is about dressing up and having fun, whats the harm?
sure it is a day to celebrate the dead but for most parts its fun and a day where you are (should be anyways) allowed to be a kid again
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October 15th, 2009, 06:52 AM
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I don't really care. I would rather the teenagers be out trick or treating than egging houses and cars and engaging in other typical teenager halloween behavior. I don't mind giving candy to the infant's parents either. I think they just want to show off their cute new baby, and besides, babies dressed up are my favorite to see.
I love seeing the dressed up babies too and if Jillian is here by then and I'm feeling up to it I'll take her around with Ben (I have a flower costume for her). It just annoys me for some reason when the parent is walking around with a trick or treat bag and the only child they have with them doesn't even have teeth yet!

I wouldn't even mind the teens so much if they would actually make an attempt at dressing up or something. Around here the teens usually just walk around in their regular clothes, they'll complain if you give them something they don't like and if they walk up at the same time as a group of little kids they cut right in front of them to get to the door first. So I guess it's more their rudeness that bothers me.

I know someone mentioned that it's better they be out T or T rather than egging houses but around here they do both. Most of the kids aren't even from my town. They come from the next town over which no one would dare trick or treat in. They collect their candy and then later at night they egg houses, shoot paint ball guns at houses and cars and smash any pumpkins they can find.
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October 15th, 2009, 07:07 AM
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I took my five month old trick or treating. Just to five houses. I felt abit strange but I wanted to do it for him and mostly it was so I could get photos of his first halloween.

Teenagers I don't care about either. I think as long as everyones having fun, then whats the harm? Even though they could use some manners.
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October 15th, 2009, 05:30 PM
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I probably won't take this baby out trick or treating until he's two or three. For one, its too dang cold out here in October, and two, he can't eat the candy, and if I want candy, I can buy my own.
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October 16th, 2009, 06:38 AM
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I don't mind teens trick or treating, personally I trick or treated until I was 14. But, my parents' don't get a lot of kids so then I just started eating the leftovers. As long as they are dressed up, no harm no foul.

With babies, my theory is more that as long as the parents aren't expecting to get candy, then bring them around. My parents' neighbours with a babies would bring them around, dressed up, with a few of their siblings or other kids, just to show off the cuties.

One of my parents' friends used to go around with his kids when they were younger and my dad would put liquor in the bags for him. I always thought that was kind of sweet of my daddy, they'd joke about it.
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October 16th, 2009, 07:24 AM
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My last trick or treating was my senior year in highschool. I was dressed to the 9's as was the 3 other people who were with me. I couldn't imagine not dressing up. Even the year I was sick I donned a purple over coat and a tall crazy hat and said I was the Mad Hatter. Only went cause Mom needed help with all the little ones she was taking.

My town has rules. If you are in Highschool you cannot go out before 7:30pm unless you are with small children. This allows the small kids to be out and around before all the bigger kids start up. Some houses will put up signs that they don't want bigger kids, and that's fine, most of the town are old people and no matter the age the trick or treaters bring smiles to their faces. Heck, even our Nursing home has room to room trick or treating some years so that way everyone gets to see the people. Tori's first year they didn't have it, but her grandmother took her to every single of the 200 rooms so the people could have a smile. Nothing cuter than a little telletubby who wants to share her candy with everyone!
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October 16th, 2009, 10:34 AM
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I think anyone should be able to trick or treat, no matter how old they are....as long as they aren't rude about it.
That would actually be kind of cool, if adults or, rather, *everyone* just went out (I guess then who would be left to answer the door?).

Where I grew up, the general consensus was if you were in high school, you were too old to trick or treat and junior high might have been pushing it.
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October 16th, 2009, 11:25 AM
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The last time I went trick or treating was when I was 17. I got a few odd looks, but I was still dressed up and some adults even thought my costume was awesome (I was Columbia from Rocky Horror, so maybe that's why I got more compliments than weird looks ). Honestly, I don't care about ages. I would prefer that they at least dress up, but it doesn't really matter. Halloween is one of my favorite holidays, so it's not a big deal to me as long as everyone is having fun.
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October 16th, 2009, 11:34 AM
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I think 13 or 14 is the cut off I don't like it when the teenagers come by for candy we always give them the nasty black and orange mary janes lol
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October 16th, 2009, 11:39 AM
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I think 13 or 14 is the cut off I don't like it when the teenagers come by for candy we always give them the nasty black and orange mary janes lol
May I ask why you don't like it when teenagers come by? Not trying to be snarky, I just don't understand why there should be a cutoff.
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October 16th, 2009, 12:38 PM
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And why would you even buy those god-awful candies?!? Blech..

The last time I went ToT'ing (prior to taking dd last year) was when I was in college and went with some friends. We went out after most of the kids but still early enough that people weren't in bed yet. We had a few sourpusses who gave us funny looks but for the most part people were really friendly. It probably helped that there were 5 or 6 of us dressed up as jedi and sith.
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October 16th, 2009, 04:39 PM
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If they are actually dressed up, acting respectful and having fun then I dont mind teens trick or treating. If they are like 18+ then maybe its time to stop. Dress up and go to costume parties if you like but leave the t-or-t for the kids
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October 16th, 2009, 05:07 PM
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I agree that there should be no stat up/ cut off age. I took d/s when he was 9 months old. He was a lion. We went to about 6 houses and called it a night. He got lots of complimnets, I got lots of pictures for his baby book lol. That being said, I stopped t-or-ting when I was 13. I don't have a problem with older kids coming but I would like to see them dressed up.
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My teen is 15 this year, she now has braces, and there will be no ToT for her this year. If you can drive a car, no trick or treating....
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I don't think I took DD trick or treating until she was able to walk up to the door herself and say "trick or treat" lol I think 2 years old was her first time going out. We still dressed her up as a baby, I just had her in the costume all day and that was how I showed it off - going to the commissary, etc. I don't see the need to take an infant around after dark, in the cold, to collect candy for myself. I can buy candy if I want it lol

As for teenagers - I guess I really don't care. I just wish some of them wouldn't show up at our door so late in really scary masks that give DD nightmares. Last year she was HORRIFIED by masks, starting with our neighbor coming up behind us in one while she was unsuspecting, following seeing a Scream mask while ToTing at a house, and then when we got home and she thought she was safe...some teenager showed up in a scary, gory mask at our door. Fan-freaking-tastic lol
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