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I swear....if I hear those freakin' phrases pass by anyone else's lips I'm going to have to strangle them. Seriously, gonna go beserk and have to beat them. Don't they know that those phrases just antagonize a TTC person...don't they know that it tortures us...makes us feel if at all possible worse. It sucks enough to have to face the reality that it might never happen let alone having to listen people say 'Thy will be done', 'God knows what's best for you'----SHUT THE FREAK UP!!!!!! I'm mad enough at God at the moment, ya'll don't need to tell me that His will for me is to suffer and cry and in the end still not have a freakin' kid. You can't tell me that God gives us the commandment to multiply and replenish the earth and then makes it freakin' impossible for me to have a kid. I can't stand the fact that God is giving 14 and 15 year olds kids and yet try to pacify me with 'everything happens for a reason' What possible reason could God have for giving a kid a kid. Why give them a kid and not me---a woman who is married, has a house, has money...goes to church every week---you can't tell me a good enough reason for me to not have a kid while Sara Palins teenage daughter gets herself knocked up. Why can she have a kid and I can't? Huh? Answer me God....tell me....why all the teenagers having babies born addicted to crack, being raised on welfare, left at home for hours and hours so mom can get a fix on the street.... tell me. Are you really there? What the freak did I ever do that made you decide that I can't have a kid? Answer me.
I'm sorry! I remember how much I wanted to have a baby and how I was afraid it would never happen. I truly hope that you get your hearts desire!
And I agree....how frustrating to see people who aren't deserving of a child and people who are children themselves having unplanned pregnancies. I remember when I was TTC it seemed like every week there was a celeb on the cover, pregnant. The kicker was Britney! aahhhH!
I feel so bad for couples like you, I really do. Honestly though, if you find the conversation going in that direction, just be blunt and say "this topic is not up for discussion". Maybe you can find a nicer way to say it
I had a friend tell me how him and his wife have been trying for four years, they've both been checked out, they are both fertile. He was so frustrated, I didnt know what to say. So I didnt say anything. I just let him vent. I think it made him feel better. I havent seen him in a couple of years, I dont know if they ever got pregnant or not.
When I read this I had to laugh. I'm not laughing at the way you feel..I'm laughing because I feel the exact same way, yet I couldn't put it into words like you did. Somehow we just got screwed. I'm not sure what to tell you, because Im in the same boat. I guess we just have to STAY POSITIVE..IT'LL HAPPEN WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT!!! EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!! God has a plan!
I'm sorry. I am going through the same thing and I know how much it hurts. I know what you mean. I'd like to add one to the list though..,. "If you stop trying, it will just happen." I can't tell you how many times I have heard that.
I usually am a lurker here but I wanted to say that I understand how much those lines can hurt.
I hear ya. After my miscarriage, I hated the overly-Christian people that said "Be happy cuz your baby's with God" or "God knew better than you did on what you can handle". When I was pg I got lectured by a younger co-worker about how new my relationship was and how she wouldn't want another child(She was 19 with a 2 yr old and she just broke up with her baby daddy). The day I was at the dr finding out I had a mc, she walked out with an ultrasound in her hand. She got pg by her newest bf. I was so hurt and furious. I hated her. She didn't even want a baby and yet she has one? I hated thinking about how well I took care of myself and how careful I was and I still had a mc. Yet there are women out there doing drugs, drinking alcohol, just plain horrible women that are getting pg and having a baby. IT'S NOT RIGHT OR FAIR! So I hear ya. Hang tough. Maybe one day you need to get a little snappy with those people and tell them their "good wishes" are more hurtful then they realize.
I'm sorry for your situation and difficulties. I hope nothing but the best for you. I don't think it has anything to do with God, either. Obviously someone who is supposed to love and protect you, wouldn't hurt you on purpose for no reason. Faith is a good thing to have and it seems to me like you have a mountain of it, even though you're upset (and rightly-so). I'm sure your faith will get you through this tough time and see you into a greater one. I'm thinking of you and your family.