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June 8th, 2012, 11:23 AM
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Is it a step in the wrong direction for women to wear Spanx?
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June 8th, 2012, 11:47 AM
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Oppress - no.

Compress - yes.

Seriously, unless a woman is being told she must wear Spanx in order to keep her job, I don't see how it is taking women in the wrong direction. In fact, I would say it is the other way around. Perhaps a woman who is not confident due to how her body looks gets confidence by wearing Spanx, which may lead to confidence in other areas of her life.
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June 8th, 2012, 02:16 PM
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Spanx no more oppress than a push up bra, make up, hair dye, high heels, or any of the other million things women do/wear/use to make themselves look whatever way they want to look-be it to enhance or fix that which they like/do not like.
Of course men do many of these same things, and it's not oppressing them either. Or rather, shouldn't be.

If women find it oppressing, they're probably looking a little too hard for something to be oppressing(or offensive, which is probably more accurate). Which boggles my mind more than slightly.

Personally I don't take a whole lot of effort to fix my blemishes in life, regardless of what they are. They are what they are, lol. But I see nothing wrong with any other person, woman or man, doing whatever it is they want to do to fix/cover up their own. It's none of my business and frankly I'm not certain it should be the business of anyone else, either. I don't really care much why others choose to cover up, or fix whatever it is they dislike about themselves, minor or major. I'm not going to judge them on that one because I'm not them and can't possibly understand. In the same way that I'd prefer not to be judged because I choose not to worry about such things in the same way(s) they do.

I don't get how "powerful" has anything at all to do with it. People are people and though I realize some people place others at higher standards(and I'm sure I do myself at times too), they are all still human. Power should have nothing at all to do with it. Powerful women are no different than powerful men and shouldn't be held to a different standard based on what they do or do not fix about themselves simply because they're female.
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I think it would be more oppressive for women to be unable, or not allowed to use any appearance altering clothing or cosmetics than it would be for a woman to have a choice between using them or not.
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I'll just ditto Frackel on this one.
If you look hard enough for something to be offended by, you will find it but this is no worse than all the other stuff that people do to "improve" their looks.
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June 8th, 2012, 04:50 PM
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I wore spanks to my wedding, I don't think I'd have allowed photos if I hadn't. I shed them and stuck them in my purse when I started drinking.. because while they were flattering during my ceremony, when the alcohol started filtering through my kidneys, they were just a PITA.


I rather agree with Frackel, someone's looking too hard.


Now.. if someone told me I had to wear them every day.... there might be some spanx burning going on...
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Hmm, no. If people like it, good, if they don't, don't wear it. We all have "blemishes" on our body, some decide to "hide" them or whatever, and others don't. Freedom of choice I suppose.
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No. Like other people have said, someone is looking to hard for something to be oppressive. I also agree with the sentiment that it's different if you are told you HAVE to wear them, but that's not happening, so no, they aren't oppressive. They are amazing, though Especially the Spanx bathing suit
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The only thing that oppresses women are women themselves. If they have the attitude that something oppresses them, then it does. Personally, I don't want to wear anything that is uncomfortable, so as long as I'm not letting it hang out? I am going to dress how I want. I don't really care much about what people think about me as far as looks go. If they don't like my looks? God made a head so they could turn away, lol. I'm not here to make sure people like me, I'm here for some other reason I have yet to figure out. I don't see why anyone should ever feel that they must change or do this or that or wear some stupid uncomfortable thing to 'feel' good about themselves. Confidence doesn't come from things or flaws being hidden, it comes from inside you. I knew a beautiful girl once, she was beautiful and I was always jealous as a teen of her. She had the body everyone wanted, the perfect tan, perfect blondish-brown hair (never one out of place it seemed), perfect teeth, blue eyes, and always wore the most stylish clothes. Her parents did well for themselves and even her MOM was beautiful. This girl, who had everything most people I know would KILL for, tried to kill herself---twice. The first time, she was revived by paramedics. The 2nd time, her mother caught her and got her to the hospital in time. Whatever caused this girl to behave that way, wasn't her looks.
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I don't think this is so much about spanx but more about the fact that our society and culture still places much more focus and ridiculous standards on a woman's appearance than her male counterpart.

You don't see normal sized to slender males running around in girdles yet it is a regular practice among women of the same body types. Spanx (and the like products) are a symptom of an overall wrong on how we perpetuate an unrealistic body standard.
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I don't think this is so much about spanx but more about the fact that our society and culture still places much more focus and ridiculous standards on a woman's appearance than her male counterpart.

You don't see normal sized to slender males running around in girdles yet it is a regular practice among women of the same body types. Spanx (and the like products) are a symptom of an overall wrong on how we perpetuate an unrealistic body standard.
I would agree with that. I would say the same for make up as well. We don't expect men to wear make up to look "better", but make up is very common on women in the US and like societies.
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I don't think this is so much about spanx but more about the fact that our society and culture still places much more focus and ridiculous standards on a woman's appearance than her male counterpart.

You don't see normal sized to slender males running around in girdles yet it is a regular practice among women of the same body types. Spanx (and the like products) are a symptom of an overall wrong on how we perpetuate an unrealistic body standard.
I agree with this. Spanx in theory, aren't the problem. It's when women feel the need to wear them due to insecurities or wanting approval from others. Men do things to their body, but there is no where near the amount of pressure they recieve that women recieve. Look at TV. You'll often see an unnattractive man with a hot wife/girlfriend, but never the other way around. In fact, you'll rarely see an unnattractive woman on TV unless she is in a very degrading role. (And yes there are a few exceptions)

We would of course have to put spanx in the same category of make up, hair treatments, and any other beauty treatments. Men can roll out of bed, put on some clothes, and go to work. Women are often expected to wake up, fix their hair, put on make up, ect which makes their time getting ready MUCH longer and possibly more stressful.

I'm not saying that they should be banned or that women should not wear them. Everyone should be allowed the choice. I just wish more women would realize what they are perpetuating.
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I think it becomes a problem when women feel forced to wear them or not be treated equally. If a women feels like she won't get a job, or will be discriminated against in another way, because she doesn't wear them then it's a problem. I'm not sure if it's to that point because I'm not working or looking for a job at the moment.

I do feel like make-up is a problem. I do not wear make-up and don't feel like I should have to. I've been told countless times that not wearing make-up is unprofessional or that wearing it would make me look so much more polished, but men aren't held to that standard.
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I think it becomes a problem when women feel forced to wear them or not be treated equally. If a women feels like she won't get a job, or will be discriminated against in another way, because she doesn't wear them then it's a problem. I'm not sure if it's to that point because I'm not working or looking for a job at the moment.

I do feel like make-up is a problem. I do not wear make-up and don't feel like I should have to. I've been told countless times that not wearing make-up is unprofessional or that wearing it would make me look so much more polished, but men aren't held to that standard.
I loathe makeup, so I'm right there with you. I do not wear it, ever, and don't ever plan on it either. I've never been a fan of it and if no one has given me a reason to do so by now, I doubt they ever will.
I have heard more than once at a job that not wearing makeup is unprofessional. Really? I guess if my profession was being a makeup model then yeah, that's applicable, but it's not now nor will it ever be. I find many of the expectations people have(and it's not just men expecting it of us women, in fact I think women are even worse on each other than men are in this respect) quite unprofessional, but they don't see me blabbing it every chance I get. Sometimes opinions are best left in your head. That's where I think a lot of these "judgment calls" people make on the appearance of others, ought to remain.
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I don't wear make up either. And when I do its barely noticeable. I have better things to do than paint my face with stuff that gives me pimples. And I'm an eye rubber so I look like a racoon after 2hrs. Even when I worked retail the most you'd catch me wearing was lip gloss.
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I loathe makeup, so I'm right there with you. I do not wear it, ever, and don't ever plan on it either. I've never been a fan of it and if no one has given me a reason to do so by now, I doubt they ever will.
I have heard more than once at a job that not wearing makeup is unprofessional. Really? I guess if my profession was being a makeup model then yeah, that's applicable, but it's not now nor will it ever be. I find many of the expectations people have(and it's not just men expecting it of us women, in fact I think women are even worse on each other than men are in this respect) quite unprofessional, but they don't see me blabbing it every chance I get. Sometimes opinions are best left in your head. That's where I think a lot of these "judgment calls" people make on the appearance of others, ought to remain.

I agree with you 100% with the bolded. Women are far more judgmental of each other than men are of women. Quite a few men do not like make-up on women. My husband is one of them. He has told me so many times that I look 100 times better without it, yet I don't feel 100% comfy without it at work. I don't wear fully spackled on makeup - (today I have on sunblock and Stila Blemish Balm) There has to be a reason I don't feel comfy going totally make-up free at work, but will go without make-up all weekend.
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I think women are more judgmental too. I see it all the time, women breaking down one another.
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