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  #1  
February 27th, 2012, 08:22 PM
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I hear this line a lot from women for all sorts of things regarding parenting. Do you believe that as a mother you always know best?
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February 27th, 2012, 08:51 PM
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no.
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February 27th, 2012, 08:57 PM
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No way. I am always learning as a mother. I would never claim to know what the best thing for my child is all the time.
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February 27th, 2012, 09:10 PM
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Nope.

It's not humanly possible to always know best, even for yourself, much less for others. Everyone makes wrong choices, bad decisions, etc...
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February 27th, 2012, 10:00 PM
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What do you mean, exactly? Are you asking if mothers tend to know better than fathers what is best for their children?
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February 28th, 2012, 06:20 AM
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I don't think I make every decision perfectly but if it comes to a decision about the kids, I get final say because I do know whats best for them. Since I am the primary parent, I know what they need better than he does.
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February 28th, 2012, 06:26 AM
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If we're just talking in general, no.
If we're talking specific situations, sometimes mom does know best.
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February 28th, 2012, 07:06 AM
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No way. Are there times when we know whats best because we've been there, ya. But it's not an end all solution.
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February 28th, 2012, 08:30 AM
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I ment in general.

I think as moms, and even dads, we're always learning. And even in the just 4 1/2 years that ds1 has been on this Earth, I have come a long ways. Some things we do are by instincts, well most of it, but some things we've had to adjust to specific needs of our kids. I also think we can learn a lot from other parents, both older and newer.
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February 28th, 2012, 12:11 PM
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Absolutely not in a general sense. Think off all the mothers you have heard spout stupidity regarding their children and their needs. Like- Mother knows best when she gives her baby Mountain Dew, because well, she's the mom.

In some situations- sure, you spend the most time with your child, you are going to pick up on things and know tings more so than others.
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February 28th, 2012, 09:17 PM
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As a general rule, I know best because my son says I'm the bestest mom ever in the whole wide world.

But truth be told....I'm just a mom.

I don't strive to be supermom. I don't want to beat every other woman out there at the game of "Mom". I don't think I'm better than everyone else. I don't think I'm above all else. I don't believe that my mistakes are somehow different from mistakes other moms make.
Most importantly, I'm smart enough to know that nothing, and no one, in this world is perfect, including me.

I do what I can, when I can. When what I can do isn't the best, I learn, and when/if given the chance later, I do better. I don't magically have all the answers stored neatly in my grey matter simply because I have children. To be honest, I'm kinda glad I don't have all the answers. I'd never get my shirts over the the big noggin' I'd need to store all that data.
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February 29th, 2012, 06:58 PM
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I'm the best mom on this planet.
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March 1st, 2012, 11:44 AM
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Not really. I believe that MY mother knows best, usually. lol I still call her about EVERY. SINGLE. THING.
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March 3rd, 2012, 09:22 PM
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No.

For example, as I raise my toddler who is in day care, for some issues I think his teachers know best. Or at least better. Something like potty training--they have gone through it with dozens of children. Some maybe hundreds. I have never done it. I can read about it, and talk to other parents, but the best way to approach something can be by experience.
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March 4th, 2012, 03:44 AM
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I remember being little and mom and dad maybe disagreeing about something I asked to do or something like that... Then I would go sulk, and dad would never admit it to mom, but he would to me. He would say your mom knows best. She's never been wrong about anything that matters. Of course he'd never say this to her, not even to this day, but he would admit it to us kids at times
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March 6th, 2012, 09:14 PM
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Pffft, no way do I know best. I do make decent guesses and am great at pretending I know almost right with the kids at least.
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March 7th, 2012, 06:14 AM
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Heck no. Especially when I hear/see someone use this argument to defend something really asinine and outdated. "It's my child, I know best!!!!" No, you don't, because you clearly haven't researched it. You can't use the "mom" reason as a blanket defense for stupidity.
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April 14th, 2012, 09:15 AM
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Not always, but in my case yes

I used to royally p**s my ex off because I always made the final decison.
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June 16th, 2012, 07:17 PM
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Nope,being a first time mom i'm still learning and i encourage input from my mom or sister on what to do.
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June 16th, 2012, 08:59 PM
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In general, no.

Obviously there are certain times when I know best, like when my 4yr old wants ice cream for breakfast, and I say, "No, ice cream is not a breakfast food"

But life is all about learning, there is no person who knows everything, we learn up until the day we die, life would be so uninteresting if we didn't. So no one knows best all the time.
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