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  #1  
August 12th, 2010, 12:13 PM
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I remember we had a thread debating whether or not it was okay to tell another parent that their teen/kid was sexually active with your own. What if you found out your kids friends (close friends) were getting into drugs or drinking? Should you tell their parents what is going on?
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August 12th, 2010, 12:24 PM
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this is a good one.

If they were a friend of mine I would tell them.But if I didn't know them that well I probably wouldn't .....
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August 12th, 2010, 12:35 PM
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I would want someone to tell me if my kids were on drugs.

So yes, I would.
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August 12th, 2010, 12:35 PM
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I would. But I would also confront another teen's parents about sexual activity.
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August 12th, 2010, 12:35 PM
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Yes I would.
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August 12th, 2010, 01:50 PM
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Yes most definitely. I would want other parents to tell me if my kids were doing things they werent supposed to be doing. (Drinking/drugs/sexually active). Especially if this kid was close friends with my kid. Peer pressure is a BIG thing, and I wouldnt want my children sucked into that.
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August 12th, 2010, 01:52 PM
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August 12th, 2010, 01:55 PM
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If I knew the family and were close to them I would. If I knew that some random kid in my daughter's 5th period class was smoking pot after school, I'm not going to go out of my way to track down her Mom's phone number just to tell her that.
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August 12th, 2010, 01:57 PM
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In a heartbeat. The most preventable cause of teen deaths are caused by alcohol....at least that is what the billboard said.
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August 12th, 2010, 02:07 PM
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What kind of usage are we talking? Age of the child in question? Which drugs? How much/often?

I'm not going to rat out a 16-year-old for smoking pot or having a beer. If he's on meth, or gets wasted regularly, I'd probably speak up.
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August 12th, 2010, 03:26 PM
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Totally depends on circumstances. Pot? no. People I don't know? NO. Sex. no.
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August 12th, 2010, 03:45 PM
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I would tell only if I had proof. I know situations like this can get sour, when the parent is desperate to believe the child when they deny it.
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August 12th, 2010, 04:19 PM
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I would tell only if I had proof. I know situations like this can get sour, when the parent is desperate to believe the child when they deny it.
I would tell regardless of if I had solid proof or not. The fear of a child dying from drugs is more important to me than that. If I'm wrong, so be it. Least I tried.
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August 12th, 2010, 04:30 PM
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I guess it depends on the circumstances. If that kid and my kid were getting into trouble together, you betcha. If my kid comes home and tells me that he's worried about his friend, then yep.

I guess I would hope a parent would do the same for me.
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August 12th, 2010, 05:29 PM
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I think I'm swayed on this because I got grounded for two months in high school because someone told my mom I was smoking pot. Someone next to me was smoking a cigarette when we were spotted, across the parking lot, by my mom's friend.

I would definitely need better proof than THAT before I tattled.
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August 12th, 2010, 05:33 PM
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I have, it ended with the mother flipping out ON ME.
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August 12th, 2010, 05:48 PM
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I have, it ended with the mother flipping out ON ME.
Uh oh... why did she do that? Denial?

As for me, it would depend on the circumstance and substance involved.
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August 12th, 2010, 08:09 PM
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Uh oh... why did she do that? Denial?

As for me, it would depend on the circumstance and substance involved.
I thought it was denial.
She was my ex SIL. I told her because the girl was my niece, and I thought she should know. I cared about her (the girl). My ex SIL has never liked me and was insisting that we were calling her a bad mother, which I was not.

From FB I have learned that she was not in denial, she just had a guilty conscience because SHE is the one who gives her kids booze. I thought she had cleaned up her life, but I guess not.
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August 12th, 2010, 08:42 PM
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I remember we had a thread debating whether or not it was okay to tell another parent that their teen/kid was sexually active with your own. What if you found out your kids friends (close friends) were getting into drugs or drinking? Should you tell their parents what is going on?
Yes. Anything that could potentially harm the child, the parents should be told. And even if it is heresay and it is wrong, it should still start a convo between parents and child and bring them closer together. They should be talking about stuff like this already.
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August 12th, 2010, 09:45 PM
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Yes, I'd definitely tell. I'd want someone to tell me if they thought my kid was drinking or doing drugs. I'd also never be able to live with myself if I had information like that and then something happened to the kid as a result of the drinking/drug use. As an adult I feel it's my responsibility to say something.
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