Forum: Learning Disabilities and Special Education
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Hello ladies, my name is renee and I have not been on here in a long time. I posted once a long time ago. I really need some help with my stepson. He is an 18 year old who was not tested until just now. The school system had tested him before but they can't diagnose... The school knew spencer was special since pre-school, he has been on an iep since then and has received every kind of therapy in school you can think of, and still receives speech therapy and is pulled out for special ed class. in 2008 his iq was 70 his recent iq is 74 the doctor said that he doesn't have the right qualifications for mild retardation, and even though he has demonstrated symptoms of autism he doesn't believe he belongs on the spectrum either.... so he did say that he has a cognitive disorder.... so obviously i really don't know how to treat him.... I honestly think he acts more autistic.... he gives eye contact though. when he walks he bounces on the ball of his feet, he did hand flapping up until age 15 or 16. he has things that he likes to have with him... like in winter its his coat. he doesn't like changes in his routine, he doesn't socialize outside of his extended family. he wont go anywhere new unless he has someone he feels secure with right next to him at all times. up until he was a teenager he wouldn't wear certain kinds of clothing for example he would only wear khaki pants if you bought him jeans he would have a fit if you made him wear them something about the way they felt... but then he switched and it was only jeans and no khakis. only short sleeve t-shirts and so on. He has now grown out of the clothing habit. He is a very friendly very lovable child. He has 3 young step siblings. my 4 3 and 1 year olds. He has a hard time with them because he wants to hug them and kiss them every second he is around them ( im not over exaggerating ) he also has this thing where he needs to touch everything, including the children, he does it in a very for lack of better terms special needs way. he holds his hands in a way i cant really describe... regardless they don't care for the attention. when we try and show him a better way to interact he has temper tantrums. and there is my problem what to do with temper tantrum in an 18 year old boy. he screams, stomps his feet slams things, crys, growls, makes strange body and facial gestures, bounces around and so forth. he has these tantrums any time you try and correct him, or teach him something. the doctor said he thinks spencer may be able to live independently as long as we can teach him in very simple way repeatedly because this is the best way he learns... but if you try and teach him he has a tantrum. he also is bored constantly he needs to be stimulated constantly... like going to the movies, park, restaurant, something, if he isn't he act out negetively like trying to irritate whoever comes in his path. and if anyone knows what a beery test is please let me know, i may have spelt it wrong i hope not, but the paper work said he was at an age equiv. of about 8 i believe for that test. sorry so long. my husband and myself are very confused about how to help him in this area especially at his age.... thank you to anyone who can offer me advise. thank you.
by the way, they did put him on a med. for adhd which they do not believe he has. but they think that it may help him concentrate and behave better. we have noticed that it has helped, however only mildly... I believe the decision is going to be to leave him on this medicine for the meantime.