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November 27th, 2012, 05:54 AM
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Okay first off I DO understand that sometimes you *have to* go.
Like a single mom with sick kids, no help & need toilet paper is GOING to the grocery store. I don't MEAN that situation. I mean like bringing your sick child to my Halloween party...or to a restaurant or wherever you do NOT *have to* go.

Is it okay? Wrong? Your thoughts?


I personally think you keep your kid home if they are oozing mucous or otherwise potential sources of infection. But I know that is just me because I see people all.the.time not following that line of thinking & sometime seven bringing their sickie to MY house & then becoming annoyed when I tell them NOT to do this. LOL
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November 27th, 2012, 09:14 AM
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I'm generally of the mindset of keep your sick kid away from my kid. She catches it, then I catch it and that just pisses me off.
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November 28th, 2012, 02:16 AM
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Personally I think anyone who is sick and potentially contagious should stay home. That means adults staying home from work or public spaces or anywhere they weren't invited with the knowledge of their illness (obvious exception is doctor's offices/pharmacies) as well as kids. I know it's not convenient especially to employers but I have a weak immune system so when that cashier sneezes and then hands me my change I'm probably going to catch it. A sick kid probably isn't going to have fun at a Halloween party or enjoy eating at a restaurant anyway so yes I think they should stay home.
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November 28th, 2012, 07:58 PM
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When at all possible stay at home.

Sometimes it's just not possible. I just wish when it's not possible that parents were more diligent with not letting the kids rub all over stuff. Nothing grosses me out more than watching kids maul stuff in stores with their nose running so bad their shirt's wet.
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Okay first off I DO understand that sometimes you *have to* go.
Like a single mom with sick kids, no help & need toilet paper is GOING to the grocery store. I don't MEAN that situation. I mean like bringing your sick child to my Halloween party...or to a restaurant or wherever you do NOT *have to* go.

Is it okay? Wrong? Your thoughts?


I personally think you keep your kid home if they are oozing mucous or otherwise potential sources of infection. But I know that is just me because I see people all.the.time not following that line of thinking & sometime seven bringing their sickie to MY house & then becoming annoyed when I tell them NOT to do this. LOL
A friend of mine last week had a child with vomiting/diarrhea. She posted online that she was taking her child to church and that she KNEW people would be upset and told people to let her have her choice. This was a RED FLAG. Why, WHY, if you think your decision is right, do you need to post a warning about it? Later that day, she posted again that her child did well and that because other parents brought kids with colds, she didn't feel bad bringing her child.

I responded to her and let her know that what she did was irresponsible and if MY kid got sick because she brought her sick kid to church, KNOWING that it was contagious, I'd be pissed. I don't care that "other" parents' kids had "colds". Other friends/family posted to her equally upset that she chose to risk others, so I know that I'm not alone when I say that it's just plain wrong to do that.

Once again, we're not talking about mom taking kid to the pharmacy because she HAS to, but church? She could miss one day. I'm sure God would forgive someone for missing in this case
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December 3rd, 2012, 07:31 PM
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We only go out if we absolutely have to. But we rarely leave the house anyway so it's a non-issue for us.
I'd prefer others do the same too, but I also know that for most there ARE benefits to catching others' germs. Even if some would like to believe otherwise. For people without a compromised immune system for example, they can help build tolerances to certain viruses and such. Not always the case for everyone, but I'd be willing to bet the majority of the population in this country does not have a compromised immune system and could very well benefit from getting "sick" from time to time. Much as it sucks when we get sick, it also serves a purpose.
So no, I don't get as pissed as some when I see sick people(adults are far more guilty of this than children) out and about.
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I definitely think that sick kids should not go in public. Anyone who's sick should not go out especially if it's contagious.
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December 7th, 2012, 11:47 PM
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A friend of mine last week had a child with vomiting/diarrhea. She posted online that she was taking her child to church and that she KNEW people would be upset and told people to let her have her choice. This was a RED FLAG. Why, WHY, if you think your decision is right, do you need to post a warning about it? Later that day, she posted again that her child did well and that because other parents brought kids with colds, she didn't feel bad bringing her child.

I responded to her and let her know that what she did was irresponsible and if MY kid got sick because she brought her sick kid to church, KNOWING that it was contagious, I'd be pissed. I don't care that "other" parents' kids had "colds". Other friends/family posted to her equally upset that she chose to risk others, so I know that I'm not alone when I say that it's just plain wrong to do that.

Once again, we're not talking about mom taking kid to the pharmacy because she HAS to, but church? She could miss one day. I'm sure God would forgive someone for missing in this case
Yeah - I have a special hatred for puke bugs. We just had one & have virtually been home almost non-stop for 2 weeks - by the time it got through everyone. When I did have to go out, I didn't take my kids.
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Lately, my older son is CONSTANTLY sucking on the sleeves of his shirts, the collar of his coat, etc. -- basically any article of clothing he can get access to. There is absolutely nothing I can do to stop it. Even if I take his shirt off of him, he just sucks on his fingers instead. So, what to do? He's not sick, per se, but he's definitely spreading his germs everywhere, and I can't keep it under control. I don't know what is up with his sudden oral fixation, but even his teachers at school have commented on it. I don't want him to get others sick, but I also can't see keeping him cooped up in the house all day -- that's not good for anyone.
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December 8th, 2012, 01:52 AM
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Lately, my older son is CONSTANTLY sucking on the sleeves of his shirts, the collar of his coat, etc. -- basically any article of clothing he can get access to. There is absolutely nothing I can do to stop it. Even if I take his shirt off of him, he just sucks on his fingers instead. So, what to do? He's not sick, per se, but he's definitely spreading his germs everywhere, and I can't keep it under control. I don't know what is up with his sudden oral fixation, but even his teachers at school have commented on it. I don't want him to get others sick, but I also can't see keeping him cooped up in the house all day -- that's not good for anyone.
You might look into chewelry. It is marketed for kids with sensory issues, but my older one loved it when he went through a similar phase. I think a LOT of kids would love one, not just kids with specific needs - but kids in various developmental phases seem to like to chew or suck on clothing & such.
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You might look into chewelry. It is marketed for kids with sensory issues, but my older one loved it when he went through a similar phase. I think a LOT of kids would love one, not just kids with specific needs - but kids in various developmental phases seem to like to chew or suck on clothing & such.

Unrelated to topic, but thank you for that link! I only own and wear one necklace, and it absolutely cannot be chewed on and I've always wondered if I'd have to never wear it when I had a little one. I'm so bookmarking this.
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I'm a librarian and see this is a lot, especially with school aged children. I don't know, there seems to be some want amongst some people that I cannot understand that if your child is staying home from school, even if it is due to being unwell that they need to be doing something educational, so they get dragged to the library even though they should be in bed.

I have only told a mother to take her child home once though, and that was because the poor little girl was asleep on the floor in the middle of the children's area, she clearly had a fever and was clutching her stomach, and her mother was sitting on a chair reading a magazine. The mother argued with me that she wanted her to get some books because she was missing school.

Sick kids in the pharmacy, or doctors office, okay, that's fine. Sleeping on the floor of the library because you have hang ups with your child missing a few days of school when they are ill, I will never accept that as appropriate.
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I work in my local school district, so I am around kids a lot. I believe that parents should keep their kids home when they are sick. I had one little girl in a class last week who had missed school the day before because she was sick. She came in late for class, the poor little girl looked awful. I let her put her head down on her desk, and I tried to keep her away from the other kids. She wan't able to call home, because I don't believe that there was anyone home she could call.

I think that kids should stay home when they are sick, however, I can also see the side of the single, working mother, or the family where both parents work and there is no one who can watch the child. Some parents can't take off time to be with their sick kids, so they have no choice but to send them to school. When that is the case, I just try and keep the sick kid away from everyone else, and make sure that everyone uses lots and lots of hand sanitizer.
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I don't bring my sick kids out on the main basis that they need to be home getting better. I can't understand why someone wouldn't keep their sick kid home at least for THEIR own good. Why expose them to more germs when they are already sick--their immune system is weakened and needs time to heal.

That said, many times no one knows someone is sick and carrying around the germs. I know when my son was in school, he would bring home germs and get my HUSBAND sick before my son ever showed any symptoms of being sick himself.
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I don't bring my sick kids out on the main basis that they need to be home getting better. I can't understand why someone wouldn't keep their sick kid home at least for THEIR own good. Why expose them to more germs when they are already sick--their immune system is weakened and needs time to heal.

That said, many times no one knows someone is sick and carrying around the germs. I know when my son was in school, he would bring home germs and get my HUSBAND sick before my son ever showed any symptoms of being sick himself.
My step son's mom and I get sick before he does too. She could be picking things up from her job, but I seem to get everything that's going around his classroom. So far have avoided the flu, but I did get the stomach bug.
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I have friends (she is an RN and he is a paramedic) who have an entrance to their house that leads into the laundry room. They have a half bath just off the laundry room away from the main part of the house. They come in that door after working, put their clothing in the washer, take a shower and then change into clean clothing. It was something they started doing when they realized they were bringing home germs to their child and the poor dear (now a relatively healthy second grader) ended up having several hospital stays for various illnesses.
As a mother of a precious little girl and the daughter of a woman who recently went through chemo and radiation, I come in from my job in the photo lab at a pharmacy and immediately shower. I toss my 'dirty' clothes into the washer immediately so I don't expose my girls to any germs unnecessarily. I know that there are cases when a child has to go to the pharmacy with a parent, but it frustrates me when the child wipes their nose then touches everything (or so it seems) while the parent goes back to the pharmacy section of the store. I know the parent thinks it is a good thing to leave the child sitting in the front of the store, but what they don't realize is that they haven't even cleared the front door before I break out disinfectant and start trying to get rid of all the germs that have been smeared on the countertops, the photo kiosks and the fabric of the chairs. I go through lots of hand sanitizer and disinfectant as well as Lysol when I can get by with it (I wait until the store is pretty empty) because I don't want their kid to leave something that will make someone else sick and possibly (depending on their immunity) result in a hospital stay.
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Unfortunately, it's not just sick kids that are out in public. Sick adults are often at work or out in public, too.

I completely agree that people and kids should stay home when they are sick if they can. Sometimes, though, as others have also said, it's just not possible.

My DH is a life skills teacher at our local school. We live in a very small town. He would love to stay home when he's sick, but sometimes it's not always possible. Many of his students have severe behavioral and emotional difficulties, and some of them are even violent. He gets kicked, scratched, etc daily. The school district often has trouble finding subs that are qualified or even willing to fill in for his position. Against his better judgment, he has gone to school sick before because there is quite simply no one to fill in for him.

His students also come to school sick quite frequently because their parents are not able to take off work or cannot find a sitter that is able or willing to deal with their child's special needs.

It's a vicious cycle. But he just tries to keep the room as clean as possible, has everyone wash their hands, etc.
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