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May 8th, 2007, 09:57 AM
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With mothers day coming up it got me thinking.
What do you all do for the ex from the child on holidays?
Do you send a card or gift from the child, have them make something, etc.?
Do you think it's your resonsibility to do these things?

Personally I sent an Easter card with pictures, a father-to-be card last fathers day, and will continue to do these things even though I never receive a thanks, nor a card on my holidays. Last year the ex's family all went out to eat for mothers day, and I wasn't even invited, this year same thing. I'd like to say I send the gifts to be nice, but really I do it just to make sure he feels like an ##### everytime he gets it and then doesn't do anything for me in return Well and it's the right thing to do, and I know Karma is is a ******!!
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May 8th, 2007, 10:25 AM
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I don't think it is your "duty" to do anything. If you are still very friendly with the ex then it would be a nice thing to do, but shouldn't be expected. IMO.
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May 8th, 2007, 11:35 AM
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I am going ot find out this mother's day what it's going ot be like for me.......and I'm pretty sure it's going to be just like yours......I have bought mother's day cards for both my mom and His mom from Shyla......and I'm pretty sure I won't get anything. He can even remember his own birthday or Shyla's for that matter....But like you I'm going to keep doing what I know is right for Shyla to have the connection between both families.....Mine and his. It's for her sake not anyone elses....and as long as I get to see her smile at me on a daily bases I know I'm loved for all I do for her. And that's all I will ever really need.
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May 8th, 2007, 11:37 AM
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I am going ot find out this mother's day what it's going ot be like for me.......and I'm pretty sure it's going to be just like yours......I have bought mother's day cards for both my mom and His mom from Shyla......and I'm pretty sure I won't get anything. He can even remember his own birthday or Shyla's for that matter....But like you I'm going to keep doing what I know is right for Shyla to have the connection between both families.....Mine and his. It's for her sake not anyone elses....and as long as I get to see her smile at me on a daily bases I know I'm loved for all I do for her. And that's all I will ever really need.[/b]
ITA. I'm sorry you are in that situation. Trust me I know how bad it sucks..... but in some cases it's better to take the high road, and we'll know we are doing the right thing for our children. the guilt that the ex must feel is an extra added bonus!
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May 8th, 2007, 12:38 PM
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It is up to the boys if they make something for either of us at school. Otherwise it is up to his spouse as well as mine if we receive additional things.

Have to share: Gabe (my oldest) went to a Garage Sale two weekends ago and bought stuff for me for Mother's Day. The only problem he has is he can not wait and gives me something every other day. Too cute!!!
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May 8th, 2007, 06:29 PM
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Christian is old enough to make his own choice on what he wants to do. He hasn't even said a thing about sending his mom anything for mothers day(and he knows he can), but then again she hardly ever has contact with him. Maybe twice a year. I can understand why he feels the way he does.
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