Every time I think about TTC I think of a baby boy ..

I try so so hard not to ..

Also, I have a secret

J and I have agreed that we will be leaving the gender a surprise . I told him it would be nice because we found out at 18&20 weeks with our girls.. so since this will be our last baby, I'd really like to leave it a surprise, and he agreed.

Now, this is my real reason .. and it's bad and awful and I feel horrible about it

I don't want to find out because .. I know I will bawl my eyes out at the 20 week u/s if the tech says it's another girl. I will be extremely happy just disappointed knowing that I'm not going to have any more children and that I'll never have a little boy. All that matters to me is that our child is healthy .. I just want a boy so bad.
The second part is this :.. If we leave it a surprise and the baby comes out a girl, I can cry and no one will know it's because I'm disappointed.

Ugh. I just feel like an evil person for even thinking this way.

[HippyMomOf4]

Thats good though, i was thinking about doing that but i think if i didnt' get a boy this time we might try one more thats not for sure yet. If we do are 4th would be a suprise.

Ah I would love to have 4 .. But J would NEVER go for it

[HippyMomOf4]

LOL i don't think Chris wants to go for it but we will see lol

[.H.e.a.t.h.e.r.]

we're going to TTC again in March and I desperately want another girl. Unfortunately with the IUI we have a higher chance of having a boy and that terrifies me.
I'm the same and dont want to find out til the baby is born because I think when I'm faced with the baby I will just be happy to meet him.

Good luck, Heather !

I had no idea the you would be more likely to have a boy with the IUI ..
Why are you scared to have a boy ? (if you don't mind me asking)

I hope you get another lil princess !

[.H.e.a.t.h.e.r.]

Good luck, Heather !

I had no idea the you would be more likely to have a boy with the IUI ..
Why are you scared to have a boy ? (if you don't mind me asking)

I hope you get another lil princess ! [/b]

I think I read you are more likely to have a boy because of it being timed right on ovulation. I actually only know one person who had a girl by IUI but I know about 15 boys born by it.

Im scared to have a boy because we will fight about the circ. and I feel like I know what to do with a girl. I'm really girlie and I havent got the slightest idea how to be tomboyish. Plus the way boys are so adventurous scares me.

Hopefully we only have girls but I know I will learn how to be a mum to a boy if i have one.

I think I read you are more likely to have a boy because of it being timed right on ovulation. I actually only know one person who had a girl by IUI but I know about 15 boys born by it.

Im scared to have a boy because we will fight about the circ. and I feel like I know what to do with a girl. I'm really girlie and I havent got the slightest idea how to be tomboyish. Plus the way boys are so adventurous scares me.

Hopefully we only have girls but I know I will learn how to be a mum to a boy if i have one.
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Interesting, I had no idea !

I really hope you get another little girl .. I guess I'm sorta feeling those feelings too ... I will sorta be like huh ? with a boy

Good luck !!!!

[mommy2bstl]

I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HOW YOU ARE FEELING BUT I AM ALREADY PREGNANT! My secret is that although I tell everyone as long as the baby is healthy I will be happy---I really do mean that BUT I really want a boy. DH really wants a boy, because we already have DD. We did the shettles method but not as strict as we should have


We bed on Weds before my surge, then Saturday and Sunday my peak day was Saturday. I am hoping we have a boy! DH and his family will be happy and so will I. I am scared that we will end up with all girls. He already calls my belly "Jack" which is our boys name. I am thinking of paying to get an ultrasound early without DH to find out at 16 weeks instead of waiting until week 20! That way I can prepare myself! It is horrible I know! I just thought I would confess.....

[.H.e.a.t.h.e.r.]

Interesting, I had no idea !

I really hope you get another little girl .. I guess I'm sorta feeling those feelings too ... I will sorta be like huh ? with a boy

Good luck !!!!
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when I babysit my little nephew Im always apologizing to him because it takes me so much longer to change his diaper and he hates diaper changes. Poor kid I'm always like "sorry im used to the girl babies" and he gets SO mad. Its normal to be a little confused I think. I do want the chance to dress a little boy because I love to buy clothes for my friends sons so it'd be fun to buy cute little boy clothes.

[Tash]

Well, if you decide to find out and do cry. Its ok. I am sure you know you will fall in love with your little girl, once you get used to the idea. I felt the same way when I was preggo with Landen, dh really wanted a girl, and I was sooo nervous I would cry and be dissapointed if he itwasnt. I ended up being thrilled just to know I was creating a boy, and now obviously I wouldnt change things for the world. So just dont feel bad. I think you have a right to be dissapointed, but if you do an u/s and find out the sex, by the time the baby is born you will have accepted it being a girl, and will be thrilled. No time for dissapointments when you just had a baby. KWIM?

good luck!

Hi! I wanted to poke in on this one!

When we were preggers with Julie, we both just KNEW we were having a boy. We mainly talked about boy names, and though we bought neutral colors in the beginning, I still did it while thinking of the boy we would have.

I didn't want a girl. I had it in my head that I wouldn't be a good mommy to a girl because I didn't like shopping or PINK or princesses...

When we found out she was a she, I criiiiied. lol

Now when all is said and done, I really couldn't see my life any other way. Now that this next baby will probably be our last, while it would be neat to have one of each, I am really excited for either boy or girl, which is a far cry from how I felt last time!!! lol

[wtfomglol]

i want a girl!

[jenndga]

I feel the same way, but on the opposite side... I already have two boys and want a girl so bad that I already have cried some times thinking it's a boy. If it is, I may need therapy to get over it!!!!

I am paying to have the 3-D ultrasound done at 17 weeks (the docs say I will be 17 weeks then, but I ovulate on day 21, not day 14, so I add another week to be safe). That way I can adjust to the trauma if it is a boy....

I get some real criticism about it and yes, of course I want a healthy baby no matter what, and I'll love it no matter what, but that won't stop my disappointment if it's a boy just the same as it wouldn't change my elation and joy to find out if it's a girl. I am only human after all, and so are you!

Jennine

[Jessica2004/08mom]

Im in the same boat. My Dh is the last of his last name so of course its a big deal for us to have a boy. we have a dd already and Im not about to have 3 kids. so with this baby Im hopeing for another boy. Fingers crossed you get ur little boy.

[Jeb-O]

Im in the same boat. My Dh is the last of his last name so of course its a big deal for us to have a boy. we have a dd already and Im not about to have 3 kids. so with this baby Im hopeing for another boy. Fingers crossed you get ur little boy.[/b]

My DH is the last to carry his name too. It sure puts a lot of pressure on us to have a boy someday!!

[Skeetz]

Bubbaloo, I feel the exact same way. It will be my first child, but I need a boy. If they tell me I'm having a girl I'll be devastated. I won't deny it. But I have to know. I can't go not knowing.

[MommyForever]

I would really like a boy too, as I already have two little girls! We just started our TTC journey, here is to hoping!

[Trese08]

What is IUI?