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I have never heard of a surrogate aborting due to payments.
Usually ,the surrogate has to find another family to adopt the child or make a choice to adopt the child herself.
While the article certainly suggested that the surrogates would contemplate aborting the fetus, it is not something a surrogate would simply just do. Even under the most dire of circumstances, surrogates went into surrogacy to BRING life, not to take it, and therefore those who have had to terminate (due to medical reasons or IP's request) have not done so very lightly.
One case, a woman I met had to term due to the IP's baby was severely deformed. She did it and mourned over that baby. In another case, another surrogate who also faced a deformity chose NOT to terminate that baby's life, and the child is about 2 1/2 now with significant problems, but was adopted by someone OTHER than the IP's because the surrogate's choice went against their wishes.
It's a tough thing to get into, but if you're going to be a surrogate, you HAVE to be very clear in what you will/won't do, do your research even when using an agency since some agencies have been scammers (Surrogenesis as in the article, Hilary Nieman's office which did many legitimate surrogacies but then had a "black market" so to speak, and other agencies), and match with like-minded people. Some surrogates are desperate and some to make money so they just match with anyone and don't really consider what happens " if ". They think things won't happen to them and when they do, the ramifications are a list longer than anything anyone can fathom.
Contracts are also very important. You have to consider everything from insurance, to custody to termination to morbidity etc...
Many of the surrogates who get scammed do not do their research or match too quickly or with just anyone or maybe weren't supposed to get approved so just went with ANY agency that would accept them. None of which are the right or sensible way to do things.
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1 Girl 2011 and 1 Boy 2013. Their family is COMPLETE!