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This has been on my mind a few days now, so I thought I'd air it out. Sometimes it feels good to vent.
It involves my SO's parents. Right now all I can think is "Who do they think they are?"
As you can see from my ticker...we're expecting. The pregnancy was completely unplanned, but we were thrilled none the less. Reactions from both are parents weren't great, but for the most part, they've come around. James and I are not married, nor do we plan on getting married anytime real soon. We've both been there, done that, and will not get married just for the sake of our child, but will do it when we feel it is the right time.
Ok, here comes the vent:
Early on, his mother made some kind of snide comment about how this should be our only child. It really irritated me at the time, but I blew it off. She's very backwoods. She's also a very miserable type of person, you know, the type that never has anything nice to say, she's constantly just complaining about everyone and everything. I know she has a good heart, I see it despite all of her constant b#$ching. She loves her family, just has a hard time showing it. So, I chalked it up to her personality and tried not to let her invasion of our privacy bother me. Well, the other day, his father asked James if he was going to have a vasectomy after Brock was born. He said no. So then he asked if I was going to go on birth control. You know what? It pisses me off. First of all, the answer is, "Of course we are going on birth control." Secondly, how in the heck is any of this their business??? Who are they to have any say in whether James and I decide to have another child together in the future??? Why the heck do they care? The more I think about it, the madder it makes me.
That's ridiculous. It's none of their business whether you have more kids or not, and especially none of their business if you are on birth control or not. Sounds like they need to keep their noses where they belong.
__________________ wife to my wonderful husband David since 6/29/02 and mommy to Isabel Jacqueline born 12/31/04
Just tell them not to worry about how many kids you have, you'll be sure to remember to NOT ask them to babysit as you wouldn't want to put anyone out or anything!!! And then say, see you're off the hook, don't stress now k?!!!
I think that if it were me, I would say KMA!! What business is it of theirs what you do. I can understand them having concern for their son, that is natural, but to ask questions like that is a bit much. Tell them that when they can show you an example of the perfect couple/relationship to let you know and you will follow and until then buzz off!!