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View Poll Results: How old is too old for nudity within the family
Toddler 2-3 5 13.16%
Preschooler 3-5 6 15.79%
Young school age 5-7 5 13.16%
Prepubescent 7-10 0 0%
When the child shown signs of puberty 3 7.89%
It's appropriate as long as the child is comfortable 19 50.00%
Voters: 38. You may not vote on this poll

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May 12th, 2007, 11:38 AM
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As I was taking a bath with my baby girl the other day, my 3 year old son came running in and stripped down to get in with us. Then my 4 year old daughter and 5 year old son wanted to come in too but I said there was no room, last time we were all just elbowing and kicking each other and it frightened the baby. There just isn't enough room now that they are getting bigger. Which made me think, since they are getting big, are they also getting too old to take baths with me, or together? I can't remember at what age I last saw my mom undressed - I think my closest in age brother and I bathed together until maybe around 9 and 10. My daughter has showered with me and/or hubby - she is 4 now and I wonder when we should stop that - what is the norm? Is there a norm? WDYT?
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May 12th, 2007, 11:43 AM
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I think as long as the kids don't mind, its just fine. My mom STILL will come out naked in front of me (and I'm 34). I can't remember the last time I saw dad naked (it's been a long time). Seeing a parent (or family member) of the opposite sex to me might be strange, but still not inappropriate.
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May 12th, 2007, 12:04 PM
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I think it depends on the sex of the child.My daughter is 7 and she still showers with me,but I dont do the same with my son (hes 10).I just dont feel right because hes at an age where he is starting to feel curiosity about the naked body.
We are surrounded by the beach,and hell always point out the women who are topless,so I think being naked infront of him now would be very inappropriate and I dont feel comfortable.I dont let him in the room when I am changing and I dont bother him when he is showering either and its been like that since hes about 8 years old.
My daughter and I have the same anatomy (obviously lol),so I wont ever feel uncomfortable about being naked around her,just as I dont feel uncomfortable about being naked around my own mother kwim? And what I mean by that is,I wont ever feel strange about her seeing me change my clothes or going to the toilet etc
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May 12th, 2007, 01:41 PM
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As I was taking a bath with my baby girl the other day, my 3 year old son came running in and stripped down to get in with us. Then my 4 year old daughter and 5 year old son wanted to come in too but I said there was no room, last time we were all just elbowing and kicking each other and it frightened the baby. There just isn't enough room now that they are getting bigger. Which made me think, since they are getting big, are they also getting too old to take baths with me, or together? I can't remember at what age I last saw my mom undressed - I think my closest in age brother and I bathed together until maybe around 9 and 10. My daughter has showered with me and/or hubby - she is 4 now and I wonder when we should stop that - what is the norm? Is there a norm? WDYT?[/b]
I think you need a bigger bath tub!

It's weird how anti-naked we've gotten around our own. If everyone is comfortable, go for it.
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May 12th, 2007, 01:48 PM
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my kids and myself still prance around in the same room ......... Adam sometimes changes in the bathroom or another room but generally missy and myself walk around naked until we get dressed and it doesn't bother neither of us.

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May 12th, 2007, 05:21 PM
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I think its also whenever the kids and you feel comfortable. Like Joey hasnt changed in front of the girls in a couple years (like Julia was probably about 3) but I will still. Julia seems a bit uncomfortable about being bottomless in front of everyone, so we let her have some privacy, and Chloe doesnt care at all. (other than when she'll scream and say "dont look at my butt", and run away covering her bottom laughing but she stripped in front of everyone. it was SO to be goofy!)
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May 12th, 2007, 06:28 PM
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I think I would be fine with being naked around my DD but when she gets old enough to know what's going on I don't want her to see DH naked...I just don't want her to have any memory of her father's naked body kwim?
That said, she actually laughed for the FIRST TIME EVER the other day, when DH came out of the shower naked! I wasn't even there and I was so sad
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May 12th, 2007, 07:03 PM
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For as long as you BOTH are comfortable with it. It's the human body, its not something to be ashamed of. It's natural to be curious. We should celebrate our bodies and not hide them.
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May 12th, 2007, 07:08 PM
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My comfort level will probably end at age 5. I don't know why... it just seems weird even now to get undressed in the same room as my daughter (and she's not even a year old!!).
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May 12th, 2007, 07:14 PM
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My Mom never hid her nudity ever! It didnt make me uncomfortable until I was in late preteen years when everything makes you uncomfortable lol
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May 12th, 2007, 07:51 PM
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When me and Joey were dating he came over to clebrate the "new year" with me, and my parents went to bed. (I was home from college, so they really didnt care what I was doing and it was LATE! too late for them

Anyway, about 2 am my dad comes out in JUST tighty whiteys and stands there yacking with us. I was SOOOOO embarressed, though I saw my dad in his underpants all the time. I think I'd have nightmares if I saw him naked though. Generally speaking I think sometimes a mans body is not as well tollerated as a womans body for the opposite sex. I think its a bit weird when they get to the teenage years, but whatever.

Oh, and my mom will still change in front of me. Not prance around naked, but will change. I just dont pay attention and everything is fine. You shower with people of the same sex together at the "Y" and in High School a lot, so what the diff at home with THAT?? (yet again, differnet sexes seem a bit odd when you get older)
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May 12th, 2007, 08:07 PM
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I don't think I'll ever feel uncomfortable being naked around DD, as long as she is comfortable. My mom has always undressed in front of me or walked around naked and it never bothered me - except when one of my exes was over and she walked into the kitchen in only underwear in the middle of the night She had been asleep and didn't know that he was still there. That was embarassing!
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May 12th, 2007, 08:47 PM
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I used to have a problem getting naked in front of the dog... but when I was in labor my modesty flew out the window and ran away. My mother hadn't even seen my breasts, let alone my vagina, since I was probably 10 or younger until I was giving birth. As far as being nude in front of my DD I don't have a problem with it now and I don't foresee ever having a problem with it as long as she is comfortable but who knows. I think as long as everyone is comfortable its no big deal.

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May 12th, 2007, 09:06 PM
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I think it also has to do with the sex of the child. I would be more comfortable being naked in front of my daughter for a longer period of time, than I would in front of my son and vise versa for my future husband. Liek another poster said, I wouldnt want my sons first female memory being his mom lol.. or the other way around for my daughter.
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May 13th, 2007, 03:10 AM
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I am a single mom so me being naked probably won't be a problem... since I really am NOT looking for love...AT ALL... but the girls dad DOES NOT get naked around them... he won't... its just him though... he is a single dad and it freaks him out... he tells me out the time how it freaks him out.
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May 13th, 2007, 07:29 AM
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I'm just kinda shocked that there is actually some people who feel uncomfortable being naked in front of thier 2-3 yr old. Thats still practically a baby!
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May 13th, 2007, 07:48 AM
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I'm just kinda shocked that there is actually some people who feel uncomfortable being naked in front of thier 2-3 yr old. Thats still practically a baby! [/b]

I've had friends whose husbands wouldn't change their daughters diapers because it made them feel weird. I couldn't wrap my head around that....
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May 13th, 2007, 07:53 AM
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He just feels uncomfortable... plus when she was 3 she pulled on his wanker and said Daddy what is this... so from then on he has been really hidden about nudity... its just him... I don't blame him...
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May 13th, 2007, 07:56 AM
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I guess I can see how a person themselves may feel weird, but to think its inappropriate? (which is what the OP asked)

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May 13th, 2007, 08:05 AM
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Well I remember when my grandpa died....that was about 3 weeks before I turned 2!!! So I don't really want my daughter to remember anything about her dad's private area, I just think that is wierd.
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