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June 8th, 2012, 12:17 PM
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'You're not special' | HLNtv.com

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“You are not special. You are not exceptional,” he continued. “Contrary to what your U-9 soccer trophy suggests, your glowing seventh-grade report card, despite every assurance of a certain corpulent purple dinosaur, that nice Mister Rogers and your batty Aunt Sylvia, no matter how often your maternal caped crusader has swooped in to save you… you’re nothing special.”
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“Yes, you’ve been pampered, cosseted, doted upon, helmeted, bubble-wrapped. Yes, capable adults with other things to do have held you, kissed you, fed you, wiped your mouth, wiped your bottom, trained you, taught you, tutored you, coached you, listened to you, counseled you, encouraged you, consoled you and encouraged you again,” he said.
Buzzkill? Wrong time to say the right thing? Too harsh? Or just a good dose of reality to get these kids off on the right path?
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June 8th, 2012, 12:59 PM
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My issue with his speech is with the 2nd quote in your post. How does he know every student was doted on and encouraged? Did he go to each student's home to see how they are cared for and supported?
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June 8th, 2012, 02:29 PM
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IDK, I think kids need to be let know they're not better than anyone else, that's what I think he was trying to tell them. As far as the 2nd quote, SOMEONE helped raise those kids. If it wasn't their parents, it was a foster parent, a teacher, a friend. Kids don't usually just raise themselves, and even the ones who do get forced into adulthood at some point, they were helped along the way even if very little, so I still see it as something he just needed to get off his chest.

I'd like to know what prompted the speech, though. People don't just say things just to do it. He had a reason.
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June 8th, 2012, 03:34 PM
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I think my kids teachers have made the "youre not special, quite acting so entitled" speech countless times over the years and it never made the news.

Its something kids need to hear, because its true.
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June 10th, 2012, 11:03 AM
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Here's the speech.
I thought it was good.
Watch the Full Video of Wellesley High School Teacher‘s You’re Not Special Speech | Video | TheBlaze.com
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Decent message, bad timing. I'm sorry, but these kids have worked for 13 years to get to their graduation day, some harder than others. How did he know he was sitting in a ceremony full of entitled children? I'm so sick of people griping about entitled generations, and somehow they forget who raised them, taught them, mentored them, etc. Every generation says the same things about the ones after them.

I think he is a buzzkill. That speech isn't likely to change an entitled kids perspective on life, so I think it was a big waste of time. Honestly, it even feels a little self-serving to me. Shock value, uppity, etc.

Oh, and I am just going by the comments in the OP. I applaud some of the other parts of the speech, but was disappointed in others.
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June 10th, 2012, 01:31 PM
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Looks like the speech was recieved well for the most part. If you actually watch the speech, it was quite humorous.

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The reaction to the teacher's blunt advice was overwhelmingly positive, both
from students at the receiving end of the reality check and people who saw the
speech as it circulated the Internet this week.

"For once someone told us what we need to hear and not necessarily what we
wanted to hear," said one commenter on The Swellesley Report.

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I don't like it. I think everyone is special in their own way. No two people are exactly alike. But this uniqueness doesn't necessarily mean you are better than anyone else, or entitled to anything, which I think is what he was going for. I don't believe that everyone is good at everything (or should be told there are), but I do believe everyone is good at something. No we shouldn't be giving trophies to everyone that shows up, but we shouldn't stop giving out trophies to those who earned them either.

I think I agree with his meaning, but not how he said it.
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How did he know he was sitting in a ceremony full of entitled children? .
He's their teacher
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He's their teacher
So?

Unless he was the only teacher for a manditory class it is unlikely he taught all of them. Half the teachers in my high school (1000 kids 10th to 12th grade) had no idea who I was. In fact the one who gave the address at our grad had taught only about 25% of us.

I think it is ok to tell them they are not entitled to anything. But I disagree that they are not special. They just are not more special than anyone else.
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So?

Unless he was the only teacher for a manditory class it is unlikely he taught all of them. Half the teachers in my high school (1000 kids 10th to 12th grade) had no idea who I was. In fact the one who gave the address at our grad had taught only about 25% of us.

I think it is ok to tell them they are not entitled to anything. But I disagree that they are not special. They just are not more special than anyone else.
Did you watch the entire speech or read the excerpt I posted? The reaction from the students was overwhelmingly positive.

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The reaction to the teacher's blunt advice was overwhelmingly positive, both

from students at the receiving end of the reality check and people who saw
the
speech as it circulated the Internet this week.
"For once
someone told us what we need to hear and not necessarily what we
wanted to
hear," said one commenter on The Swellesley Report.
To the bolded in your post, that was his point.
Teacher defends "You're not special" speech - CBS News
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McCullough ended his speech with, "Selflessness is the best thing you can do for
yourself. The sweetest joys of life, then, come only with the recognition that
you're not special - because everyone is. Congratulations, good luck. Make for
yourselves, please for your sake and ours, extraordinary lives."
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I liked the speech, completely and utterly. I'm not at all surprised it was received well, either.
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