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October 19th, 2009, 04:29 PM
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Ok so ds goes to the same daycare center where i currently work. It goes from 6 weeks to 12 yrs old.So, I come in and run into a child's mother. The mother informs me and the other teacher in my class that her younger son has Swine Flu and that he will be out for 10 days.The whole time she is pale, sniffing, coughing,etc... the other teacher asks her if she has it too (LOL). The mother says no, she *thinks* she has the regular flu but she has not been to the doctor. Her daughter comes to class coughing and such also(no fever).So, the other teacher tells her to ask the center's director if the child is allowed to be there. The director says yes. She then comes back and tells us she's looked it up online ( supposedly) and she doesn't have to tell the other parents that we have a confirmed case of swine flu and we not to say anything just continue spraying things down and that it's not her fault if the parents aren't getting their kids vaccinated. We had two more kid's parents call in saying they were experiencing symptoms ( diarrhea, coughing, etc). As a parent, if you found out your child's childcare was not confiding that information to you,how would you feel? Do you think I should go ahead and tell the parents about the confirmed cases? If i wasn't working there I wouldn't have known! Sorry it was a long rant.
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October 19th, 2009, 04:32 PM
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I would be very angry that it was not disclosed, and the mom and her other child seriously needed to go home and keep their germies to themselves....
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October 19th, 2009, 04:46 PM
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I feel like I failed to protect my students. That girl was there all day. The director refused to call her mom to come get her germy self which put all the other kids at risk also. And she will be right back tomorrow bringing MORE germs! I know i sound like a germaphobe and maybe I'm overreacting but a little girl died over the weekend from it about an hr away from where I live/work...

Health department confirms flu death - WTOC, Savannah, Georgia, news, weather and sports |

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October 19th, 2009, 04:59 PM
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I would want to know so I could increase supplements to boost immunity. But I'm not sure what I think about the ethics of informing the parents of the situation. If a student has the regular flu are you required to tell? What about a stomach virus or chicken pox?
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October 19th, 2009, 05:03 PM
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I think the school should definitely send around a notice to parents that there is a confirmed case in the school so that parents will know to be aware of any symptoms.

As the teacher, I'd be extra vigilant about making sure the kids are washing their hands and keeping things as clean as possible.

They don't need to know who the child is that was diagnosed. I do think that since the one child had it and the sibling was sick she should have been kept home as well.
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October 19th, 2009, 05:14 PM
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We are required to tell the other parents about chicken pox, head lice, etc but not the regular flu. We also do not disclose any personal info I.E " Jane has been diagnosed with Swine Flu" vs. " We have a child in the center who has been diagnosed with swine flu".
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October 19th, 2009, 05:21 PM
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...and that it's not her fault if the parents aren't getting their kids vaccinated.
I was wondering what you mean about that statement?
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October 19th, 2009, 05:24 PM
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I was wondering what you mean about that statement?
I think that was a statement made by the school's director not by the OP.
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October 19th, 2009, 05:26 PM
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Where's that popcorn eating smilie?
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October 19th, 2009, 05:26 PM
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I didn't say it so I couldn't tell you what she meant. D/S is not vaccinated against it either so it made me upset . That is what the director said to me and the other teacher. Sorry, no popcorn eating smiley neccessary lol .
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October 19th, 2009, 05:38 PM
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Vaccinations aside, the kid with the sick sibling shouldn't be there. If the other kid will be out for ten days, there is no reason for that girl to be in daycare either.

And the center should let the parents know. Imagine if a kid with an underlying condition got it, or a healthy kid with a pregnant mom at home, etc? That's terrible.
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October 19th, 2009, 05:44 PM
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or one of the babies at the center. I'm just appalled by the whole situation. Ah, well money makes the world go round and that's all that was on her mind.
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October 19th, 2009, 05:58 PM
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I would be upset if I wasn't told (we in fact had a note sent home from school today about the same thing). I don't understand her reasoning for not wanting to tell, what harm could it do? Parents know that kids get sick and that germs are spread easily among them. Having a note sent home only helps me to be more vigilant about hand washing, etc. Also, if I know that someone else has had it and my child's risk is therefore increased, I would be more likely to get treatment for my child at the first sign of illness and also be more likely to keep my child home.
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October 19th, 2009, 07:44 PM
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I think that parents should be told about any serious illnesses. They need to be aware so they can watch for anything in their own children! My niece goes to a private school and there was a girl in her class who did have H1N1 and everyone was informed. She was off for two weeks so everyone knew who it was for that reason.
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October 19th, 2009, 08:18 PM
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I think that parents should be told.

DH was diagnosed with Swine flu today. I picked the kids up after school, dropped them at a friends so that I could take him to the DR. I picked them up. All three were looking sick. Gabe was burning up. They will not be going to school tomorrow and I am going to try to get them into a DR. I will also be informing the school first thing in the morning. The kids in 4 K with Gabe use nappy mats with sheets and I think that they all need to be washed and his class needs to be extra cleaned. Sadie shares a desk with 2 other students so that needs more attention as well. I would be angry if I found out later, when my children go sick, that this was something that was going around and they were fine with not telling.
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October 19th, 2009, 08:35 PM
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I can't see not telling. Schools here disclose that a student has a confirmed case...even of simple things like flu. It really is a parents right to know what the risk level is & act accordingly. If she has such an issue with money then they need to institute a policy that if a parent chooses to pull a healthy kid, they still have to pay. If I was worried & wanted to pull my child until the scare was over, then I would rather pay & have peace of mind than to have someone else decide what I need to know.

I am also unaware that vaxes are even available in most areas...so I am not sure why that was even brought up. Now if this were January & the vaxes had been available for a while then every parent that wanted their child vaxed will likely be vaxed by then....but at this point, we have confirmed H1N1 in our schools & we are slated to be high priority, yet I know no one that has had one available yet. I also don't want to vax myself or my Ds - but I still would like to know if he has been directly exposed....it doesn't leave me to wonder if he starts getting sick if it *might* be H1N1 - it lets me know it is likely that it is...and to act accordingly.
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October 20th, 2009, 02:03 PM
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Well today she said she had called the health dept. to report it( after another teacher called a helpline and told her it was mandatory to report it) but that she would not be telling the parents because it would put them into a panic. As far as the vaccinations, everyone is giving them out for free or <$20(Kroger, Health Dept, etc). Also, it is mandatory for soldiers who then go ahead and get them for their families, a large percentage of our children are military kids. That being said, she was still outta line because jsut because it is available doesn't mean everyone's going to get it.
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October 20th, 2009, 02:09 PM
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I can't see why she's not wanting to tell the other parents. And those ladies children should have been sent home too.
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October 20th, 2009, 02:22 PM
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OH! Come to find out the Dad has it, the brother has it, the 2 older sisters have it.... and you mean to tell me the daughter and mother don't have it?
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Yes I think she should be required to alert the parents. Especialy with all the deaths that are being reported in children! I'd be flipping out if my kids daycare/school knew and didn't tell me!
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