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May 7th, 2007, 12:02 PM
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I have had this conversation, at least a form of it, before with someone else. They maintained that they did not know me (we know each other online only) and therefore did not need to respect me, while I believed that all people deserved at least a basic amount of respect. I thought on it long and hard and, in the end, I can see where he was coming from. There are two kinds of respect, IMO - respect that you give someone you hold in high esteem, and common respect/consideration/courtesy which falls under the Golden Rule and is just treating people decently. Somewhere along the line, the two seem to have gotten jumbled into one, and there are people that have begun to think like the guy I was talking to - that they don't need to show ANY respect because they do not hold a person in high regard.

I agree with the escort in the OP story, as well as coughburp. Everyone deserves at least a little common courtesy, and if you don't give it to people you can't expect to receive it in return.
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May 7th, 2007, 12:08 PM
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Is there a difference between respect and consideration? Do we owe each other either? Are we entitled to either?[/b]
Hmm.. I don't know if there is a difference.. They seem really entwined to me. So I'm going to look them up to see if there is a difference I'm forgetting...

respect
1 : a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation <remarks having respect to an earlier plan>
2 : an act of giving particular attention : CONSIDERATION
3 a : high or special regard : ESTEEM b : the quality or state of being esteemed c plural : expressions of respect or deference <paid our respects>
4 : PARTICULAR, DETAIL <a good plan in some respects> source


consideration
1 : continuous and careful thought <after long consideration he agreed to their requests>
2 a : a matter weighed or taken into account when formulating an opinion or plan <economic considerations forced her to leave college> b : a taking into account
3 : thoughtful and sympathetic regard
4 : an opinion obtained by reflection
5 : ESTEEM, REGARD <the family built themselves a large, ugly villa...and became people of consideration -- V. S. Pritchett>
6 a : RECOMPENSE, PAYMENT <a consideration paid for legal services> b : the inducement to a contract or other legal transaction; specifically : an act or forbearance or the promise thereof done or given by one party in return for the act or promise of another source

Well, if a person isn't putting any thought into another that is inconsiderate and disrespectful so I don't see a difference! (That puts the lame factor at a level two.)

That whole situation makes me sad. Did she plan on going to PP and thought he was a pro-life protestor harassing her? Did she know full well who he was, and thought his job was revolting? Was she just a scared women being approached by a strange man?

I do wish we all gave respect to each human being. I'm glad you helped him.
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May 7th, 2007, 12:47 PM
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That story makes me so sad.

I agree with Ms. Michelle.... I think respect and consideration are the same thing.
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May 7th, 2007, 01:17 PM
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i DO think there is a difference. I've always been of the believe that respect is earned. HOWEVER, i also believe that everyone deserves common courtesy and consideration until they've proven otherwise. So, i suppose we can get all technical with what each term truly means, but yes... in daily life, everyone deserves respect. That's on a different level though, than someone we truly know and admire, who has EARNED their respect.

And yes, my words are a jumble too, and i don't know if they make much sense either...
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May 7th, 2007, 01:24 PM
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i DO think there is a difference. I've always been of the believe that respect is earned. HOWEVER, i also believe that everyone deserves common courtesy and consideration until they've proven otherwise. So, i suppose we can get all technical with what each term truly means, but yes... in daily life, everyone deserves respect. That's on a different level though, than someone we truly know and admire, who has EARNED their respect.

And yes, my words are a jumble too, and i don't know if they make much sense either... [/b]
Ditto, I know exactly what you are saying and I feel the same way There are levels of respect for me. You get 1st respect off the bat, and then as time goes on, I come to hold you up high on my respect level.
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May 7th, 2007, 01:48 PM
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Is there a difference between respect and consideration? Do we owe each other either? Are we entitled to either?[/b]
Personally I think that consideratio nis a sign of respect and yes, we're all entitled to it. I used to believe that respect had to be earned, but my mind has changed a lot, actually thanks to these debates I think that just for being peole, we inherently deserve respect. It's up to us and our actions to keep that respect, but at first, it's something we should offer to all without them doing anything to earn it.
If this woman had an issue, then it's her problem and it was inconsiderate AND disrespectful to take her issues on a person that's not doing anything wrong. Of course, that woman lost her right tio respect at that very instant.

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I'll have to say that I agree with the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." If you expect respect and consideration then you must show respect and consideration.[/b]
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May 7th, 2007, 03:43 PM
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Is there a difference between respect and consideration? Do we owe each other either? Are we entitled to either?[/b]
Personally I think that consideratio nis a sign of respect and yes, we're all entitled to it. I used to believe that respect had to be earned, but my mind has changed a lot, actually thanks to these debates I think that just for being peole, we inherently deserve respect. It's up to us and our actions to keep that respect, but at first, it's something we should offer to all without them doing anything to earn it.
If this woman had an issue, then it's her problem and it was inconsiderate AND disrespectful to take her issues on a person that's not doing anything wrong. Of course, that woman lost her right tio respect at that very instant.

Sharon
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THAT'S what i was trying to say! Thank you! You have such a good way with putting things into words...
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