giving your kids kisses

Mom2DyJessAva · #1 October 31st, 2009, 07:03 AM

where do you give your child a kiss? the lips,cheek,forehead?

when I was little i use to always give my mom a kiss on the lips..i stopped maybe around 12-13..i never saw it as a bad way..well my daughter came over to me the other day and gave me a kiss on the lips..brendan (my so) asked if i felt werid my daughter gives me a kiss on the lips..puzzled i asked why? and he said that he only ever gave his mom a kiss on the check when they were really really small and that he seen kissing on the lips for only what a couple should do..i do give kisses on the cheek and the forehead not always on the lips...shes my daughter and i dont see it in a bad way..do you?

#2 October 31st, 2009, 07:36 AM

I kiss my son on the lips. He kisses a lot.. but he'll kiss whatever is closest to him - my arm, my leg, my face.

The only reason I kiss him on the lips is because that's how HE chooses to kiss. If I make kissing faces at him to say I want a kiss, he'll kiss my lips.

As he's a boy, I'll probably discontinue lip kissing when he's still little. By the time he's chasing girls around the play ground I don't think he should be kissing his mother on the lips.

I think it's different with girls though.. seems less like a big deal to continue it a little longer.

I only ever kissed my mom on the cheek that I recall, but I don't recall before the age of four soo..

Jarheadwed · #3 October 31st, 2009, 07:36 AM

I think its whatever the family is comfortable with. In my family we stop kissing on the lips younger, maybe 8/9, but still on the cheeks, but we didn't kiss on the lips much anyway. I will probably kiss my kids more on the cheeks than on the lips too. My FIL, who is a very nice guy so don't get me wrong, likes to kiss on the lips, so I just turn my head when he's coming in, and kiss him on the cheek at the last second.

But I also come from a family that really values personal space and distance, so thats probably why we don't kiss on the lips. My DH comes from a family of huggers and kissers.

Gina1978 · #4 October 31st, 2009, 07:39 AM

I kiss my kids on the lips,just as I was always kissed on the lips as a kid too.
Infact,even now,at 31,my nana will still kiss me on the lips when we see each other.I dont see it as something that can be right or wrong...its more about what everyone is used to and comfortable with.

Ive been brought up this way,and its what Ive passed on to my kids too.Im a lip kisser!! lol.

SusieQ2 · #5 October 31st, 2009, 07:45 AM

I think that's one of those things that people just have to do what they're comfortable with.

DS is only 2 and he gives kisses on the lips all of the time. I kiss him all over! I think I cover that kid in kisses every single day!

BonitaAppleBomb · #6 October 31st, 2009, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by SusieQ2

I think that's one of those things that people just have to do what they're comfortable with.

DS is only 2 and he gives kisses on the lips all of the time. I kiss him all over! I think I cover that kid in kisses every single day!

Bekah · #7 October 31st, 2009, 08:30 AM

I kiss DD's everywhere, my oldest is a lip kisser

we are trying to discourage it (not because we think it is wrong) but because she is quite the germ passer

. I have nothing against parents kissing their children on the lips well up in until a certain age obviously.

frgsonmysox · #8 October 31st, 2009, 09:21 AM

why up until a certain age?

We kiss on the lips, I see no issue with it.

Emm17 · #9 October 31st, 2009, 09:29 AM

I kiss Avery everywhere

Even her stinky little toes

I kiss my niece on the lips too.

I never kissed my parents, so I dunno there.

**Badfish** · #10 October 31st, 2009, 10:36 AM

I kiss stinky toes, too! It only bothers me when someone other than DH or I kiss him on the lips. My MIL did it yesterday and I wanted to scream. Not only because he barely knows her, but she works in a school and I don't really want her exposing him to any viruses.

*Jillian* · #11 October 31st, 2009, 10:49 AM

We kiss lips in our family. I still kiss my entire family on the lips too. No big deal here. We're affectionate. Especially DS...that boy loves to kiss! LOL!

#12 October 31st, 2009, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by frgsonmysox

why up until a certain age?

We kiss on the lips, I see no issue with it.

Jarheadwed · #13 October 31st, 2009, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by frgsonmysox

why up until a certain age?

We kiss on the lips, I see no issue with it.

Some people just aren't comfortable with it. I'm not personally, I need my space! And I'm not a physically affectionate person much either. I hug and kiss, and of course I cuddle my DH, but I am not a touchy-feely type. Also, the germ thing is also a big thing with me. I don't want my kids kissing others on the lips mainly for the germ thing, and also to teach them physical boundaries with people.

#14 October 31st, 2009, 12:32 PM

That's a good point. I don't like other people to kiss my kid on the lips, either. More about physical space than germs. I need my personal bubble with most people, and it irks me when a 12-year-old is all up in my face and practically sitting in my lap. I just want to push them away and tell them to back off (and I don't, because they're kids and just don't realize). I want my children to learn about personal space, but not to the point that they aren't affectionate or they're stand-offish.

Mom2Froggy · #15 October 31st, 2009, 01:18 PM

I kiss my kiddo everywhere, and plan to as long as she is comfortable. Nose, lips, tummies, toes, hands, head... she gets kisses everywhere lol. I am NOT an affectionate person but am with my kiddo. As long as she wants mommy kisses she will get them, even if that means me kissing her goodbye on the lips on her wedding day

Jarheadwed · #16 October 31st, 2009, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Keskes

That's a good point. I don't like other people to kiss my kid on the lips, either. More about physical space than germs. I need my personal bubble with most people, and it irks me when a 12-year-old is all up in my face and practically sitting in my lap. I just want to push them away and tell them to back off (and I don't, because they're kids and just don't realize). I want my children to learn about personal space, but not to the point that they aren't affectionate or they're stand-offish.

YES!!

#17 October 31st, 2009, 05:54 PM

Why Mothers Kiss Their Babies

and check out pg 81

chlodoll · #18 October 31st, 2009, 08:24 PM

I kiss on the lips! Although we are trying to be a bit careful this season so there is a bit less kissing going around lol

I still kiss my Dad on the lips! I don't see it as a big deal. I am not an overly affectionate person but a quick peck doesnt bother me. I would rather that then hug. I don't like hugging much.

proudjmmom · #19 November 1st, 2009, 08:09 AM

I dont see anything wrong with kissing your kids on the lips. My 6 year old still kisses me on the lips, tho recently i noticed that he stopped kissing daddy on the lips. I kiss both my kids everywhere. Doesn't bother me at all. I know our day is coming when they will feel 'too big' to kiss me, so i will take what i can get for now!

I think its all what you are comfortable with!

fluffycheeks · #20 November 1st, 2009, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Keskes

As he's a boy, I'll probably discontinue lip kissing when he's still little. By the time he's chasing girls around the play ground I don't think he should be kissing his mother on the lips.

I think it's different with girls though.. seems less like a big deal to continue it a little longer.

I don't understand the double standard. I'm sure your kisses aren't sexual in nature, so I don't see a problem with him seeing the difference between kissing you and kissing his girlfriend. Besides, he might be chasing girls around the playground a lot sooner than you think!