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  #21  
June 10th, 2010, 11:09 PM
*~ Joni ~*'s Avatar Jordana Jacoby & Jamason
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I guess I'm not easily offended. Strangers have purposely refered to Jacoby as "she" because his hair is getting long. (It doean't look that long in my siggy pic because it'd been brushed back but it's past his ears and to his shoulders in back) I think they're trying to be rude but I just smile and say, "Yeah HE'S pretty isn't he?!" I think if he was old enough to understand that they're calling him a girl it would bother me, but at this age it's no big deal.

Anyway, I agree that it depends on how it's said usually. "Wow, what a big boy!" is quite different than "Oh my God, how about more salad and less McDonalds, sweetie?!"
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June 10th, 2010, 11:16 PM
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I think the neutral comments are harmless. Yes, hearing how blue my daughter's eyes are gets a little redundant after a while.. but how are they supposed to know that I've heard it a million times before? They are just making an observation, and a polite one at that.

When people are just rude and insensitive, they are just being ignorant. I just try to come up with a good come back.... I was all set up for when someone said "You're huge!" when I was pregnant as I was going to say "You too!" but it never happened, lol.
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June 11th, 2010, 05:50 AM
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It doesn't bother me at all. I get a lot of comments on my boys' hair because they both have a lot of it and Ryan's is a little on the crazy side. We just cut it last week, becaues the poor kid was sweating so much when he was sleeping, but I love the curls! Ryan is also a little mini-me and people comment on that all the time.
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June 11th, 2010, 05:50 AM
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Meh. Not a big deal to me. I've never been one to make such comments. I hear a lot of comments about dd1's curly hair and how tall/big she is.
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June 11th, 2010, 06:30 AM
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I can't go out anywhere and not have people tell me how pretty and blue DD's eyes are. It's really repetitive, but it would be more rude of me to say something sarcastic back to them. They're just trying to pay her a compliment.
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June 11th, 2010, 06:58 AM
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I get a lot of comments on my youngest eyes as well. He is really really cute so he gets lots of comments lol But still I do feel bad that my older son just stands there and hears how cute his brother is but he just gets to be short!
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June 11th, 2010, 07:42 AM
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It doesn't bother me but I guess my kids are pretty average. Luke has a longer torso than normal but nobody really notices that. Both of my boys are a little small for their age and both have blue eyes while I have brown so I do get comments about that sometimes. Of course, people tell me all the time how adorable they both are haha - no really, I just usually get general comments from strangers.

I do make comments about other people's kids but only positive ones. I wouldn't point out that a child has blue eyes, but I would say - "What beautiful blue eyes your daughter has!" or "I love your son's thick hair!" etc
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June 11th, 2010, 10:53 AM
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I guess I still have thin skin because the comments I get sometimes really irk me.
I get the "wow, he's huge" and "What a chunky baby!"
He is neither, he is long but he is in the 50% for weight.
I could care less if the comment away on his eyes, hair or whatever- I just get defensive when they call him fat.
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June 11th, 2010, 11:11 AM
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I've definitely been guilty on commenting on a baby or child's looks. Just the other day I was at the park with the kids and there was a little girl there with this head full of gorgeous curly hair. I told her mom that I loved her beautiful curly hair. I'm sure she'd heard it a million times but I think it's always nice to hear a compliment about your child.

I always get compliments about Jillian's sweetheart shaped face. People comment on it often and say how pretty she is. I have to admit that I certainly don't mind hearing it!
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June 11th, 2010, 12:06 PM
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I guess I still have thin skin because the comments I get sometimes really irk me.
I get the "wow, he's huge" and "What a chunky baby!"
He is neither, he is long but he is in the 50% for weight.
I could care less if the comment away on his eyes, hair or whatever- I just get defensive when they call him fat.
I thought a fat baby was a good thing! I never minded when people called my babies fat
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June 11th, 2010, 02:26 PM
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I get all kind of comments about my 2 year old son and it doesn't bother me.

People are always commenting on his blue eyes and curly blond hair.
Some people even think he's a girl and I'm sure it is because of his curly hair.
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June 11th, 2010, 02:34 PM
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I thought a fat baby was a good thing! I never minded when people called my babies fat
It's all in context for me.. even though my babies tend to be long and skinny (DS was until he was like 15 months then he just kind of exploded, lol).

There's a difference between someone squealing with delight and mentioning the adorable little chubby thighs and the perfect little rolls, and someone flatly saying "wow, what a chubby baby." If the other person sees it as a negative that the baby is "fat" then I would take it as an insult. A cashier at Walmart told me I should feed Luke more vegetables and less hot dogs (as she rang up my package of hot dogs). I found that somewhat offensive.
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