Expectations

fiefer87 · #1 January 17th, 2008, 12:36 PM

What kind of expectations do you have for your kids? If your have other children who are not special ed or learning disabled, are the expectations different between them?

lblackst · #2 January 20th, 2008, 06:40 PM

I want all my kids to make the most of whatever abilities they have regardless of their difficulties.

fiefer87 · #3 January 22nd, 2008, 09:09 AM

I agree. I expect Alexis to do the best she can if everything she takes on. If she fails, then learn from it and apply those lessons. I try not to have any other expectations, other than to try try try.

outnumbered · #4 February 15th, 2008, 06:10 PM

I'm expecting Devin and Bryce to be into sports. I'll be bummed if they don't because Hunter is absolutely not into them, and that's OK, but hubby and I were very much athletes before kids.

Also, hubby is hoping the younger boys will be interested in hunting. Hunter was named Hunter because hubby wanted him to be one.

Don't take my post wrong! I'm not going to push my kids into doing things I did as a kid/young adult. Every time I think about those kids that are, that Allanis Morrisette song keeps going thru my mind. "Sometimes...it's never quite enough. If you're perfect...then you're in my...love. Don't forget to win first place...don't forget to keep that..smile on your face. Be a good boy...try a little harder...that wasn't fast enough...to make us...proud. I'll live thru you I'll make you what I never was. If you're the best, then maybe so am I compared to him, compared to her. I'm doing this for your own ###### good! You'll make up for what I blew. What's the problem?? Why are you crying??"

Tammyjh · #5 February 16th, 2008, 03:31 PM

Yes, my expectations for all my children are a bit different.

For Abby, I want her to be happy and as independent as possible. I want her to like what she does and where she's at in life. I want that for all my children but as she has to work much harder at maintaining her emotional state, I would really love to see her happy and content in life.

fiefer87 · #6 February 18th, 2008, 08:52 AM

I know what you mean. Its so hard to see Alexis struggling, but I just try to remember that she is special in her own way and that we'll take whatever she can accomplish. We'll push her, but at the same time, we'll try not to push too hard. When that happens, she just shuts down and then we regress, so its a very fine line between pushing her to go a little farther and not pushing her too hard.