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I went over to dh's dad's house yesterday to drop off some money for a freezer we had gotten and i had mentioned that i got my car fixed and told him what was wrong with it. He's like oh yeah me and jeremey thought thats what it was (they are both mechanics).. Well if you knew it was sounding funny why didn't you mention something? Then he had asked how much that had costed me. I was like.. 900.. ( a friend of the fam. owns the car repair shop) He's like oh that sounds like some friend and then they started laughing.. Yeah well at least he offered to look at it.. I don't know why that made me so mad but it did. And his dad and jermey's brother started in how their son was almost walking i had to leave.. my brother and sister in law have never made me feel apart of his life.. I've never held him and he's a year old. I can count the times that i've seen him. Me and dh split up for a month (we were going through a rough time and dh found comfort in a female co-worker) (affair) and ever since we got back together about 8 months ago things haven't beent he same with dh's dad and brother.. I was so mad last night that I had to go out and sit in the car for a half an hour. I know I over reacted but I just want to be apart of their family.. Its runing MY relationship with my husband because I feel that he should be apart of his familys life and if they hate me so badly then maybe i shouldn't go out there anymore or maybe dh should find someone that his family likes better.. I know I'm acting silly but it mkes me so mad.. I am a big believer in good relationships with family and things used to be o.k. but its getting to the point where i don't want to go over there and i don't want my future children to go over there either..
Does anyone have any suggestions?
I don't think you were acting silly. Its really hard when your in laws purposely make you feel out of place. Mine do that all the time. It used to hurt my feelings. Then, I realized that there was no point in trying to make them like me. I was just driving myself crazy. And, you can' t change people if they don't want to be changed. I quit trying to make them like me and I pretty much ignore them too. I can definitely relate to how your feeling. Its sad that people act that way.
My MIL does the same thing.. I feel soooo uncomfortable around her.. and now that I've given them a grandson, I'm like, nothing now.. I guess we just have to learn that we don't have to like or be liked by everyone. I know it's hard tho, because you, like me, just want to be liked by them.. I always wanted a MIL I could be close to, but sure as hell didn't get iT!
Our boy, James!! Born February 18, 2006!! xoxoxoxox
Yeah tell me about it.. but its getting to the point where i don't want to go over there anymore and if i'm not good enough for them then my kid isn't going to be good enough for them.. kwim? That happend to my younger brother with my moms mom (she hated my dad) and always treated my brother like s***. So I'm not going to subject my children to that.. my husband has talked to them and said how he felt.. his ddad says no he likes me and wants a good relationship but nothing changes.. idk.. at least my mil is nice but my husband is to the point where HE doesnt want togo over there anymore either..