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April 14th, 2012, 09:50 AM
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When I had my son, I was clueless. When my second child came around, I was obviously more comfortable dealing with a newborn.

What did you do with your first that you haven't done with your second?
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April 14th, 2012, 09:53 AM
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I have pretty much done everything exactly the same.
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April 14th, 2012, 09:58 AM
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Didn't do anything different that I can think of.
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April 14th, 2012, 09:59 AM
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I have pretty much done everything exactly the same.
I haven't.

With my son if he cried I picked him up straight away.

With my daughter, I was able to let her cry for longer.
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April 14th, 2012, 11:21 AM
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After my first one I decided to not teach any of my other kids to talk, but they figured it out on their own.
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April 14th, 2012, 11:23 AM
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I haven't.

With my son if he cried I picked him up straight away.

With my daughter, I was able to let her cry for longer.
I have 4 and I still pick them up as soon as they cry.

I didn't cloth diaper until my 3rd, but everything else I have pretty much been consistent on.


ETA: After thinking about it I realized that I fed my first solids at 4 months, didn't feed the rest until at least 6 months. I forward faced my first at 10 months because she was well over the weight limit. My 2+ year old is still rear facing and will be for the foreseeable future because I realize how dumb I was the first time around.
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April 14th, 2012, 11:41 AM
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After my first one I decided to not teach any of my other kids to talk, but they figured it out on their own.
This made me laugh.


I have no baby's yet, but DH has a few feelings about things he doesn't want done when we have one. There are a few things they did with Reme that he doesn't want done so we don't have to deal with it.
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April 14th, 2012, 11:42 AM
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After my first one I decided to not teach any of my other kids to talk, but they figured it out on their own.
My son didn't really talk until he was four. I was so worried,now I wish he would shut up.

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I have 4 and I still pick them up as soon as they cry.

I didn't cloth diaper until my 3rd, but everything else I have pretty much been consistent on.


ETA: After thinking about it I realized that I fed my first solids at 4 months, didn't feed the rest until at least 6 months. I forward faced my first at 10 months because she was well over the weight limit. My 2+ year old is still rear facing and will be for the foreseeable future because I realize how dumb I was the first time around.
That's okay, no need to make a sad face.

Ahh yes, the forward facing thing. My son was turned on his first birthday,my daughter not until she was two.

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This made me laugh.


I have no baby's yet, but DH has a few feelings about things he doesn't want done when we have one. There are a few things they did with Reme that he doesn't want done so we don't have to deal with it.
What doesn't he want done?
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April 14th, 2012, 11:43 AM
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This really doesn't have to do with what I did with my son, but rather with other people in regards to my son. I would've said no to people visiting any time of the day to see him.
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April 14th, 2012, 11:46 AM
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This really doesn't have to do with what I did with my son, but rather with other people in regards to my son. I would've said no to people visiting any time of the day to see him.
While in hospital or are you meaning at any time regarding naps?
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April 14th, 2012, 11:49 AM
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I worried less as to what age they should be potty trained by.
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April 14th, 2012, 11:54 AM
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I worried less as to what age they should be potty trained by.
Same. With the 2nd it was more of a go with the flow thing.

Man, first babies are so hard.
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April 14th, 2012, 12:22 PM
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So far I haven't done anything really different. Even with all my kids being so spaced apart, I still did everything the same.

Only time will tell with this one. I might cloth diaper, that will be different. If I can successfully breast feed that will be different too. I'll be baby wearing this time around more often.

There were others things between my first two that I was forced to do differently, like having to pick up lil man right away when he cried. His umbilical hernia would have gotten worse if I let him cio. Before I knew he officially had it, I did let him cio some. Feel horrible for that now. But if he didn't have it, I would have let him cio like with T.
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April 14th, 2012, 02:05 PM
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I was thinking more along the lines of parenting philosophies like discipline and such.

So, with that in mind and thinking more about it, some changes:
Cloth diapered with DD2
Not worried about potty-training time-frame like I was with DD1
Didn't attempt Breastfeeding with DD1, but did with DD2
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April 14th, 2012, 02:09 PM
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While in hospital or are you meaning at any time regarding naps?

Regarding naps.
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April 14th, 2012, 02:15 PM
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Not be so paranoid or say, "Well, the experts say........."
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April 14th, 2012, 02:22 PM
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Not be so paranoid or say, "Well, the experts say........."

Sometimes I think I am not paranoid enough. I am very, "kids develop at their own speed."
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April 14th, 2012, 02:25 PM
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What doesn't he want done?
They practiced no control when purchasing things for Reme. So it's not uncommon for them to buy him 5 of something rather than buying him one. Now he's 6 and has come to expect that if he asks for a transformer, there will be 5 or more under the Christmas Tree.

Example:



That's his birthday gift from his father. Yes, that's 7 gifts, with 2 figurines in each package. I tried to talk him into saving half for Christmas.. but didn't happen.

The two exceptions I make to our new rule is Lego kits and his Skylander figures. The figures are dang hard to find, so I've been buying them for his birthday. But my goals is to get his mom to pay for half, of them so it doesn't look like we bought him a whole bunch. And we are actively trying to get a decent sized Lego collection because they help his (very poor) fine motor skills. I suspect we will all see Lego under the tree this year. lol.

Because of their liberal giving of gifts, there are 3 30gallon plastic totes of JUST Star wars toys that have to come to my house this summer, not including his large AT AT toy. NO idea where we are going to put them. But since DH is a collector "goodwill" isn't an option. They'll join the 12 30gallon totes of 70's and 80's era star wars toys that DH already has in our apartment.


Another thing is he didn't get a bedtime until he started school. That will definitely not be the case with future kids. Late nights will be for Friday's, Summers and School breaks.

This one might sound trivial.. but if our kids do get the joys of takeout (verdict on whether I plan on even allowing that or not is still out) they will be required to eat their meal before they get the Toy. Reme wont touch his food until he has the toy in his hand.
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April 14th, 2012, 04:42 PM
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Oh man, I am but a shadow of my old self, LOL! The old cloth-diapering, anti-vaxing, anti-spanking, soy-eating vegetarian has evolved into the new disposable-diapering, pro-vaxing, occasionally spanking, mostly primal meat-eater! The things I did the same with all three kids was co-sleeping, extended breastfeeding, baby-led solids and extended rear-facing.
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April 14th, 2012, 05:31 PM
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Not be so paranoid or say, "Well, the experts say........."
Does anyone with older kids remember Rugrats? Didi constantly going "Lipschutz says" and walking around with a parenting manual always cracked me up. Until I realised that I was doing the same.

I was certianly more lax with #5 then I was with #1. I remember when Dita was a baby, if we were going out, anywhere, even 10mins down the road to MIL and FIL's house, we would pack this bag, nappies, bottles, toys, baby wipes, baby powder, a spare change of clothes, a blanket, a towel, everything. With Sasha, once I remember we took all the kids to Kryal Castle (a big medieval theme park thing) about 2 hours from our house and we forgot to pack nappies. We had to stop off at a supermarket on the way to buy some.
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