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  #1  
July 4th, 2012, 08:24 AM
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Do you have any restrictions or rules for your kids clothing?
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July 4th, 2012, 11:42 AM
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I haven't had my first one yet but I tend to not like clothing or bibs that say "My mom is hotter than your mom." I dunno I find it a little shallow and why is my son finding me hot? And maybe I've over reacting on this but it seems to promote the idea that a woman's looks are her most important asset.

I've also never liked girl clothes that say things such as princess, spoiled, or anything to do with their looks. I also don't like over sexualized outfits for young girls.
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July 4th, 2012, 02:06 PM
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I'm generally pretty light with my kids and what they wear. With my older ones I take the route of "If I don't have to pay for it, then I don't care"

I am with Rinchan though, I don't like a lot of the slogan clothing that is marketed to infants and toddlers at the moment, Sash was given a tshirt for his last birthday that has "ladies man" on it and I just find it so horribly tacky, it is buried in his drawers underneath all his other clothes. Not a fan of the princess-y stuff either, fortunately all my girls were already too old for that fad when it came out, and whilst clothes with princess slogans do exist in their sizes, Sunny wouldn't be caught dead in something "so childish" (her words) and Lux is a real tomboy and won't wear pink if her life depended on it.
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July 4th, 2012, 02:49 PM
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Scarlett is still a baby, but we do have some rules we plan to follow when it comes to clothes. DH and I both find it very disturbing to see young girls (or anyone for that matter) in things like mini skirts or low cut tops. Shirts that show the tummy are a no no. I also am not a fan of the trend of wearing cotton shorts with the waist band rolled down several times to make the shorts ride up their rear. I don't want to see that much leg on a child. Who lets their daughter go out in public like that in today's world??

We were walking through a store just the other day and saw thongs in the GIRLS department as we went past. Like for seven year olds. Really? Children that young shouldn't even know what a thong is.
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July 4th, 2012, 05:19 PM
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I usually try to keep Jace in 100% cotton clothing, and stay away from polyester or other blends.
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July 4th, 2012, 09:51 PM
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I don't really have any restrictions. I let ds1 pick out his own clothes. I don't do the "my mom's hot" stuff or anything. My kids are allowed to play in the yard naked and they dont' need to wear rash guards at the beach (not common here at all). If I ever have a daughter rules are the same. I think speghetti straps are just fine (I've heard many mom's of girls have a problem with them) as it can get into 100 degrees here, I also think skirts/dresses/shorts above the knee are fine too.
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July 4th, 2012, 11:31 PM
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If my daughter can raise her arms and I don't see more than 1" of skin she's good. If she can bend over, and her skirt covers everything it should. she's good. Tops will have to fit a certain way until they're in their teens however.

Boys have to wear clothes that fit. No low riding jeans, no excessive underwear showage. (DH says no skinny jeans, but I'm a bit more liberal lol).
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July 5th, 2012, 06:18 AM
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I get a lot of stuff passed down to me from other people, so as long as it's clean, fits properly and not holey I don't really have a problem with it. Of course everyone seems to have 30x more tops than bottoms so I can be picky with those.
I guess actually the only shirts they have with slogans on them are the ones I pick up for a few bucks at walmart for school spirit days, like the pink ones for valentines day or green for st patty's.

The girls are not even allowed spaghetti straps at school, so those are out too, regular tank tops are fine.
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July 5th, 2012, 10:19 AM
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No restrictions here. My 10 year old dd lives in spaghetti strap tank tops. She looks great in them so I have no issue.

There are some slogan shirts I'm ok with & some I'm not. The 1 I didn't like was a girl's shirt that said "I'm too pretty to study" The feminist in me doesn't like that.

My son is 6 so pretty much lives in t-shirts & shorts or sweat pants. I hope the low hanging jeans are out of still before he gets to that age. I will have an issue with that.

Personally I'm not a fan of long hair on boys. No particulary reason except I just don't like it. So until ds is old enough to complain his hair is short.
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July 5th, 2012, 11:26 AM
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I shave all the boys heads here, even the biggest boy (dh). If the girls complain too much about brushing their hair it gets cut short too. One out of 3 of them has pretty short hair right now because she is very sensitive about brushing it.
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July 5th, 2012, 11:30 AM
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I have the thought of "If she doesn't look like a prostitot, we are good." I am so sick of little girls in clothes years beyond their age.... yuck.

I kind of like that I LOVE cartoon graphic T's and Lily and I will wear matching cartoon stuff. SO is a rave DJ and Lily has "rave" outfits to match mine. I think it's adorable and age appropriate. I won't let her wear short skirts or makeup, and yes some kids were wearing MAKEUP in freaking 2nd grade last year. Yuck. Hell no, sorry, shes not allowed.
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July 5th, 2012, 11:33 AM
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We are long hair fans here. ds1 had long hair until he was 3, now it's a "normal" boy haircut. ds2 is 2 and still has long hair, it's past his shoulders. He looks super cute like that, but he'll probably get it cut next year. When they are older and wish to have long hair it won't be a problem. There are actually several long haired 20s+ men here and they look just fine.
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July 5th, 2012, 01:20 PM
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Our girls are teens already so we do have minor restrictions. Nothing too short, tight or low cut. DH is having issues with our eldests tanks but she's very blessed on top so she truly can't help it. Our middle teen is blessed in the back, so we have issues with shorts for her. She likes them short and tight, we don't so it's a struggle.
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July 5th, 2012, 01:47 PM
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DD is 3.5 and I completely control what she wears. I don't do crazy short skirts... When she was younger it didn't bother me so much cuz she had a diaper on. Now that she's potty trained and she had panties, I'm not a fan of them.
I do spaghetti strap tanks, and long dresses, that doesn't bother me.

What REALLY bothers me, is the bikini's! Don't get me wrong, they're kind of cute, but I just don't agree in growing them up any faster than they already do on their own. My daughter's ONLY two pieces, meet in the middle. They either show less than an inch of stomach, or none. I just can't do it. Besides, they make super cute one pieces so.

When she gets older I don't want to do low cut, too tight, or too short. If she's as blessed as I am in the chest area, I'm sure we'll have all kinds of problems.
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July 5th, 2012, 02:01 PM
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Our girls are teens already so we do have minor restrictions. Nothing too short, tight or low cut. DH is having issues with our eldests tanks but she's very blessed on top so she truly can't help it. Our middle teen is blessed in the back, so we have issues with shorts for her. She likes them short and tight, we don't so it's a struggle.
My girls are the older ones too and we have similar struggles. With my oldest, I have been trying to help her pick out her own outfits for ages as she would probably wear the same thing every day if we didn't say anything. My younger dd will be 13 this fall and wants to show off her body. She hasn't won that battle yet. The boys are good in jeans and t shirts most of the time. So far, no clothing struggles with them.
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July 5th, 2012, 03:35 PM
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I don't buy clothes for my girls that say things, like a PP shared. I don't buy character clothes unless it's PJ's, but that's just because character clothes bug me, lol. My girls' shorts and skirts must fit at a good length, and they always wear shorts with skirts. I don't let them go shirtless in public, even though they're only 4, 2, and 3mos. I also don't buy "bikinis" for my girls. One-piece suits only, with watching swim shorts as well.

Reading it sounds like I'm super modest. I really am not. I just don't agree with little girls wearing short shorts that show their undies when they sit cross-legged, skirts with no shorts because little girls are not discreet and should be able to play freely. And the bathing suit thing is just a sexuality and privacy thing. Don't want my girls' bits showing on an accident, or sexualizing them with skimpy bikinis.
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July 5th, 2012, 04:12 PM
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Regarding the tight tops of teens, I had to have a funny talk with DH about that, he did have an issue with everything DD18 was wearing that was 'tight' on her from the age of about 15 and upwards, his main issue was "She should'nt look more womanly than you" and that was frustrating for me honestly, because she is a D cup and I am an A cup, so of course she is going to look more 'womanly' than me, because, by that definition, she is.
Eventually he got over it though, I actually really feel for her in that regard, because people judge teenage and young adult females on their body shape, and so many people do seem to enjoy shaming girls who are big busted, and if that is the way your body has developed, then you can't do anything about that, and honestly, DD18 isn't much for 'provocative' dressing, she's more of a jeans and flat shoes kind of girl, she is a contender for the worlds biggest wooly scarf collection, but again, not provocative. But unfortunately for her, there is nothing she can wear that does not make her look big-busted and even some of the baggiest clothes end up tight in that area.


Long hair on boys, hehe, thats us. DH has very long dreads, and DS15 used to have them, but he has gotten rid of them, he has kept the long hair though, and DS4 has shoulder length hair.
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July 5th, 2012, 09:25 PM
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That's how it is for T. She's already my bra size and it took me two pregnancies to get to where I'm at. She was bothered by them for a long time, but I'm noticing she's starting to sorta like them now. Every time she complained about them I would encourage her by telling her just wait til she's older, she'll appreciate them by then and that ladies pay to have what she has. With Doni, we're starting to win the battle. It's been rough because her mom let her do whatever she wanted and wear pretty much anything. That doesn't fly with us, especially now that she's living here and we're paying for everything. We refuse to buy just anything and it all has to pass by us both before we get it.
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