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  #1  
April 30th, 2007, 06:54 PM
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I struggle with this. My dh doesn't want me to remarry if something happens to him.. And I'd like to say that's fine, but then I wonder if deep inside he would rather I be happy?

I would want him to remarry. I think. I don't know! This is such a difficult subject. I believe in heaven, so how weird would it be if he had two wives to take?
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April 30th, 2007, 07:02 PM
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I can not say yes, and I can not say no. I simply do not know. I don't know what the future would hold.... and I can not just go ahead and say I would or wouldn't do something.

It makes me really sad just thinking about this, I can not imagine my life without my husband.
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April 30th, 2007, 07:06 PM
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at this point, No. But its not something I've had to face, and I havent even thought about other men. Those are some really big shoes to fill though, cause I adore my husband, he's my best friend, and not only do I love so much about him, but he accepts me in the ways that I need... I"m not sure that I could find another man that is willing to accept me as he does
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April 30th, 2007, 07:07 PM
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If the right man came along who loved my son and I, yes I probably would. I would hope my husband would do the same.
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April 30th, 2007, 07:07 PM
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I just wanted to add that no matter what, no one would ever replace him or the love that I have for him and our family.
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April 30th, 2007, 07:14 PM
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I can't know. If I find the right person, I certainly thing I'm entitled to be happy again.
Makes me think of my aunt. My uncle (my father's brother) passed away almost 20 years ago. A few years later, my aunt remarried in a very private, personal ceremony- we didn't know until it was done- to a wonderful man. They're even invited to every family event, even though the blood relative was my uncle. This man lost his wife and three children in a plane crash and I can't help but admire the way he has found happiness again. he'll never have grandchildren of his own, of course, so he "adopted" his wife's grandkids as if they were his own. He considers all of us his family, he's always happy.
I can't imagine how he'd be if he hadn't married my aunt. It wouldn't be fair to deny that second chance to another person.

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April 30th, 2007, 07:16 PM
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I think that is a question that is impossible to answer.

(BTW, for the question of spouses in heaven, look at Matt 22:30 and Mark 12:25.)

ETA: Oh, I just realized that while you said you believe in heaven... you might not believe in the Gospels... Not trying to start a religious fuss!
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April 30th, 2007, 07:17 PM
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I am done ... two marriages are enough. I do not rule out living with someone.
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April 30th, 2007, 07:18 PM
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I honestly don't know and I don't think I could say for certain until I was in that situation. At this point it is hard to imagine ever being with anyone else because my husband and I are so intertwined that it is hard to tell where one of us ends and the other begins.
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April 30th, 2007, 07:23 PM
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I think that is a question that is impossible to answer.

(BTW, for the question of spouses in heaven, look at Matt 22:30 and Mark 12:25.)

ETA: Oh, I just realized that while you said you believe in heaven... you might not believe in the Gospels... Not trying to start a religious fuss![/b]
I do believe in the gospels..

There will be no giving in marriage----but is it possible that those who were married on earth could still be together?
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April 30th, 2007, 07:39 PM
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I would absolutely get married again. There's no way I could go without sex and since I have kids, I'm not gonna be slutty like I could if I didn't have kiddos.

I would be very very very anally picky though. I have children who would need a strong male role model, and he would have to be nearly perfect. I also wouldn't rule out a wealthy man. I already married for love, why not get some cash flow goin' on.
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April 30th, 2007, 08:28 PM
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I would absolutely get married again. There's no way I could go without sex and since I have kids, I'm not gonna be slutty like I could if I didn't have kiddos.

I would be very very very anally picky though. I have children who would need a strong male role model, and he would have to be nearly perfect. I also wouldn't rule out a wealthy man. I already married for love, why not get some cash flow goin' on. [/b]
I just found myself giggling because you said "there's no way I could go without sex.." and then said, "I would be very very very anally picky..." LOL sorry, that was wicked of me..hee hee
As for myself....if I died, I've already told DH that if he found love again, then I would want him to be happy. I just would want him to pick a woman that would love my kiddos and treat them right. As for me, well, I have no idea. It would be terribly hard to go through the rest of life so lonely but I'm not sure I could find a man to put up with me the way my DH has. lol
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April 30th, 2007, 08:29 PM
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I absolutely would get remarried if I lost my Dh. And I would want my Dh to remarry also. I feel that if I were dead or he were dead we want each other to be happy more than anything. Not only that, but I want someone to take care of my kids and I would be so sad if my Dh were sad and lonely. And I have talked about this with my Dh and he feels the same way. Of course now the thought of my Dh being with someone else is sad, but not if I weren't around. Its not like he would be cheating and I want only his happiness.
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April 30th, 2007, 08:45 PM
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I wouldnt go LOOKING for another spouse, but at this point cause I'm still fairly young, and so are the kids, I think there is a possiblilty it could happen. They would have a different place in my heart than Joey, and I cant really imagine it now, but I've talked with some of the old ladies at my mothers retirement village, and they talk about how they loved each of thier husbands (if they had more than one and the other died) but sometimes in differernt ways cause they are in different times in thier lives. I hope I never have to know though. Joey SWEARS he'd never be able to get remarried.
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April 30th, 2007, 08:50 PM
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I would totally remarry. And my DH knows that too. He says he's fine with that... as he would be dead, so why would he care? lol. He would also want me to be happy, so yeah.

Even if my husband told me that he wouldnt want me to remarry if he died, I still would.
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April 30th, 2007, 08:55 PM
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I don't know. Obviously I would be devastated and it would be quite awhile before I would even consider dating, let alone marriage. On the other hand I'm only 25 and, assuming I live a normal lifespan, that would be a LONG time to be alone.
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April 30th, 2007, 10:15 PM
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I would absolutely get married again. There's no way I could go without sex and since I have kids, I'm not gonna be slutty like I could if I didn't have kiddos.

I would be very very very anally picky though. I have children who would need a strong male role model, and he would have to be nearly perfect. I also wouldn't rule out a wealthy man. I already married for love, why not get some cash flow goin' on. [/b]
I just found myself giggling because you said "there's no way I could go without sex.." and then said, "I would be very very very anally picky..." LOL sorry, that was wicked of me..hee hee

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April 30th, 2007, 10:43 PM
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A part of me would be completely ripped from my insides if my husband were to pass away. I don't know how I could remarry, but I suppose it's possible.

This is going to sound awful, but I might just remarry to be financially secure. If my husband were to pass away right now, I'd be alone with an infant and a baby on the way. That's not a situation I'd like to think about.
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