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  #1  
May 12th, 2007, 08:41 PM
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Check out this billboard:

http://abcnews.go.com/TheLaw/story?id=3147...TC-RSSFeeds0312

Thoughts? I don't like it.
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May 12th, 2007, 08:52 PM
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Ugh that is beyond distasteful! I don't think I can even find words!
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May 12th, 2007, 08:53 PM
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I hate the message and I hate the fact that it's pretty much porn.
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May 12th, 2007, 10:34 PM
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I hate the message and I hate the fact that it's pretty much porn.[/b]
Ditto! I don't think that I would mind it QUITE as much if it wasn't advertised in such a way.
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May 12th, 2007, 10:47 PM
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Definitely in poor taste, thumbs down.
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I hate the message and I hate the fact that it's pretty much porn.[/b]

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May 13th, 2007, 06:17 AM
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I wish these people had less time on their hands... people need to be helped with marriage not pushed that way. Its easy to get a say I want a divorce these days... I am divorced, and that billboard is digusting. People need real jobs if they can come up with this junk!
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May 13th, 2007, 06:42 AM
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That just makes me sad and upset. Marriage is supposed to be sacred, and should not be taken lightly. How just increadibly terrible!
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May 13th, 2007, 06:51 AM
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I guess I'm in the minority... I thought it was funny. If that billboard is the reason you get a divorce than you shouldn't have been married in the first place.
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May 13th, 2007, 05:28 PM
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"It's grotesque,'' said John Ducanto, past president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. "It's totally undignified and offensive."[/b]
This is my thought exactly. The slogan is bad enough, but the pictures hinting that you should toss out your spouse for a new stud is just disgusting.
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May 13th, 2007, 06:10 PM
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"It's grotesque,'' said John Ducanto, past president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. "It's totally undignified and offensive."[/b]
This is my thought exactly. The slogan is bad enough, but the pictures hinting that you should toss out your spouse for a new stud is just disgusting.
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May 13th, 2007, 08:26 PM
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Unfortnately that billboard just puts a voice to the notion that many people already have. Divorce isn't something I would take lightly, and those who I know who have had a divorce did so with a good reason and made very attempt to save their marriage. Sdaly, many in our society have the feeling that marriage is just another relationship. Heck...there are people who know they'll probably be married a couple times and treat their 1st marriage as a "trial" marriage. Now that's sad.

Besides...the billboard was put up by a law firm...need I say more?
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May 13th, 2007, 08:26 PM
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Wow.

Although it looks photoshopped to me.
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May 13th, 2007, 11:48 PM
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I think marriage is so hard these days precisely because of the opinion people have of it...I mean,we are being told to walk out on our partners at the slightest hint of a problem instead of fighting just because there are so many "fish in the sea"!?.
That ad is disgusting! Marriage is a serious matter just as divorce is,both should be respected...and what have two naked torsos got to do with divorce anyway? I dont even get that at all unless they are just there to just get peoples attention to the "real" message.(Like once I saw an ad that said "SEX!!! :and now that we have your attention..." etc etc
I know a few divorced couples and let me tell you that it was very upsetting and sad for all of them even when the divorce was a mutual desition:Divorce isnt easy or fun.Promoting it shouldent be allowed.I have always been told to fight for my marriage (unless of course my husband is abusive etc),because its something we have promised to work at for life,not just until we dont like our partners butt any more or he leaves the toilet seat up etc .
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May 14th, 2007, 06:01 AM
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Do any of you suspect that this mentality falls in with the idea of "you can't help who you fall in love with". If you can't help falling in love with someone, then naturally you can't help falling out of love, right? I once got a call from a woman I'm close to who was contemplating divorce after they had two kids together. I asked her why and she didn't have any solid answer... just stuff about "he's not the same man I married" and "I just don't feel fulfilled" and "I think we've fallen out of love". She was going to tear up her family over that cliched garbage! I told her that love is not always just a feeling, but how you choose to put the good of another person ahead of your own desires. She was floored. She had this selfish notion of love as what somebody else did for her; she had never considered the opposite could be true. (I'm pleased to say that they are still together and happily so six years later. )
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May 14th, 2007, 02:02 PM
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Do any of you suspect that this mentality falls in with the idea of "you can't help who you fall in love with". If you can't help falling in love with someone, then naturally you can't help falling out of love, right? I once got a call from a woman I'm close to who was contemplating divorce after they had two kids together. I asked her why and she didn't have any solid answer... just stuff about "he's not the same man I married" and "I just don't feel fulfilled" and "I think we've fallen out of love". She was going to tear up her family over that cliched garbage! I told her that love is not always just a feeling, but how you choose to put the good of another person ahead of your own desires. She was floored. She had this selfish notion of love as what somebody else did for her; she had never considered the opposite could be true. (I'm pleased to say that they are still together and happily so six years later. )[/b]

Awesome post!!!

Seriously, for all those people who think you can't help falling in and out of love with people, that it's somehow out of your control, I want to say, wow, I hope you understand that's not true before you get married!!! I would be terrified, getting married or being married and thinking that any one of these days I could just fall out of love with my spouse and/or fall in love with someone else, all beyond my control. I think the whole idea of us being at the whims of our hearts and feelings is a huge factor in the horrendous divorce rate in America today. Love is an action; yes, there are usually feelings of love associated with being in a relationship and that's great, but let's be honest, we don't always feel head-over-heels in love with our spouses and vice versa! Love takes work, it takes selflessness, and as long as we are putting our spouses' best interests ahead of our own, and vice versa, then marriage CAN be for life, and love can withstand all the challenges and ups and downs that come along. We've become so used to thinking that being in love is enjoying the effects of what our spouse does for us, that when the great feelings aren't there for a while people give up, instead of putting REAL hard work into putting their spouse first, which I believe is the epitome of true love. (I'm not saying this is the case for all divorces, I realize there are cases like abuse/infidelity that are beyond what I'm talking about). Anyways I have a friend who went through this, their relationship was always up and down but they were together for years and then 6 months after they got married she felt she had had enough, she didn't feel in love with him anymore, the feeling of being married to him wasn't what she expected, and she started having feelings for someone else. The marriage ended, and to me it was a classic case of what I'm talking about. So sad!!!!!
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May 14th, 2007, 09:04 PM
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As for this billboard, I just find it incredibly sad that some people might truly break up a marriage for, basically (as advertised) the allure of sex. If you put sex and marriage on one of those 2-sided scales, marriage would have the weight of a boulder and sex the weight of a feather. I guess some people just don't care to make good, quality decisions for themselves.

It should be clear by the name of the company on the billboard that the only people who profit from divorce are divorce attorneys, and they profit very handsomely.

My only other thought on this is that I HATE ads that cut the heads off people and only show the body. It's so degrading.
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May 15th, 2007, 09:34 AM
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I HATE it! As others know about my parents current divorce, this is so distasteful! I agree with the article, divorce is a tragedy on all involved. Especially the kids and this is a slap in the face to a lot of kids who suffer because of it. "Oh, the reason I am so miserable is because my parents life is too short and hey, they should just get a divorce." Stupid, stupid. Glad it got taken down.

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Do any of you suspect that this mentality falls in with the idea of "you can't help who you fall in love with". If you can't help falling in love with someone, then naturally you can't help falling out of love, right? I once got a call from a woman I'm close to who was contemplating divorce after they had two kids together. I asked her why and she didn't have any solid answer... just stuff about "he's not the same man I married" and "I just don't feel fulfilled" and "I think we've fallen out of love". She was going to tear up her family over that cliched garbage! I told her that love is not always just a feeling, but how you choose to put the good of another person ahead of your own desires. She was floored. She had this selfish notion of love as what somebody else did for her; she had never considered the opposite could be true. (I'm pleased to say that they are still together and happily so six years later. )[/b]

DITTO! I totally agree! My own parents had a lot more issues than "falling out of love", but yes I hate this cliche'! You know it may be easy to "fall out of love" when each person is being selfish and waiting for the other person to fulfill their happiness. But it is possible to climb back in. It takes putting the other person first.
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May 15th, 2007, 09:51 AM
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WOW that is just distasteful. I'll open up a little bit about myself. I am a divorced mom. My daughter was 2 when it happens so hopfully she will not be too messed up about it when she grows up. i pray everyday that she doesnt have to deal with the affects of divorce. The guilt I live with everyday just about kills me. If divorce was only so pretty as those bodies on that billboard, but its not. Divorce has been the HARDEST thing I have ever been through, and I NEVER EVER want to go through that again. Yes I am remarried but getting through it is so hard. That billboard makes me want to take a picture of kids who know what divorce is and put that up to the divorce billboard and maybe the selfish people of this country will re think it. Maybe I am rambling on but for once people need to put their wants aside and put someone else before them preferably their children. I dont know where I am going with this other than divorce aint pretty.
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