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June 24th, 2006, 10:20 AM
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Lately I have been falling asleep early.. really early but I cant help it. and the past 2 days I have he comes online and looks at crap he know I will get mad at, in the morning like this morning he has erased all the history in the address bar and clears the files.. and clears all the cookies.. I know I'll just get mad if I see what he is looking at, but it makes me madder not knowing! He knows how I feel about it thats why he waits till I'm asleep. He goes on these STOUPID sites called leenks.com and another dumb one I cant remember the URL. I'm so tired of why does he have to be such a flipping PIG!!!!!!!! I sware I want to go look up a bunch of nekid men pics and such just to see if it bothers him.. it probably wont though!! What do I do??
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June 24th, 2006, 01:54 PM
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i am sorry hun! but looking at a bunch of naked men prob wouldnt matter to him....i use to be this way, but i have dealt with it....we do it together most of the times now anyway. i seriously believe its just second nature to men......yeh as nasty, pigisg it is......MEN! lol

if they say they are not looking at porn or what not, they are lying about it.....men just do this, why i will NEVER know......hubby use to lie about it, until i found the porn mags in his car!!!!!!!! and sites he forgot to delete.....i was upset. but its just pics and a PC screen....atleast it isnt the real deal he is messign with KWIM?

i am sure he isnt doin it on purpose to hurt you. he is hiding to keep from hurting you....if that makes since.
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June 24th, 2006, 03:28 PM
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You know what that really took alot of weight off my shoulders you really made me feel better, thanks SO MUCH (((HUGS)))
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June 24th, 2006, 04:51 PM
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mine looks sometimes but he doesn't erase sites (and they aren't horrid as far as porn sites go) and when i mention it he sort of grins sheepishly at me. he doesn't do it a lot so i'm okay w/ it
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June 24th, 2006, 05:00 PM
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I HONESTLY just dont see the big deal.. you seen one hot girl you've seen them all.. it's just so hurtful.. and he's erased the history 2 days in a row.. it's like what are you looking at over and over.. look once and then STOP!
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June 24th, 2006, 07:02 PM
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My DH has done it too but I simply told him I would rather know what he is looking at than speculating. So he has stopped, for my sake. Luckily for him and the sake of our happiness, he is only looking at EMS websites most of the time...nothing wrong with that. But I know where you are coming from, it is just so hurtful when they hide things from you.


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June 25th, 2006, 08:27 AM
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Lately I have been falling asleep early.. really early but I cant help it. and the past 2 days I have he comes online and looks at crap he know I will get mad at, in the morning like this morning he has erased all the history in the address bar and clears the files.. and clears all the cookies.. I know I'll just get mad if I see what he is looking at, but it makes me madder not knowing! He knows how I feel about it thats why he waits till I'm asleep. He goes on these STOUPID sites called leenks.com and another dumb one I cant remember the URL. I'm so tired of why does he have to be such a flipping PIG!!!!!!!! I sware I want to go look up a bunch of nekid men pics and such just to see if it bothers him.. it probably wont though!! What do I do?? [/b]

There is nothing you can do sadly.. I have had this conversation with my DH a few times over the last few months.. He will d/l porn the delete it (but forget to delete it from the program history) and I find it.. I ask him did you d/l porn he will flat out tell me no.. So BAM right there lied to my face a whole other fight that is going to happen.. There for a while he was deleting the internet history nightly we have fought about that as well.. It finally came to the point where I told him that if he lies to me one more time about porn or cleans the net history one more time to hide something from me Im going back to where I used to live for a while so maybe he can see Im tired of having this issue..
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June 25th, 2006, 12:18 PM
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I have to say I don't think all men do this...I do think most do. I have lived with my Dh a total of 14 yrs & I have never found it in our history or seen a mag - etc. He's just more respectful than that - we talked about it from the get-go. I hate to see women live with things they don't have just becasue a man chooses to buy into "all men do it" and somehow feel entitled to that behavior. We have a great relationship & I am in way naive - so believe me - if he was doing it - I would know. I wish you luck & I hope he will listen if you try to set down & explain how it makes you feel. Perhaps instead of it being something you need to "get over" - it is something he needs to step-up about.

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June 25th, 2006, 05:09 PM
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DH looks at it on occasion. Maybe once or twice every couple of months. He doesn't try to hide it, but we also have separate computers so I wouldn't know. Also, it has never become a problem with us. I don't agree with the all guys do it line...but some guys do. I would sit down with him and talk to him about it calmly.

It could just be curiosity. It could also be a real addiction to him and he can't break the cycle. If that is the case you could invest in a program that blocks certain sites.
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June 25th, 2006, 05:42 PM
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Ugh. My SO has done this countless times. And it sickens me. Especially knowing what he likes. I am VERY self conscious about my body and weight, and him doing that makes me feel like crap. About a year ago he added a bunch of LOCAL strippers and other girls from his work that used to flirt with him onto his MSN list. That REALLY pissed me off. So I confronted him and broke up with him.
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June 26th, 2006, 09:11 AM
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I came home early from school the other night to find my SO looking at porn. He had promised me that he wouldn't do it anymore, but I know that was just a bunch of B.S. I pretty much got upset, but I am tired of worrying about it. He is going to do it whether I like it or not. He pretty much told me that. I have decided to just let it go. I think it is something that men are going to do whether women like it or not. All of the guys I have ever dated were the same way. I'd rather him tell me about and be honest then keep it a secret. Because he is a data recovery engineer so he knows how to get rid of stuff where I will never find it. That is what he was doing. Opening a temporary session where none of the information would be stored. So he promised not to lie about it if he looks at it. I think the lying and covering it up was what hurt the most.
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June 27th, 2006, 10:32 AM
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see my dh has a box of porn he has had since before we were married. he never looks at it. i would know cuz we work the same hours. well actually he might have started again cuz last month he got a new job so actually now we work opposite hours. the point i am trying to make is if it was just looking at pictures that is one thing. but i think it can change their behavior and lead to other things. it just gets raunchier and raunchier until it isn't enough to get them excited anymore and it leads to finding something more exciting outside of the marriage. this is my opinion but i have seen it happen countless times. i talked to dh the other night and asked if i could throw out "the box" and he said he didn't care and that he didn't watch it anymore. i believe him cuz he has prob spent a lot of money on all those movies and if he watched it he wouldn't want me to waste all of it. well this is just my opinion and i wish you the best of luck. it would also be the lying i hated most too. more than just the pictures. so i definitely agree with you on that point.
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