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November 28th, 2011, 10:21 AM
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Why do you think of people who name a child one thing but call them by another name?

For example giving your child a first name that you don't like and then call them by their middle name. Or known that you like Nathan but name them Nathaniel which you don't like, so you end up calling them Nathan.
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November 28th, 2011, 10:26 AM
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I think nicknames are ok but I met this child one time and his name was James and they called him Trent...? no idea why
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November 28th, 2011, 11:27 AM
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I don't get it. It's confusing & complicated later in life. My ex was a junior & socially went by his middle name. You should have seen the infertilty nurses reaction when I called him by a name different from the one on the insurance card

I get nicknames - Robert is called Bob or Rob. But a completely different name makes no sense to me.
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November 28th, 2011, 11:39 AM
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Eh Lilyin's first real legal name was Lilyin Terry C. We called her Lilyin Marie M. until we could change it in court. We call her Lily or Lilyin.

I just made a huge mistake ever naming her, her original name.
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November 28th, 2011, 11:48 AM
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I have a friend who named her daughter Christina and hates the name, but she hated it before she gave birth. So she calls her daughter by her middle name. I don't get why people use a name they don't even like. Her DH didn't care one way or another and Christina is not a family name. It seems the new trend for many of my clients is to name their daughter Elise by call her Ellie, many have even said they don't like the name Elise.... so why not name your daughter Ellie right off the bat?

I just don't get it at all. When we picked out our boys' names we specifically picked out ones we liked and were not going to shorten them, and if we were to like one that could be shortened and like the short version we would have just used that instead.
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November 28th, 2011, 12:19 PM
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I have the opposite problem. I loved my daughter's name before she was born but I hear it way more now than I ever did while I was pregnant and I'm beginning to hate it.
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November 28th, 2011, 12:28 PM
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I have a friend who named her daughter Christina and hates the name, but she hated it before she gave birth. So she calls her daughter by her middle name. I don't get why people use a name they don't even like. Her DH didn't care one way or another and Christina is not a family name. It seems the new trend for many of my clients is to name their daughter Elise by call her Ellie, many have even said they don't like the name Elise.... so why not name your daughter Ellie right off the bat?

I just don't get it at all. When we picked out our boys' names we specifically picked out ones we liked and were not going to shorten them, and if we were to like one that could be shortened and like the short version we would have just used that instead.
Lily prefers that her family calls her Lilyin, while she prefers those outside of her family to call her Lily. Weirdo. lol

She is called both pretty evenly though. Or "Lil, Lils, Lillers, Lilkins" and a plethora of other variants.

But her original middle and last name was tied to my ex. I HATED her middle name but it was a name my ex wanted. I obliged since it was a family name. Once he left, I changed it. So that's why I changed her name.

I don't really like the name "Marie," but it was my grandmothers name and my Grandma was a huge part of my life which is why Lily is named after her. "Lillian" was the name of my grandfathers sister, so she is named after her (though I didnt name her that for that reason).
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November 28th, 2011, 01:38 PM
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I can't really say I "think" much about them. Personally I don't really care what people name their kids, or call them. Not real sure why anyone would care to be honest. With some of the names people choose I figure I'm better of not giving a fig

All 3 of mine go by a shortened version of their name, or a nickname. For dd2 it's easier because NO ONE ever pronounces her name right and it annoys her. Doctors she has been with all her life still don't get it right. It's not that difficult of a name...Alyssia. She goes by Lissy. I didn't name her Lissy, despite that being what she mostly answers to because when she's an adult Alyssia sounds a bit better than Lissy on a resume I think I could be wrong too, lol. Ds goes by a shortened version of his name(the one I wanted him to be named) because his first name is after his father. Neither one of us(ds and I that is) like his actual first name. But his name sounds fine shortened or not. I wouldn't be surprised if he someday legally changed it. Despite my dislike of his name, I figure it's his name and if he wants it changed someday, I'll leave that up to him.
For a few years he wanted to be called yo-yo and wouldn't answer to anything else. He couldn't say his name. Then shortly after that he spent about 6 months only going by his middle names. He's a lil on the weird side and has some of the strangest phases.
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November 28th, 2011, 01:42 PM
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We named Charlie "Charles" even though we hate the name "Charles". We did it so he could have a grown up sounding Legal name when he was older and he could choose to go by that name if he wanted to. Some names I have a hard time picturing an adult by that name. I know someone who named their daughter Elenora but call her Ellie. Ellie is more a kids name. She wanted her to have an adult sounding name too.

Chris goes by his middle name with his family (Jarred). Chris's mom wanted to name him Jarred, but his dad wanted Chris. His name was supposed to be Jared Christopher but his dad filled out the birth certificate backwards and spelled it wrong. To get back at him his mom called him Jarred anyway. His whole family calls him that even though his friends and myself call him Chris.
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November 28th, 2011, 01:57 PM
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I wouldn't name my child anything that was going to be a nickname on purpose. That's just me. But I don't care what other people do.
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November 28th, 2011, 02:15 PM
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Yeah I don't really care what people name their kids, I just find it odd to name them one thing but call them by a different name. Charlie sounds grown up to me, personally. My mom did that too. She named me Jennifer but had no plans on calling me that. She wanted me to be able to have a grow up name as I got older. But now that I'm a grown up I hate the name Jennifer and I go by Jenn because I think it sounds more grown up and a neater name. I hated Jenny and that is what I was called the first 20 years of my life.

And by neater I don't mean cooler, but neat as in organised.
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November 28th, 2011, 04:00 PM
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I'm like Jillian, I wouldn't name my kid something that I was going to shorten on purpose. But I also think like Beth. I like my kids to have adult sounding names once they're grown. DH is called by his middle name. He's a junior, so to stop the confusion all his friends and family call him Kevin. I really wanted to make lil guys middle name, Antonio, his first name. But it didn't sound right with Kevin being a middle name. So I made it his first. I always said I would call him Antonio but never do. Only when he's in trouble. lol Now, we call him Kev or Kevy Kev all the time. I see no issues with nicknames or shortened names. Personally, I could give a rats bottom what you name your child.
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November 28th, 2011, 04:26 PM
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I agree with not caring what people name their kids, all though a naming pet peeve of mine is the appostrophies in names!

I'm in the camp that I wouldn't name my child something if I intended on calling them only by their middle name, unless it was. Jr./Sr./III, etc situation. Other than that I'm a big fan of names that are great for adults but have cute nicknames for use as a child. My full first name is very adult and official, but I choose to go by a cute nickname (IMO). I can see myself not wanting to use it as I get older, though. Being called Lexi at 50 just sounds weird to me, haha!
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November 28th, 2011, 04:30 PM
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We named our son Alexander. It's a strong name. Everyone in the world tries to call him Alex. We call him AJ (James is his middle name) and request him NOT to be called Alex. #1 we hate it #2 HE hates it. But as he gets older he can choose to call himself Alexander and it's a reasonably adult-like name and not off the wall for when he wants to be Doctor Alexander (and our Last name here) lol .
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November 28th, 2011, 06:25 PM
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The apostrophe in names is an ethnic thing isn't it?
The only one that we don't call by their name is RJ, RJ stands for Robert Jr. I don't even call him Robert when he's in trouble I call him Reynolds LOL. We call him RJ Reynolds sometimes as a nick name. I don't think we ever intended for him to be called Robert. I DO encourage his teacher to write that name on some of his school stuff so he learns to write it and visually identify it though. I'm not a big fan of Sydney's middle name, so when she's in trouble I don't use it like I use the other kids' middle names.
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November 28th, 2011, 06:56 PM
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I wouldn't name a child something I hated or even disliked. It really doesn't make sense to me. However, I named my first Conner knowing I would shorten it to "CJ" at times, which I do pretty frequently. He still does get called Conner by most people, including his dad. I just like Cj.
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November 28th, 2011, 07:20 PM
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lol I deal with this every day!

DH is Samuel Woodrow.. but goes by Woody. Has his whole life. He was named after his dad (Sammie) and a deceased uncle Woody (who's name was woodrow). So we've got a "use the middle name" and "nickname" going on with him.

I just shake my head and warn him we're not doing it to future kids!
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November 29th, 2011, 06:31 AM
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We named our kids what we were going to call them.

To the earlier mom whose son goes through phases with different names - that was me. My parents would pick me up from summer camp and ask for Suzanne. No one would know who Suzanne is. I'd pick a different name every summer and go with it (Beth, Amy, Elizabeth, Mandie - usually names that had nothing to do with my real name).
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November 29th, 2011, 08:08 AM
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Considering my son is William, but has been called Billy from the day he was born, I have no problem with it. My husband is also William and goes by Billy.
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I call my children by their names I gave them but Norah doesn't really have a shortened version and I don't like Nathan or Nate as a nickname for Nathaniel. But if I wanted to call my daughter Ellie, I would give her a longer name to shorten so if she ended up wanting a more mature name then she'd have it. I would never name my child something I hated though, if I hated every long name for Ellie and loved Ellie enough, I'd just name her that.

I go by the nickname of my middle name (my name is Brandi Danielle but I go by Dani) but if I wanted to change my name, I wouldn't change it legally to Dani. I would just take out Brandi and make Danielle my first name, just to keep my options open.
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