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This may be my hormones speaking, so bare with me.
DH's brother, is being a pain in the butt! He used to be here all the time, the kids LOVE him to pieces, they love playing with their uncle (Who they call "Oh-He"... we don't know why lol) so, he's got a new GF, who is... I think around 10 years OLDER than him (give or take). But really, has a mentality of a 10 yr old (I'm not trying to be mean, just calling it as I see it)
A little back story, she has 5 kids (with 5 different dads) and ever since her oldest (who is now 16) was 3, every kid she has, Childrens Aid (equivalent to CPS) has taken them as soon as they were born.
So, while we trust him, we don't trust HER. Does this REALLY need explaination?
We'll ask him to come over so DH and I can go out for a WALK, thats all we ask for... and now, he'll say "Yeah, I'll be there in a bit" and then won't show up, or call... or answer our calls for that matter.
This is all because he can't just send her over for him, to watch my kids, because I won't allow her in my home. Mean? Maybe... but I'm looking out for the well being of my CHILDREN. The only people who really matter.
Ever since they've been together (all of a month, and they already live together!) he's been different. He's lazier, because he can get her to do everything for him. I can't even call him, without her answering the phone... even his CELL phone, which btw he never answers, even if she's not around, its like its hers now...
This whole situation is really bothering me. I don't trust her for a GOOD reason, and he's making my kids suffer. We'll be moving 3000 miles away hopefully by the end of 2010, and he's going to miss out. He'll be the one kicking himself in the butt for not spending more time with them.
I'm sick of bending over backwards for him (We've lent him $100 this month alone, as well as fed him, and bought him some food etc) and this is how he repays us.
DH is trying to justify all of this to him, but I'm done trying to make him a priority to my kids, when they're just an option for him.
(((HUGS))) You are totally right for wanting to protect your children from her and he is a fool for not dropping her once he found out everything. No way would I allow someone like that around my kids either!! He better watch himself as it sounds like he may be getting himself into trouble with her. I hope that reality smacks him in the face soon before you move off and he spends time with the kids before you move off.