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  #21  
June 21st, 2010, 07:19 AM
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There's no way I'd let Chloe play naked outside, at any age. I just think it's inappropriate for anyone to be exposed like that. The only time Chloe has ever been naked in public was when we were at the beach and I had to strip her out of the wet bathing suit so I could change her.
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June 21st, 2010, 07:32 AM
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So if you had your doctor telling you that your daughter had to either be naked from the waist down to stop an infection or suffer more, you would have your daughter suffer so she wouldn't expose herself to anyone?
but whats wrong with using the back yard or putting a long t-shirt on if you can't/don't have a back yard? I see no reason for a child's gentiles to be exposed for a long period of time like that to total strangers.
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June 21st, 2010, 07:37 AM
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No need for them to be outside naked for any reason, IMO. Why would they be outside naked? If they are playing in the water or something, they would have their swimsuits on. If it was a hot day, they would have clothing on still. I just don't see the need for them to be naked.
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June 21st, 2010, 07:45 AM
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Lol, you were complaining that the kid was bending over pushing his truck and you could see his whole butt crack! Bending over with a t-shirt and no pants doesn't stop you from full on butt crack view.

Honestly, why don't you just admit that you don't like the mom because you think she doesn't take care of her kid and that you think she is doing a terrible job? Because any reasonable explaination that people have brought forth as to why the child may be naked you have responded with "well this could have been done" or "this could have been done".

Frankly, you could have not watched the kid out your kitchen window, either. If the nakedness of a 3 year old bothered you that much, why didn't you just shut the curtains? It bothered you enough for you to bring it here, then why didn't you just stop watching?
The kitchen window is right in front of my face when I stand at my kitchen sink. I don't have curtains that close on that window just ones that frame it. It was right in my direct line of sight. Not only that but he was even running around the street between our houses. It wasn't like he was only out there for 5 minutes. He was out there for an hour at least because when I got in the car to leave later he was standing at the end of the driveway stark naked.

Like I said we also have one very questionable neighbor who seems to have a strange affinity for little boys and this woman knows this so it seems even stranger to me to let your kid run around naked knowing this.

I have no problem with nakedness inside. We're currently trying to potty train so my just turned 3 year old is in just underwear and a tshirt right now but if he wanted to I'd just keep him naked. I do think it's a bit different to run around outside naked for all of the neighbors to see.
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June 21st, 2010, 07:50 AM
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So if you had your doctor telling you that your daughter had to either be naked from the waist down to stop an infection or suffer more, you would have your daughter suffer so she wouldn't expose herself to anyone?
I really don't believe that any doctor said the only way to stop this yeast infection was to run around completely naked. If you had a nasty yeast infection would you go outside naked? She could have easily put a pair of cotton underwear on him instead of a diaper and let him play outside.

Besides if the reason he was naked was because he had some kind of raging infection (and because I could see all of his parts believe me he didn't have an infection) I'm guess that running around outside in the 90+ degree weather and sitting his little butt in the dirt wouldn't have been good for any kind of infection.
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June 21st, 2010, 07:55 AM
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I guess I don't see what the big deal is. Many cultures are naked, and there are even nudist resorts and communities in the Western world. It seems like so many westerners are afraid of the nude body. My son loves to be naked, it's natural to him, and our family is kind of the same way. We don't see a problem with being naked. Sure there are pedophiles or other such people, but we don't live our lives based on the fear of them. Our town doesn't seem to care either. I've seen kids outside nude, in the swimming pool, playing in a puddle, or just playing in general. No one seems to stare. And if there is a pedophile, he/she isn't going to care if the child has clothes on or not. If they're going to get their jollies off they'll do it with a clothed child too. That's why they hang out at schools and parks.
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I can't imagine that playing outside naked could possibly be a healthy thing to do-germs galore!
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I'm not quite sure how one child going diaper-less for a few hours wearing a dress would cause "10 mountains of laundry"? I have twins and it may amount for 1 extra load for the day for the both to put a sun dress on in that situation.

The OP has already stated that there is a questionable neighbor already living near this child, would you still be comfortable letting your son or daughter run around with no clothing on if you knew a neighbor is on the offender listing or has been investigated or questioned in the past?

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My daughter doesn't have any long t-shirts. Only dresses, and I really don't want to have 10 mountains of laundry if she needed to be diaperless.

As far as "exposed genetalia", I am sort of surprised by the number of people who are against a naked toddler. It's not like a school age child running around naked here! Most children at the age of 3 (especially boys) are in the process of potty training. I am lucky enough to have a fully fenced yard, but not everyone has that. The comfort of my children far outweighs the delicate vision of a stranger. Every time. If someone has an issue with a naked infant or toddler on my private property, that is THEIR problem, not mine.
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So if you had your doctor telling you that your daughter had to either be naked from the waist down to stop an infection or suffer more, you would have your daughter suffer so she wouldn't expose herself to anyone?
Haha, that's a dumb question, but I'll humor you anyway. I'd put a dress on her (no diaper) or a longer t-shirt that covers her girly parts. That way, she can still be clothed, but still stop the infection because it would be able to air out properly.
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June 21st, 2010, 08:23 AM
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I have to agree that I'm surprised how many people are opposed to toddler nudity. What is so wrong with the human body? Especially a small child?

My son is 22 month old (today) and yesterday we were at my in laws for dinner with all of my DF's aunts, uncles, cousins. My MIL set up a small inflatable pool for my son to play in. We didn't bring a bathing suit or a swim diaper (we use cloth and I'm not going to put my good cloth diapers in the small pool) and it was very hot. Lincoln wanted to play in the pool. The pool was on their deck in the backyard but they do not have a fence and live at the top of a hill so neighbours could look out their window and see him, but the yards are huge as they are gigantic houses so the viewing distance is probably 200 metres (don't know in feet sorry). So my son was playing around in the pool bare naked. WHO cares? He's got a cute little butt and was having a blast playing in the pool. I'm not going to worry about some pedophile looking at him, they can just as easily look online (as I'm sure they already do). Also when people say "how could you let your child roam naked in this day and age with all the weirdos out there?" gimme a break, there has ALWAYS been weirdos. Pedophiles are not a new thing, and people weren't so uptight about child nudity decades ago. I think people need to learn to let things go, it's a kid having fun.
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I have to agree that I'm surprised how many people are opposed to toddler nudity. What is so wrong with the human body? Especially a small child?

My son is 22 month old (today) and yesterday we were at my in laws for dinner with all of my DF's aunts, uncles, cousins. My MIL set up a small inflatable pool for my son to play in. We didn't bring a bathing suit or a swim diaper (we use cloth and I'm not going to put my good cloth diapers in the small pool) and it was very hot. Lincoln wanted to play in the pool. The pool was on their deck in the backyard but they do not have a fence and live at the top of a hill so neighbours could look out their window and see him, but the yards are huge as they are gigantic houses so the viewing distance is probably 200 metres (don't know in feet sorry). So my son was playing around in the pool bare naked. WHO cares? He's got a cute little butt and was having a blast playing in the pool. I'm not going to worry about some pedophile looking at him, they can just as easily look online (as I'm sure they already do). Also when people say "how could you let your child roam naked in this day and age with all the weirdos out there?" gimme a break, there has ALWAYS been weirdos. Pedophiles are not a new thing, and people weren't so uptight about child nudity decades ago. I think people need to learn to let things go, it's a kid having fun.
Totally agree with you.

Not to mention that a lot of parents get professional pictures of their children naked. Usually babies, but I've seen a website that had toddlers with their parents nude. They were actually lovely pictures. But how do they know the photographer isn't a pedophile, and he's in the line of business to have his own collection of nude child photos? And I see parents posting those pictures on line, and there are online galleries from the business itself. Way more people can access that then the amount of people who are going to see a kid playing naked in their yard.
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I actually probably would have barely batted an eyelash if he had been in a pool. It was the fact that he was all over the yard and even running into the street naked. Our yards are small and close together. They are my neighbors across the street but the street is barely wide enough for two cars to pass each other so he was maybe 12 ft away if that.
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I actually probably would have barely batted an eyelash if he had been in a pool. It was the fact that he was all over the yard and even running into the street naked. Our yards are small and close together. They are my neighbors across the street but the street is barely wide enough for two cars to pass each other so he was maybe 12 ft away if that.
But what's wrong with running around in the yard naked? My Pediatrician even recommends it sometimes. Although he is originally from another country, so maybe it's more normal there than it is here. But he says it's healthy, and I think so too.
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But what's wrong with running around in the yard naked? My Pediatrician even recommends it sometimes. Although he is originally from another country, so maybe it's more normal there than it is here. But he says it's healthy, and I think so too.
What is so healthy about running around outside naked? I can understand airing out a diaper covered area which I let both of my kids do but we do it inside the house. There's no need for DS to run around naked outside. I also prefer him to play outside with clothes on for safety reasons. He often gets running fast and trips over his own feet. At least having clothes on prevents his whole body from getting scraped up. He also reacts very badly to bug bites (they turn into huge, hard swollen lumps that last for weeks) and I'd hate for him to end up with a mosquito bite in any area that his diaper would normally cover.
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Well my Pediatrician said it helps with jaundice (although that's normally in babies, not toddlers), and my MW suggested taking our infant outside nude to get sun on his butt which is what helped clear up his jaundice. My Pediatrican also says it helps with Vit. D absorption. That the more delicate skin on the butt helps the Vit. D penetrate skin better. Haven't found a link for that yet, but I trust my Pedaitrician. I also think it's just healthy to be nude sometimes. I mean, we aren't born with clothes after all, and it's just nice to feel the earth on your body (grass, air, water). I don't teach my kids that their penis, butt, breasts are private and no one but them can see it, I don't think that's healthy. But we do teach bad touch and that just because nudity is healthy and normal, doesn't mean everyone in the whole world needs to see it.
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Seeing as children shouldn't be exposed to the sun for longer than a few minutes with out sunscreen the vit-d argument only lasts for 2 or 3 minutes. The only exceptions for this are for jaundiced babies where the benefits out weigh the short term risks.

I dont believe that allowing a child to run around naked in traffic has any health benefit. Period. I also would not be comfortable with it. In my family you wear clothes. Until the age of 3 it only has to be something covering your private parts for both genders (and the yeast infection thing doesn't fly for me... the stuff you pick up shoving your privates over stuff makes it worse, you're supposed to put them in UNDERWEAR and allow them to run around with no diaper or keep them in a clean environment naked. Seeing as when "I" get a yeast infection all I have to do to clear it is sleep with no underwear on, but still wear pants, it seems that washing a few peed in pairs of pants is a better option than naked running picking up gross stuff in the yard) after that it's shorts or a speedo for the boys, and a swimsuit or shorts and tank for the girls.

If this little boy needed to be out with no clothes on, the street is NOT a good place to do it.

We always had something on. Even in pics of me as a baby I was in a swimsuit. I'm glad my mother did this, because I'm really not comfortable with naked toddlers being shown to the world. It's a personal thing, but I also don't see the need for it.


Laurel, Lincon in the pool in a backyard is fine,I'm assuming he wasn't very interested in getting out of it anyways. Now, let him go run the street with no diaper and that would be a different story.
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Eh, sunscreen isn't all that healthy. You don't want to be in the glaring sun, but in the sun with a nice shady tree is fine for me.

Playing in the street isn't a good idea with clothes or being naked, but being naked outside in the yard, fine by me.
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The comfort of my children far outweighs the delicate vision of a stranger. Every time. If someone has an issue with a naked infant or toddler on my private property, that is THEIR problem, not mine.
For me, it's not about "upsetting" onlookers, it's about the fact that even as a toddler, they need to start learning privacy and keeping their body parts for themselves to look at only. It's also a matter of perverts looking at my child; not people that would be bothered by seeing it. I could care less what onlookers think of my parenting
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