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November 19th, 2005, 10:52 AM
x_Emma_x's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I've been together with my b/f Connor since April 03'
On August 1st, this year we lost our first child at 8weeks, since then our relationship has just gone down from there, we seem just to shout at each other alot of the time, he seems to not want to talk to me anymore and just ignores what i try to tell him. I do love him i think, but i'm not sure he feels the same way anymore, he just wants sex..not a proper relationship anymore which really upsets me, on the 7th of this month i found out i'm expecting again, i've told him he didnt seem "over the moon" like he was with the previous pregnancy, he just seems his normal still shouting and generally not being a nice person, he makes everything complicated, but around else he becomes someone else " all nice" he just gets me frustrated, and i really dont need him to be like this especially now.
I've tried to talk it over him, maybe its something i've done..but he just walks away, we seem to have lost everything between us..he just says i'm difficult..i really thought i knew him but he has just suprised me, he used to act like he cared but now i'm not so sure.

I have no idea what i should do, try and rebuild the relationship...again, or end things.
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November 19th, 2005, 04:33 PM
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Hey Emma I'm from your DDC. Sweetie, this really sucks. Guys can be real penis heads...lol. Maybe the reality of being a father freaks him out? Maybe he's just not ready? Or maybe things changed.... If you are the only on in the 'relationship' I would say do what you think you need to do. Whether that is keep trying or just end it. Right now, you and your baby are what you need to think about if he isn't. My DH has been loving and caring and we haven't gotten into any fights since we found out. PM me anytime or AIM SRHK13 (ps, I knwo you are on the younger scale of life and so I am.)
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November 20th, 2005, 09:31 AM
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If I had to take a guess as to what is going on in his head, I would say that he is afraid to get excited about this pregnancy until the pregnancy enters the "safe zone". He is probably afraid that something may happen and if he doesnt get used to the idea or attached, then if something happens, then it wont hurt so bad. Try talking with him and tell him that you understand that he is afriad, however that is putting stress on you and stress is not good for the baby.
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