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  #1  
May 3rd, 2007, 07:19 AM
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Would you send your kid to a school where the vast majority of students were some other race (Say, 90% or more)?

What if it was about 50/30/20, or 60/40 with your child's race being the majority?

Or do you feel more comfortable sending your kid to a school where THEIR race is the majority (90% or more)?

What if the "other" school was a better school?
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May 3rd, 2007, 07:21 AM
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I would prefer to send Eliz to a school where there are more kids like her--however, I would be ok with it if that's not a possibility--which it is not here. The majority here are African American.
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May 3rd, 2007, 07:24 AM
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I send my kids to the schools for which they are zoned. If one of those had been one with a majority that looked different than they do, I wouldn't really consider that as long as the school's performance and overall quality was good. I'd like it if they have some people like them, but in no way would it have to be the majority.
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May 3rd, 2007, 07:27 AM
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I would prefer a school that had a good mix of people.

I won't send him to a school where he is going to be a minority. I have BTDT and won't subject him to it.
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May 3rd, 2007, 07:43 AM
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As long as the education was good, I wouldnt care. MY elementary school I was always in the minority. We lived in a very promident Mexican area and I'd say the school was about 20% black, 20% white and 60% mexican. I never thought it was a big deal. In 3rd grade we had manditory bussing to other schools and I went to a school where the joke that we were chocolate pudding with mashmallows sprinkled on top. Then we moved to a smaller community where there was ONE asian kid and ONE 1/2 black kid and EVERYONE else was white. (I think there may have been a few mixed kids, but still primarily white) and THAT was culture shock for me. I wouldnt send my kids to any one kind of school cause of race or NOT send them either as long as the education they were recieving was good.
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May 3rd, 2007, 08:15 AM
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I actually think 60/40 or 50/30/20 seems like a good mix, even if your child is in the <strike>majority</strike> minority. I live in a very diverse area, and the school we are zoned to send my child to is about 8% white. I don't have a problem with it. My only reservation about sending her there is that there are so many children in the school that are non-native English speakers, that I feel she may get overlooked while they are concentrating on teaching the other children to speak English. We are likely moving out of the district anyway, so it doesn't really affect me. Race has nothing to do with where I would send my child.


ETA: I accidentally typed majority when I meant to type minority.
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May 3rd, 2007, 09:05 AM
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I would prefer to send Eliz to a school where there are more kids like her--however, I would be ok with it if that's not a possibility--which it is not here. The majority here are African American.[/b]
I'm not trying to pick on you but that statement bothered me...Children are children, regardless of race.

I would have no problem sending Mattea to a integrated school...I grew up being one of the few white kids in my school and I never had an issue with it. Most of the kids at Mattea's daycare are black or hispanic.
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May 3rd, 2007, 09:13 AM
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I actually prefer that my children go to a racially/culturally diverse school; we're a multicultural nation and keeping them in a bubble would be a disservice.

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I'm not trying to pick on you but that statement bothered me...Children are children, regardless of race.[/b]
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May 3rd, 2007, 09:16 AM
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I actually prefer that my children go to a racially/culturally diverse school; we're a multicultural nation and keeping them in a bubble would be a disservice.[/b]
Exactly! The real world is not all white - why would you not want your child to go to a school that is so different from what they will experience when they go to college or enter the workforce?


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May 3rd, 2007, 09:22 AM
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I don't really care either way, but how the school interacts with the kids and their track record for education is what I'll look at. I used to go to a mostly black school (maybe 80% black, 20% white) and I got beat up ALL the time, JUST because I was white. The teachers never did anything about it, and we finally moved to a different town.
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May 3rd, 2007, 10:45 AM
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I don't think it matters what the skin colors are! If my child is being picked on or not getting the best education where ever she/he is then I would look into other options. It all depends on the school and what the students are like (as children not as skin colors!)
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May 3rd, 2007, 10:54 AM
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It depends really. Probably not, to be honest. I dont want my children to have to endure ridicule for being one of 10 white kids in the whole school.

For example, I live in Hawaii... there is NO WAY in hell I would send my son to one of the public schools here (if he was old enough for school I mean). Growing up, I've known a lot of kids who's parents were stationed in Hawaii and they went to the public schools and they were treated TERRIBLY just because they were "mainlanders". And since living in Hawaii, I've known lots of parents who's kids have been beat up almost everyday for not being Hawaiian, Samoan, or of some other kind of Polynesian decent. It's terrible.

...but it doesnt really matter... we'll be homeschooling.

ETA: I also meant to add that if my kids went to school, I would want it to be diverse. 60/40 or 50/30/20 sounds like a good mix to me. My high school was in a military town... the majority was white, but there were also TONS of Polynesians, Asians, and Latinos (southern California).
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May 3rd, 2007, 10:56 AM
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My kids will go to the district we are zoned for which happens to be the same district that I went to. It is about 40/40/20. I wouldn't move or send my child somewhere else so that they were able to attend school with only people of the same skin color.
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May 3rd, 2007, 10:59 AM
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I would prefer to send Eliz to a school where there are more kids like her--however, I would be ok with it if that's not a possibility--which it is not here. The majority here are African American.[/b]
I'm not trying to pick on you but that statement bothered me...Children are children, regardless of race.
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You are right.. But it's not about that. It's because if Eliz were the only one white child in a school with 500 black children---she may be picked on, have difficulty understanding her own culture--and so on. I would prefer she go to a diverse school--I just don't want her to be in a situation that could cause her to be uncomfortable.
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May 3rd, 2007, 11:07 AM
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I would prefer to send Eliz to a school where there are more kids like her--however, I would be ok with it if that's not a possibility--which it is not here. The majority here are African American.[/b]
I'm not trying to pick on you but that statement bothered me...Children are children, regardless of race.
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You are right.. But it's not about that. It's because if Eliz were the only one white child in a school with 500 black children---she may be picked on, have difficulty understanding her own culture--and so on. I would prefer she go to a diverse school--I just don't want her to be in a situation that could cause her to be uncomfortable.
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May 3rd, 2007, 11:35 AM
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I actually prefer that my children go to a racially/culturally diverse school; we're a multicultural nation and keeping them in a bubble would be a disservice.

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I'm not trying to pick on you but that statement bothered me...Children are children, regardless of race.[/b]
ITA!!!!
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I agree with this... I was raised in the south and use to SEE the KKK walk through the towns... Would I send my children to a prominent school by other races... YES.... We have no choice overseas... they go where they go... race is not an issue anymore... people are
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May 3rd, 2007, 11:55 AM
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We actually sent Dani to a preschool where she was the ONLY white child, let alone the only jewish child. Dani didn't seem to mind, and I certainly did not. It wasn't on purpose, it was just an excellent preschool.

We did change schools though because the in-laws wanted Dani to go to a jewish preschool and offered to pay for half of her tuition. I love her preschool now. But I also loved the one she was in before.

At this point in her life, I am more worried about the care she is getting versus the education, so as long as my child is cared for and loved, I'm a happy camper and couldn't care less who else is in her class with her.
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May 3rd, 2007, 12:07 PM
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Nope, I wouldnt. When we lived in Hawaii I didnt send my kids to school because they got teased all the time just playing in our front yard. Even at our church they got teased. I didnt want them to deal with that everyday, and it got to be so bad that we actually decided to move back. (But I miss Hawaii terribly ) Kids are just cruel sometimes.
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May 3rd, 2007, 12:10 PM
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Nope, I wouldnt. When we lived in Hawaii I didnt send my kids to school because they got teased all the time just playing in our front yard. Even at our church they got teased. I didnt want them to deal with that everyday, and it got to be so bad that we actually decided to move back. (But I miss Hawaii terribly ) Kids are just cruel sometimes.[/b]
Exactly what I was saying. Hawaii is actually a rather racist place, IMO.
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