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Heres a little background to the situation: A week ago my husband and I found out we were expecting baby #3. We were estactic since we have been trying since july 09! Well i started testing everyday because im one of those girls who loves to watch the lines get darker, well they didnt get darker they kept getting lighter. I went in to our clinic (i thought i was getting a blood test) they made me take a urine test first and it came back neg. i asked for a blood testwas refused one. After about an hour at the clinic I went home and tested with my last digital test. It still read pregnant. Well on Friday I started bleeding. It wasnt heavy just like a normal period, then it got heavier. I called the ER and they gave me the number of the doc on call, he didnt impress me much. He pretty much told me to wait until Monday. I started clotting. I took another digital test...NOT PREGNANT. I have been so heartbroken. Anyways, I have several obligations this week and im not holding up very well so i took it upon myself to tell these girls what had happened and that I may not be myself. I have one friend who (i just messaged over the computer) about the situation. about a year ago this friend called me while i was eating lunch with a friend and my 2 girls. She was sobbing because she thought she might be pregnant and was on her way to the doctor. She was devastated that it was a possiblity that she might be pregnant. I talked her thru it until she got to the doc. She called me a little later as soon as she got done at the docs office and sounded relieved the doctor said she wasnt pregnant. Well then i want to say about a week later she claimed she had a m/c to a bunch of our mutal friends...i guess that could be possible but thats not what she told me on the phone that day. I didnt question her or anything I just let her go because I didnt want her to hurt if she actually did m/c. Anyways when i told her about my situation and how heartbroken I was I took her reply very hard. She said she understood...how could she understand when 1) I think she made the whole thing up 2)she didnt even want to be pregnant and I did! Well then she posted all over the internet a message to the baby she lost...where I could see it and she knew I would see it. I couldnt even read the whole thing. I seriously thought I was going to be sick! Im just having a hard time i guess i hope its ok i posted this here.
I am so so sorry for your loss. It's so incredibly hard, I know. I also know it gets easier with time. Just give yourself lots and lots of time. And try to keep up with people that can sympathize and be good to you right now. Avoid the ones that either dont get it or not very compassionate...ya know?