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January 18th, 2012, 10:51 PM
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Co-worker of mine says his wife has been in labor for weeks after her water breaking. She's been at NINE cm this whole time (it's been 2 weeks since he's told us and it was like 3-4 days before that her water broke, according to him). He says that a nurse comes and administers IV's at home because her pregnancy is extremely high-risk, yet she is NOT interested in a home birth! I realize he's a man, but c'mon, something is amiss here! After I questioned him, the IV's at home turned into pills she's taking....

Today he comes in and says that his wife is now bleeding...yet no one has decided this baby should come or that she should be monitored in any way. She's due Jan 29th supposedly and today he said that SHE scheduled an induction at 4pm this afternoon (still awaiting word on if a baby has been born).

NONE of this sounds right to me. Something is off. Either he's really stupid and just doesn't know a darn thing (although, he supposedly has another child from another relationship so...) or he's just outright lying. I used to work for the hospital he is going to be delivering at. Their protocol is NOTHING at all like what he says.

In fact, I just delivered there in JULY and their protocol again, is nothing like what he says.

What I have said to you is ALL that he's told us. There is nothing else to the story because he says that she's high-risk and has not disclosed exactly why. I realize we're not entitled to any explanations, but seriously, I think he's lying about a lot of these things.

I mean WHAT hospital allows someone whose water broke and is at 9cm dilated to walk around at home and just do all her stuff at home when she doesn't want a home birth and is having "complications"? Am I just overthinking this whole thing or does he sound kind of full of it?
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January 19th, 2012, 05:21 AM
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Well, he sounds full of it, but the hospital does not allow you to do anything. You can labor for weeks at 9cm at home if that is your choice. What are they going to do, strap her down and take her to the hospital? But like I said, he is probably fully of it or does not know a **** thing about labor.
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January 19th, 2012, 07:06 AM
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Sounds like he's full of it. I thought that once your water was broken the risk of infection was so high that you had to deliver shortly after and the hospital would not release you? Either he's full of it or she's feeding him a load of bull. Either way there are too many lies floating about.

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January 19th, 2012, 07:57 AM
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January 19th, 2012, 08:21 AM
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Sounds like BS to me. So many things in the story is not right. You don't need to deliver in a set amount of time once water breaks, because if you yourself is getting enough fluids either by mouth or IV then your amniotic fluids will constantly refill itself, which is why some women can have a slow leak for most of their pregnancy and still deliver at 40 weeks. Most women when the water breaks don't gush over and over. You may have a gush here and there when you stand up or move positions because the head will shift and allow more fluid to come out, but most of the time it's just leaking or a stream. With ds2 my water broke before contractions started and in my 25 hour labor I probably gushed 5 times, all when I stood up after sitting for awhile. However, the infection rate does go up, but again, that can be decreased by not sticking anything in your vagina, change your pad frequently, wash your vulva when you take a bath/shower, some OBs and MWs suggest spraying the toilet seat before you go to the bathroom. But if she is high risk and her water broke then she'd most likely be in the hospital.

At 9 cms most women start to feel the urge to push, not always, but many times without medications you'll feel the urge at 9 cm and that first few pushes will complete the last cm. Now granted sometimes women do get stuck at 9 cm and need a c-section, pitocin, etc to help finish the birth. But I find it hard to believe that she's just walking around for weeks at 9 cm and hasn't been in intense contractions and/or no one has said maybe she needs some help to finish. Is anyone even monitoring the baby at all? I mean contractions can be hard on the baby as it squishes them, and to be at 9 cm for weeks could put baby in distress, it can do that in just hours.
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January 19th, 2012, 08:42 AM
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maybe she was on a pump at home for PTL and he was explaining it as an IV? Also she could have been having a slow leak of amniotic fluids. I was on magnesium/hospital bed rest for a LARGE chunk of my pregnancy and when they started to ween me for discharge this protocol was touched upon. Thankfully I responded somewhat ok to oral meds.

It just seems strange to me that they would still be attempting to slow/stop things when she is only 10 days from her due date

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January 19th, 2012, 09:08 AM
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Something sounds off to me
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January 19th, 2012, 09:17 AM
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Guaranteed she peed he pants in front of him, got embarrassed about it and blamed it on her "water breaking." No one walks around for WEEKS after their water breaks.
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January 19th, 2012, 12:38 PM
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Quite possible he's an idiot and she's lied to him about everything too. Not all women are the sharpest crayon in the box either.
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January 19th, 2012, 02:24 PM
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DH's ex's membranes were broken for 3 weeks before Reme was delivered via emergency c-section. She spent those 3 weeks flat on her back or slightly reclined. Granted, she wasn't yet 30 weeks when her water broke, but protocol was full hospital bed rest, fluids and antibiotics.

So I call bull on it.

Can you even walk at 9cm? I could see that being more than a little uncomfortable? And I'd be worried that somehow the cord would come down and prolapse.
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January 19th, 2012, 02:56 PM
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^ You can walk at 9 cm. 9 cm won't affect everyone the same. Some will be in transition, which can be painful and/or intense, others may be pushing at that time, some may have cramps but may not be that bad, etc. Some may not be able to walk or be on their feet at 9 cm, it really depends. For me I was walking, standing and squating at 9 cms, as I did my entire labor except for a few times where I sat down. However, I wouldn't have been able to go for a walk at that point, but I did do some laps in my house.

Cord prolapse is a concern with having the waters broken/leaking for a prolonged amount of time.
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January 19th, 2012, 04:14 PM
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I think he's just lying plain out or is really stupid. He told us today that she was induced last night at 11:30ish PM and that she's not progressed but after all the things I posted above, they are still making her wait to deliver. I just don't think he has a clue or he's FOS trying to get off work tomorrow or something. lol

Oh and now she's not his "wife" she's now downgraded to "fiancee". I'm so confused
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January 19th, 2012, 06:04 PM
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I think all I can do at this point is laugh because the whole thing is ridiculous
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