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  #21  
October 18th, 2009, 08:48 PM
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Ugh, back labor was what made me crack and get the epidural. I was doing fine naturally beforehand. However, I thought labor was kind of cruel - the contrax sucked, but the break inbetween (during front labor) sucked even worse because you KNEW what was coming in the next couple of minutes lol
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October 18th, 2009, 09:00 PM
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I know this may sound stupid - but this is all so strange to me. I have really read up a ton on back labor since this came up & have thought about it a lot. I find it so strange that with all the reading & writing I have done even just on JM I never understood that there was a breather so to speak between contrax. I have an inverted pelvic bone...so I was told I was a c-section risk going in & saw a chiro my whole pg to try & align my back & pelvis specifically to open that area & straighten. I also did exercises & worked with a birthing ball & squats to try & make a vag delivery more obtainable. I got my vag dely - I had a LONGGGGGG labor with slow progression topped off with tearing through my rectum & breaking my tailbone....I am REALLY hoping this delivery goes faster & easier. My recovery was a freaking nightmare - it just took soooooo long to feel remotely okay & capable of even getting around. I had tailbone pain for well over a year, still have trouble with sciatica (now made MUCH worse by being pg again) and I had back pain (where when I finally agreed to an epidural at about hour 65 - wish I was joking - and they tried 12 times for an epi & 3 times for a spinal block) I was too swollen to get a needle in (in my joints) and all that did was bruise me terribly - they hit some nerve at some point that I think is responsible for my current sciatica pain as it set my butt on FIRE when they did it & it has bothered me ever since & my back was terrible for a solid 6 mos PP. Soooooooo - please, if you have any compassion - send me all of your ELV even if you don't always see eye to eye with me! Please.

Yep after hearing that there's no way a man would survive that and then willingly take the risk of it happening again! I'm due in a week and a half with my second and I think your story just made my vagina slam shut! I was ready for her to come out but now she can stay in there!

I hope this time goes much better for you. You certainly deserve it after what you've been through. I'm not normally a supporter of elective c-sections but in your case if they think any of that is likely to happen again you might be better off having one. Your recovery would probably be faster.
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October 18th, 2009, 09:33 PM
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I think every story about labor makes my vagina slam shut.
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October 19th, 2009, 02:57 AM
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I think every story about labor makes my vagina slam shut.
Look,labour is going to hurt...thats just the way it is.But unlike a blinding head ache or agonizing tooth ache,the pain has an awsome outcome! lol
You go into it feeling nervous,and yes,its the worst pain you´ll probably ever experience,BUT,its the only pain where you are actually exited the whole time
Also,its super easy these days!! I cheated and got an epidural these last 2 times,and I spent the last 5 hours of my labour playing cards,napping,talking to DH,watching TV etc..it was WONDERFUL!
Both of my vaginal births *labours included* were hands down the most amazing,exiting and happy hours of my entire life.Id do it again every day-serioulsly!!
Infact,I feel that it sucks that I wont be going through that ever again.When Im feeling down,I close my eyes and I go back to those days..its my happy place

You´ll see..labour and childbirth is amazing
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October 19th, 2009, 04:40 AM
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Yeah, as much as it hurts it really is amazing. I remember when I had DS I swore to the nurse that I'd never have any more children! As they wheeled me down to my room after I'd given birth the nurse asked if I had changed my mind yet. I told her No way! But a few hours later after I'd had some good snuggle time with my brand new son I changed my mind.

It's such a powerful thing to hold your new child and know you'd go through the pain all over again because it was absolutely worth it.
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October 19th, 2009, 06:41 AM
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Beckie, one horrific labor experience doesn't mean they will all be that way. My first and second were night and day and hopefully yours will be to.


And I about peed my pants when I read about the vagina slamming shut. But then again, it doesn't take much to make me pee these days...
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October 19th, 2009, 10:10 AM
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Yeah, as much as it hurts it really is amazing. I remember when I had DS I swore to the nurse that I'd never have any more children! As they wheeled me down to my room after I'd given birth the nurse asked if I had changed my mind yet. I told her No way! But a few hours later after I'd had some good snuggle time with my brand new son I changed my mind.

It's such a powerful thing to hold your new child and know you'd go through the pain all over again because it was absolutely worth it.
I had the same response honestly afterward. I got to my room, nursed him a few minutes & passed out. When I woke 2 hrs later & held him for the first time a little more clear headed (as I was sooooo tried when he was born, I was a little loopy from that alone) - I told DH - even with all the mcs & the long difficult labor that I would "do that all again & 100 times more if I new it was going to be THIS great". It is amazing how much you can be willing to go through for that moment. THAT is the moment I focused on to get over my fear of trying again. I didn't want to go through any more losses, I didn't want to have 5 months of m/s again, I didn't want another really hard labor (still don't LOL) - but I have no question about why I am doing this or whether it will be worth it in the end no matter how long or hard this next labor is.
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October 19th, 2009, 10:21 AM
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I think every story about labor makes my vagina slam shut.
I know....I remember feeling that way too. The unknown when it comes to L&D is anxiety provoking.

I will send you some "similar to mine" labor vibes. I never found the labor to be the worst part....yes, it hurt at times but it wasn't unbearable. I had some back labor with my 3rd child but it still wasn't unbearable. When I got to the part of labor where I felt the pains were becoming too much to take, it usually meant that baby would be arriving within 10 minutes....15 max. Yeah, it hurt but compared to a lot of labor stories, I consider mine easy peasy. Hoping the same for you.
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October 19th, 2009, 10:42 AM
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I had Back labor and front labor with my natural delivery. I had back labor constantly, and front labor in waves.
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