[LifeToTheMax]

General question, what about (non-grandparent/family) babysitters, if you use/will use them, especially as your young children get older? Would you feel comfortable allowing them to place your children in time out or similarly discipline the children? Or would you prefer that if it got to the point where the child needed a time out or stern discussion that they call you to come home instead?

[GSLynn]

^When I babysat, people expected me to discipline. They outlined what I was to do (no corporal punishment allowed). If I called them every time their kid did something stupid/rotten/bad, they'd be jobless.

[BittyBugsMama]

If I leave my child in the care of a sitter or a grandparent, then disciplining along my parenting styles is allowed.

[LifeToTheMax]

Just wondering That's how I always approached the situation as a babysitter, and that is what I would want from a babysitter, as well.

[K.A.T]

Only discipline allowed is time outs and verbal.

[May14th2011]

It depends on who I'm babysitting- if it's my nieces and nephews, I'm comfortable with swatting them on the butt if need be.
If it's a babysitting job, or nannying job, I put them in time-out, take away their toys, etc.

As for the original scenario... I would find out from the other mother what happened (If I was the mother of the teen who got yelled at) and compare the stories. I can't tell you how many times I've been accused of stuff like that, when it's nothing close to what really happened.
As for the mom getting pissy because you don't jump to her side... People who act like that irritate me.

[HappyHippy]

If it's a non-family member then I would tell them how to discipline, and what to discipline for (I've had some friends who would get annoyed with the kids and discipline all willy nilly). If it was something major then I'd ask them to call me. I can't think of something major right now though, as my kids are only 4 and almost 2.

[*Dayna*]

Verbal I can deal with, but physical is another story.

If my child was going to do something dangerous at someone elses house - run on the road etc, then I think I would want them to smack his or her butt.