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I have had the 2 worst days ever the last 2 days. First, you all know about my kitten which was absoulutly sad. BUt even worse i just found out that my mother is having another affair. It's not the first time, but i feel so horrible for my dad. he works at the mine and gets payed like $25 an hour and never has any money because of her. she takes it all to pay the "bills", but they are always having the phone cut and heat. It's the worst thing to say but i think i hate my own mother. i had a really bad childhood because of her. she started to have an affair when i was about 6 or 7 years old with a 60 year old man...it went on for a really long time. my dad knew about it, but didn't leave. he just moved downstairs into his own bedroom. he didn't want to leave me and my sisters. she constantly brought her boyfriend into our home and was to busy with him to raise us. my older sister raised us, because she was to busy with her boyfriend. when she was around she wouldn't let us do anything with our father. she wouldn't even let him take us fishing. finally they tried at their marriage once more.
Now she has found herself a 20 yr old and he is a huge drug addict. his sister is pshyco and has tried to kill people, is also into hard drugs, and to top it off is a lesbian. Nothing against lesbians but this is not the type of person my mother would hang out with. Today my sister that still lives at home confronted her about the affair, about being a lesbian, and being a drug addict.....The worst thing is is that she didn't deny any of it. she didn't even try. If this is the life style she brought herself into, i know longer want to see her and am definatly not letting her be near Lacie...is this wrong of me???
If this is the life style she brought herself into, i know longer want to see her and am definatly not letting her be near Lacie...is this wrong of me???[/b]
It's not wrong of you at all. We all need to set boundaries... When we are hurting, we need time to heal. Setting a boundary of no contact could be one of the healthiest decisions for your pain alone. As for the drugs, that reason it all it takes for people to understand why you are choosing to distance yourself and your child from the "grandmother." Figure out the rest in that down time... hopefully we can be here for you and your feelings.