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November 21st, 2011, 08:37 AM
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Inspired by true events in my neighborhood last night , what is the appropriate hour to wrap up an outdoor party/pool party/kids running around being kids (loudly)?

Does it make a difference if it's a Fri/Sat night vs a weeknight?

I'm curious how everyone feels about this...I wasn't that bothered by it (it wrapped around 10pm) but my husband was a lot less amused - likely because it was so loud it was easily heard w/in our house & we were already struggling to get Savannah asleep.
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November 21st, 2011, 08:57 AM
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Well where we live the noise ordinance goes into effect at 10 pm, all days. However, I would prefer to not have to listen to loud noises past 8 pm so ds1 will stay in bed.
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November 21st, 2011, 09:02 AM
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Depends on the neighborhood. When I was in my early20'sI rented an apartment in a neighborhood that was comprised mainly of single people in their 20-30's so late night outdoor things were fine there.

10pm on weekends seems reasonable enough to me but I think not being super loud after the 8 seems like a neighborly thing to do.
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November 21st, 2011, 09:32 AM
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See, I think a party ending by 1 or 2 am on a weekend is reasonable. Anything after that is too late IMO.
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November 21st, 2011, 09:41 AM
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I think 10 on a weekend is pretty reasonable, anything after that is really rude, IMO.
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November 21st, 2011, 09:46 AM
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On the weekends, I can deal with noise till about 10 -12, but if I recall correctly, city ordinance is until 10. Weeknights, however, I don't want to hear crap past 9PM. I even yell at people who call my house past 9. MIL and SIL are famous for that one.
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November 21st, 2011, 09:55 AM
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On the weekends, I can deal with noise till about 10 -12, but if I recall correctly, city ordinance is until 10. Weeknights, however, I don't want to hear crap past 9PM. I even yell at people who call my house past 9. MIL and SIL are famous for that one.
This is a pet peeve of mine too...and the telemarketers seem to know exactly when we're trying to get Savannah down, and call right then
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November 21st, 2011, 10:39 AM
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I think it's pretty situational. In college, we were surrounded by college kids. Even if we had loud music going until 4 am, our neighbors probably did, too. In grad school, I moved into an area that was had a combination of college kids and families. At that point, I would guess that it was more reasonable to be quiet by 10 pm. Most people, though, seem pretty respectful. I still lived in that complex when DS was born, and the people below me would be blasting music during the day while he was napping. If I went down and asked them to turn it down a little they were always kind about it.

Local ordinances aside, I think it's more about being respectful of people regardless of what time it is, and that's on both sides. The people having the party should be respectful of their neighbors, and the neighbors should respect their right to have people over and noise that goes with it.
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November 21st, 2011, 10:48 AM
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This is exactly why I refuse to live in a neighborhood. Don't like hearing people? Don't live near people. And I'd rather be dead before I live in an appartment. I KNOW I don't like being THAT close to other people.
As for us, I really don't care about the occasional party. I only have 2 neighbors within earshot and they never have parties, but when we did used to live in neighborhoods or around other people who did party I really didn't care one bit if a party went on until the wee hours of the morning. If it was something that happened every single weekend I might ask the neighbors about taking things indoors around midnight, but I just can't see me getting mad at people who just want to have a good time every now and then. When I lived in Virginia my neighbors across the river had a lot of parties and the sound carried across the water. The only thing that ever bothered me was that they listened to country music outside all. day. long. I wouldn't have been so annoyed if they would have justed thrown in some classic rock or something every now and then lol
Whenever we have our arson ceremonies (bonfires a couple times a year lol) we try and have things finished up around or before midnight. If it's a bunch of kids sleeping over, they need to start settling down around 10-ish. And if I was planning something huge, I'd warn my neighbors beforehand and appologize in advance for any bother.
I guess the biggest factor isn't the parties, it's how well you get along with your neighbors in general. If you're going to live near other people there just plain needs to be harmony. If you have annoying neighbors they'll be annoying even without parties and if you get along with your neighbors you can overlook occasional parties or at least talk to them if there's something that bugs you. I guess I'm blessed that both my neighbors are the kind of people that are great to live near. My biggest annoyance around here is that some other "neighbors" from up the road ride their horses across a corner of my lawn as a shortcut to where they cross the creek. Oh well. There are definately worse neighbors than that in this world.
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November 21st, 2011, 11:25 AM
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Our ordinance is 10pm on the weekdays and 11pm on weekends.

I do not think that these are unreasonable. I have pretty decent neighbors and my kids can sleep through hurricanes.
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November 21st, 2011, 12:32 PM
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I don't remember what the ordinance is, but I think it depends a lot on where you live. We have mostly older neighbors(well older than me, and quite a few elderly neighbors in the area too). There are only a few people in our direct area with kids so the loudness pretty much cuts down by 9-10 at the latest on the weekends and 8-9 on week nights. It's even earlier in the fall, winter and spring.

During the summer people are a bit more lenient and a party going until midnight-ish isn't so bad. But most people, except the ones right next door to us, are good neighbors. The twits that live next door are idiots year-round. Whether it's parties(not too often, but annoying when they do have them), or just letting their kids run loose to wreak havoc until 3am. But that should settle down now that they've got themselves in a world of hurt and trouble. No one around here likes them, they're just a menace. No one around this area would blink an eye to anyone else having a semi-late party though. Because everyone's pretty respectful around here. In the actual city I'm sure they enforce the ordinance more, just not here.
If you go a little further east you hit even more rural areas and no one really cares what you do there. Neighbors are miles apart.
We have bonfires at my mom's(they have acreage) a few times a year and everyone in the immediate area knows about them, and are likely there. Those don't wrap up until 3-5am-ish, but they pour into the morning/afternoon the following day too. No one minds, because it's an area they're used to hearing ATVs, bikes and such all the time. So noises aren't a nuisance and we'd never be so loud as to wake anyone. We avoid any property lines when we do go out trail riding, for that reason alone. We're a good 1/2 acre away from anyone's property, except when we cut through walmart back parking lot to avoid the swamp. The fire itself is kinda loud when they first start it, it starts with a huge bang, so they light it around dusk, well before any noise ordinance(if there was one) kicks in. The fire department prefers the fire to be lit before 11, but it's usually lit by 9-9:30. This is just in case they get any odd calls about the bang, or fire, because they get huge and can be seen for miles.
We only had one house get annoyed with us one year, and that wasn't even our fault. Some punks were mudding and cut through their property, they thought it was us. Those same people attend every bonfire now, good way to meet your neighbors from up the street.
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November 21st, 2011, 01:46 PM
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This is exactly why I refuse to live in a neighborhood. Don't like hearing people? Don't live near people. And I'd rather be dead before I live in an appartment. I KNOW I don't like being THAT close to other people.
As for us, I really don't care about the occasional party. I only have 2 neighbors within earshot and they never have parties, but when we did used to live in neighborhoods or around other people who did party I really didn't care one bit if a party went on until the wee hours of the morning. If it was something that happened every single weekend I might ask the neighbors about taking things indoors around midnight, but I just can't see me getting mad at people who just want to have a good time every now and then. When I lived in Virginia my neighbors across the river had a lot of parties and the sound carried across the water. The only thing that ever bothered me was that they listened to country music outside all. day. long. I wouldn't have been so annoyed if they would have justed thrown in some classic rock or something every now and then lol
Whenever we have our arson ceremonies (bonfires a couple times a year lol) we try and have things finished up around or before midnight. If it's a bunch of kids sleeping over, they need to start settling down around 10-ish. And if I was planning something huge, I'd warn my neighbors beforehand and appologize in advance for any bother.
I guess the biggest factor isn't the parties, it's how well you get along with your neighbors in general. If you're going to live near other people there just plain needs to be harmony. If you have annoying neighbors they'll be annoying even without parties and if you get along with your neighbors you can overlook occasional parties or at least talk to them if there's something that bugs you. I guess I'm blessed that both my neighbors are the kind of people that are great to live near. My biggest annoyance around here is that some other "neighbors" from up the road ride their horses across a corner of my lawn as a shortcut to where they cross the creek. Oh well. There are definately worse neighbors than that in this world.

I agree on all accounts! My neighbors can be pretty irresponsible sometimes. Like they can have parties on the weekdays and it can sometimes get loud. If it is 12 am, on a Tuesday, and my kid is having issues sleeping because of it, yeah we are going to have issues. If my neighbors leave out beer bottles... yeah it's a problem. But I stay up late and as long as its not out of control, I dont really mind a little noise. As long as my kid isnt bothered, I dont mind noise, it just needs to not be out of control. I just don't like the beer bottles outside that aren't picked up, or the cigarette butts. But I would never be mad at partying at 10 on the weekends... that is still early and as long as they arent out of control, there is no need for me to be upset.

The only time we have really told them to please be quiet is if they party down in the garage. Then that is right by Lily's window and since she likes to sleep with the window open, she hears everything. She can get a little bugged and there have been a few times we will have to tell them to pipe down or take it to the front yard where she isn't going to hear it at her window. They always quiet down and all is well.

But honestly, harmony is great. Get along with your neighbors and be nice with them, and they will be more apt to listen to "Can you pipe down a little?" rather than hating each other and them telling you to F off if you want them to be a little quieter at 10 on a weekend.
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November 21st, 2011, 05:23 PM
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Guess that's one bright side to living in the far north. This really isn't an issue a good 6 months out of the year!

The only thing that really irks me is the firecrackers in the summer time. Fourth of July? Fine. But all.week.long? Obnoxious.

10 all around seems fine and I'd even say later on a weekend if it's not so out of control my kids can't sleep.
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I hate loud music, barking dogs and people who scream at parties as if they are dying. Which is why I want to move in the next couple of years. Somewhere AWAY from neighborhoods that have people practically on top of one another. I think it's rude ANY time of day to bang your loud music, keep your dog leashed or unhappy so it's just yapping etc. I think have some control and realize NOT EVERYONE wants to hear what you are doing. ANY time of day. I can tolerate a little bit here and there, but every week is ridiculous. Also, I can't stand when people think MY dog wants to play bibi's with you. SHE DOESN'T and when she eats your face, I won't pay a dime because I have warned ya to stop shooting at my fence! (just a vent at the end there...lol)
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November 28th, 2011, 10:35 AM
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We had a neighbor who liked to have parties and my dh made a deal with him. At 10pm he moved his party inside, and in return we would not let our kids play out back before 9am on weekends. We lived in a duplex so it was close quarters. My kids are in bed by 8, so it was still annoying, but I didn't feel like we could expect everyone else to keep our schedule. 10pm seemed reasonable.
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December 27th, 2011, 04:48 AM
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I have never relaly had this issue any where I lived - so I guess that means I don't care. I find it much mor eannoying when the city dcides to do work on teh street at the crack of dawn or tha tmy neighbors seem to want to mow as soon as it's light out on Saturday morning. really? It has to be RIGHT then? My kids don't wake up that early usually and if they do I keep them quiet because & Dh likes to sleep in on the TWO days he gets off in 14....and I think that is reasonable. If you don't want us making loud noise right up until 10pm (after you have gone to bed) just because we legally "can" - then don't start making a crap ton of noise at the first possible moment of the day either IMO. It is light here midsummer until after 9pm - and even though we are later evening folks generally - I would NEVER dream to start mowing my lawn at 845 pm just because I can still see good enough in that light to do it. I would feel RUDE because I KNOW that people & their kids especially are in bed. Likewise, I think it is also rude if you start to mow at 6am just because the sun is up. No one believes that everyone gets up at the butt crack of dawn, so they HAVE to know that SOME neighbors are still trying to sleep. Just sayin'.

Other than loud equipment and really really barky dogs that will not shut up - I don't mind a little bit of noise at any hour. I think it's part of what I actually like about being around people. It is what makes life interesting to me. If you live in the country you don't get invited to stop in & grab a hotdog just because you took the kids for a walk around the block. I feel like small town living is the nicest & easiest place to raise kids. we generally know our neighbors a bit, they are usually friendly & we do invite each other back & forth for cookouts & chat while outside.
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I don't care because my kids wouldn't hear any loud parties from their room. They're not surrounded by houses.

If it were me though, I would wrap it up by 10pm on a weeknight and god knows when on the weekend. I would tell the neighbours I would be having a party. We don't have young children near us, or elderly so I'm sure they wouldn't mind.

If we were in a street where there WERE alot of eldery and/or children then parties would be finished earlier. Have to have respect for the neighbourhood.
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