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A few weeks back me and DH were talking when he states "I dont know if iam still IN love with you" well that was hard to hear to say the least, and I really didnt expect it. Anyways we talked and decided we were going to try and work it out. Everything was going good for um lets say 2 days and now he has a new obssesion with going out and drinking at least 4 nights a week, while I sat at home. I think it bothers me so much becasue I can have our daughter at any time now and he is more concernd about going out and drinking then spending our last few days as the two of us before its the 3 of us. I worry that if he pulls this now, who is to say he is going to stop when she does get hear?! I dont know if he is doing this becasue he feels like he is never going to be able to go out and party again, or because he just does not care anymore. I feel as though I have outgrown him and I am the accepting the responsibility that is to come, while he is doing all he can to dodge it. I want to work it out, but I think iam the only one who does........
__________________ Jena mommy to Avalon 11-29-2005 & Eden 11-30-2007.
Have you considered counseling? They also have classes for expectants father to take so they can be shown just exactly what the expectant/new mother is going through and how to react to a little one in the house. I think he needs that. I know that my DH wasn't around much in the first year of our first child's life so when we had our second child he was oblivious to a lot of what was going on with me during the pregnancy and after she was born. We had a lot of arguments that first year of her life. But he didn't go out drinking or anything like that. He just threw himself in to his work in his office here at home alot and didn't really help out much. If I were you I'd seriously talk to your husband about what you expect from him NOW before the baby gets here. After she is here it will be all about her and it will be much harder to talk and the stress and lack of sleep will take it's toll on you.