Update for those who remember me...

hubshope · #1 April 2nd, 2011, 07:38 AM

Hi Ladies, some of you may remember me...if not that's okay. I used to frequent this board, but after another BFN in November 2010 I gave up JM's for a while and just got back on a few days ago.

I just wanted you all to know we completely 100% abandoned all sway techniques and even praying for a girl (we mostly had when I was still here back in Sept/Oct and maybe a few months prior to that too), but since Oct we have just been desperately praying for another little baby.

I think I've found a "new" home over on the Secondary Infertility Boards, but I will certainly keep you all updated if we ever have our dream of Baby #3 realized.

I hope you all have had very successful sways!

sharlers · #2 April 3rd, 2011, 02:16 AM

hi hun wondered where you went lol i think you did the right thing to have a break i ve stopped swaying so much too i still try not to eat so much salt and red meat but dont cut it out completely ive heard people do the sways 100% and still get the oppisite to what they re after but im still trying to eat calcium type things and taking supps but more relaxed about things i hope you get your sticky bean whatever it turns out to be i have everything crossed for you hun please keep in touch

hubshope · #3 April 4th, 2011, 01:13 PM

Thanks. We so desperately want another baby...even with abandoning the sway techniques nothing seems to be helping...on BFN after another. We stopped charting starting with our Feb cycle, thinking maybe we were "stressing" on it too much... we will see if it helps.

I'm sorry I kind of abandoned you guys...I certainly didn't mean to and it was nothing personal. I was just WAY too focused on getting pregnant and it was making me so depressed to keep getting a negative. I needed time away to regroup.

kikismith · #4 April 4th, 2011, 03:03 PM

The best thing to do is stop swaying and obsessing over pregnancy. That was my problem when we were trying. Sending you lots of pink baby dust!

Alleghany · #5 April 11th, 2011, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by kikismith

The best thing to do is stop swaying and obsessing over pregnancy. That was my problem when we were trying. Sending you lots of pink baby dust!

Ditto. I too am hoping for a #3 & reaaaaaaaally want a girl. Sometimes, it seems the more I research swaying, the more frustrated I get and just want to give up all together b/c even the perfect sway can end up in an opposite. I'm sending you BFP w/XX vibes, Mama! GL to you. HUGS

kikismith · #6 April 11th, 2011, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Alleghany

Ditto. I too am hoping for a #3 & reaaaaaaaally want a girl. Sometimes, it seems the more I research swaying, the more frustrated I get and just want to give up all together b/c even the perfect sway can end up in an opposite. I'm sending you BFP w/XX vibes, Mama! GL to you. HUGS

HAHA I tried to sway BOY for months def did not want those XX vibes, lol. Speaking of doing a perfect sway, well we found out what were having ... and its ANOTHER GIRL. To be honest, I was very upset when they said "ITS A GIRL" I actually cried and then felt horrible for crying which made me cry even harder...lol. Im getting much better at accepting having another daughter. I really hoped to give my DH a son but our sway failed.

So I guess I'll be sending you XX vibes!!! Hoping you get your BFP soon, but pls keep in mind even in the perfect sway there is a chance you'll get the opposite, just like me.

Alleghany · #7 April 12th, 2011, 06:41 AM

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Originally Posted by kikismith

HAHA I tried to sway BOY for months def did not want those XX vibes, lol. Speaking of doing a perfect sway, well we found out what were having ... and its ANOTHER GIRL. To be honest, I was very upset when they said "ITS A GIRL" I actually cried and then felt horrible for crying which made me cry even harder...lol. Im getting much better at accepting having another daughter. I really hoped to give my DH a son but our sway failed.

So I guess I'll be sending you XX vibes!!! Hoping you get your BFP soon, but pls keep in mind even in the perfect sway there is a chance you'll get the opposite, just like me.

Yup...Ultimately, unless someone goes HT, there are no guarantees...I justify TTC again by thinking that even if we wind up w/3 boys, I would still be happier w/ 3 kiddos than 2, regardless of the sex. I'm so sorry you didn't get your girl... W/my 2nd pregnancy, I opted to wait to find out b/c I wanted to keep the dream alive a bit longer. My OB layed him on my chest and made me look to find out the sex. I was elated and so disappointed all at once. I felt really guilty for a while but realized I couldn't change things and just accepted my feelings for what they were. Looking back now, a year later, I am actually thankful I had a boy for #2 since my two sons are now best buddies and I think they'll be close growing up. Your 2 girls will probably be the same and it'll be good for them to have a sister to confide in, something I wish I had had growing up. Good luck to you and congrats on your sweet, squishy baby who will be here much sooner than you think!